Minority women who struggle with dating...

[Anonymous]

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https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/race-attraction-2009-2014/

PP statistician here. It has actually been shown repeatedly that men rate women's attractiveness according to which women they think are likely to find them attractive. With African American women's repulsion for men of other races being well known, this explains much of their low attractiveness scores based on ratings by men.

Here's a cool finding (or at least I think it's cool): When we told men in advance that all the African American women in a given pool were very interested in interracial dating, virtually all of the differences in how men rated African American women versus other women disappeared.

Men are very worried about barking up the wrong tree and being harshly rebuffed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

Wow. I can't imagine being this racist.

Not racist. Just have zero interest in dating or marrying a white man. None.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

Wow. I can't imagine being this racist.

Not racist. Just have zero interest in dating or marrying a white man. None.

Even at the penalty of being alone all your life. That is something.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

That's exactly what people are talking about. I can't imagine choosing to never get married over marrying a white person. Besides the fact white people are extremely diverse. What about a Scandinavian? A French man? A man from Australia? They are all the same to you?!

I can't imagine being willing to marry anyone just to get married. I want to marry a man of my own race. There are many, many black men worldwide including the nationalties you mentioned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

Wow. I can't imagine being this racist.

Not racist. Just have zero interest in dating or marrying a white man. None.

you would rather just be a side chick to a brotha than a main chick to a white dude. got it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

Wow. I can't imagine being this racist.

Not racist. Just have zero interest in dating or marrying a white man. None.

Even at the penalty of being alone all your life. That is something.

I don't consider singleness a penalty, and I would hardly be alone. There are plenty of option for black women who want to marry black men. Plenty. Those who say they aren't tend to be the type who are picky. I don't mean picky in a good way I mean the kind of picky where they would excuse a white man for having the same traits they'd find fault in a black man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

Wow. I can't imagine being this racist.

Not racist. Just have zero interest in dating or marrying a white man. None.

you would rather just be a side chick to a brotha than a main chick to a white dude. got it.

No. I'd rather be married to a black man as most black men and black women are married to each other.

But thank you for revealing yourself as the racist you are.

[Anonymous]

If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

[Anonymous]

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I don't consider singleness a penalty, and I would hardly be alone. There are plenty of option for black women who want to marry black men. Plenty. Those who say they aren't tend to be the type who are picky. I don't mean picky in a good way I mean the kind of picky where they would excuse a white man for having the same traits they'd find fault in a black man.

This is actually provably false. There are not nearly enough educated black men for all educated black women. Unless you think wanting someone of equal education is "picky."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this were a white woman who lived in an area filled with minorities and wanted to hold out for a white man, would you so strongly encourage her to marry a black man rather than suffer the "penalty" of not marrying? Even though she said she was fine with it? Doubt it. You'd be on Zillow find houses she could move in to or telling her how marriage isn't all that great anyway. Check yourselves.

Preach!

[Anonymous]

I think AA women just don't place the same priority on getting married as other women do. Singleness is very common among AAs of both genders, so they are in the majority in their communities.

[Anonymous]

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I don't consider singleness a penalty, and I would hardly be alone. There are plenty of option for black women who want to marry black men. Plenty. Those who say they aren't tend to be the type who are picky. I don't mean picky in a good way I mean the kind of picky where they would excuse a white man for having the same traits they'd find fault in a black man.

This is actually provably false. There are not nearly enough educated black men for all educated black women. Unless you think wanting someone of equal education is "picky."

If you choose to believe the myths perpetuated by fact that's fine. If you want to marry a white man go on and do you. I will not be joining you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

I think that is changing in the millennia generation. When having this discussion with my niece and nephew, I encouraged my niece, while also giving my nephew disapproval.

what? you want your niece to hook up with white guys but don't want your nephew to hook up with white women?

Not that they needed it, but I gave her permission to open herself to date me other than Black men. Black men don't have a problem dating and marrying outside their race, but many of these same men become indignant when Black women do. I don't want my niece waiting and waiting and waiting for a hardworking, educated Black man because he is too busy wooing and dining the white and Asian women. My nephew does not have the same dating issues as his sister, so yeah.

[Anonymous]

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I don't consider singleness a penalty, and I would hardly be alone. There are plenty of option for black women who want to marry black men. Plenty. Those who say they aren't tend to be the type who are picky. I don't mean picky in a good way I mean the kind of picky where they would excuse a white man for having the same traits they'd find fault in a black man.

This is actually provably false. There are not nearly enough educated black men for all educated black women. Unless you think wanting someone of equal education is "picky."

If you choose to believe the myths perpetuated by fact that's fine. If you want to marry a white man go on and do you. I will not be joining you.

I am not a black woman and these aren't myths. Do you understand numbers? If there are x number of educated black men and y number of educated black women and x is less than y, plus x is made even less because some men are gay/unemployed/not interested in marriage, then there are going to be many unmarried educated black women. That is what you are seeing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:^I worked on a research project on interracial dating using OK Cupid and Match data. The results, which were released to the media and highly publicized, actually revealed that Asian women are more likely than women of other races to seek out men outside their race, primarily white men. This was measured by looking at how often Asian women initiated interactions and also followed up. They showed far more preference for white men than white men showed for them, and also showed more preference for Hispanic men than Hispanic men showed for them.

All in all, Asian women's success in the dating field is a consequence of smart dating, as opposed to men finding them more attractive. White men are both the most successful men in America and the most numerous men in America. Asian women are playing the numbers very wisely, unlike African American women who continue to act as if dating a white man is a capital offense. It is staggering how many perpetually single African American women I know who are approached by white men, but would rather die single waiting for African American men. They are simply not being rational about their own interests.

Here's an interesting and true stat: If even 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women, that is enough to get every single African American woman under age 44 married. And I can say from research and personal observation that far more than 5 percent of white men are interested in African American women.

Some of us don't want to be married to white people. Not all of us ar impressed by whiteness. Not al of us will marry anyone just to get married. I'm okay with being single the rest of my life I do not want a white husband.

PP statistician here. Oh, I know. Your attitude is in the majority among African American women. I can't say I understand it, but I'm a white man so I don't think we're that bad.

I have an attitude becaus eI don't want to marry a white man? I must think white people are bad because I don't want to marry a white person?

Lol.

Nice try at the guilt. victim card. You have been taught your entire life that you are the epitome of greatness and what everyone should aspire to be and your hurt when someone ay they don't want you.

We don't you dates, marriage or even our time. You don't own us as women or as a race.