Minority women who struggle with dating...

[Anonymous]

I know at least 4 minority women in my professional circle who I am so baffled are still single. 2 are Indian, 1 Pakistani and 1 Nigerian. They are all so stunningly beautiful with yoga and barre toned bodies, illustrious fancy careers and great fashion sense. Do minority women who are successful struggle more with dating?

[Anonymous]

let me guess, they are all over 30

[Anonymous]

Do you know that they are struggling, or do you just assume that's the case because they are not married?

[Anonymous]

Are they recent immegrants? I have been to all three countries and their cultures are vastly different than ours. Men from their cultures might not want the because they are too Americanized and western men might not want them because they are not Americanized enough.

[Anonymous]

Maybe it is them being picky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you know that they are struggling, or do you just assume that's the case because they are not married?

I do not know them that well. I see their posts on social media where they lament being single or still looking for love. Its astounding since they are so attractive, westernized and accomplished. I know 2 of them are extremely picky, they are looking for men who are more accomplished or famous than they are. They remind me of Amal Clooney.

[Anonymous]

Too many people set the bar so high they can never get over it. And as they get older it's tougher to jump. They may be westernized but in many cultures marrying outside the ethnicity is a family problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe it is them being picky!

we have a winner - and just to elaborate, they aren't just picky but they also probably have an extensive "list" of what they want, they carry around a F*!# you attitude and they think their shit doesn't stink. Most guys can see that attitude from a mile away and steer clear, unless they are just after a roll in the hay.

[Anonymous]

High maintenance...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know that they are struggling, or do you just assume that's the case because they are not married?

I do not know them that well. I see their posts on social media where they lament being single or still looking for love. Its astounding since they are so attractive, westernized and accomplished. I know 2 of them are extremely picky, they are looking for men who are more accomplished or famous than they are. They remind me of Amal Clooney.

Yep, they don't want to settle and I don't blame them. But if they're making 6-figures, they expect the guy they find to wine-and-dine they on a 7-figure income. Kind of hard to do and they're limiting their selection pool to boot. Unless they're going to take a year off from work and just search for a husband/wife 24/7 they'll be Amal at 38 and everyone surprised she's actually found the 'one'. It can definitely happen. Just be prepared to wait longer.

[Anonymous]

Yup. High maintenance is my guess, too. However, it's also a shame when a woman can't find a man because there just aren't any, in her community, that are at her career level. This is actually an issue nationwide, as women are now out striding men in terms of college graduation and employment rates.

[Anonymous]

I think everyone has friends that we are shocked, *shocked* have not found love.

[Anonymous]

(grabs popcorn) I plan to follow this thread, but first, let me add.

Ratio of men to women is def and issue that can't be ignored, add to that the large percentage of gay men in this area (DC metro). Furthermore, the area is very transient and work obsessed (tho not necessarily connected).

Of course you understand, however, being beautiful and toned does not a wife make. It helps get the guy, but then what? Having a great job does not help either. Often those are the women who act like they don't need a guy. We all know the saying..."Show me a beautiful woman, and I will show you a guy who's tired of *&^%$#@ her!"

IMHO women need to return to the basics...being able to cook, clean and care for a house. They also need to understand the role of submission in a relationship (I am sure I will get flack for this, but it is what it is).

Honestly tho, many smart, attractive women with great jobs will remain single into middle/late life. There just aren't enough to go around, and ones that are left don't fit the bill for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you know that they are struggling, or do you just assume that's the case because they are not married?

I do not know them that well. I see their posts on social media where they lament being single or still looking for love. Its astounding since they are so attractive, westernized and accomplished. I know 2 of them are extremely picky, they are looking for men who are more accomplished or famous than they are. They remind me of Amal Clooney.

More "famous" than they are? Let me guess. They also have an inflated opinion of themselves?

[Anonymous]

Those cultures are all about marrying into the right caste. They're probably waiting for some rich doctor to sweep them up.