"Friends" who don't express condolences on FB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me why anyone would want to have 5000 FB friends?

Narcissism.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can someone please tell me why anyone would want to have 5000 FB friends?

Narcissism.

Or, you know, a job, when you work in social media.

[Anonymous]

Don't be so sure everyone saw your post. Secondly, I am not afraid of death but I don't think FB is appropriate to post something that personal. I did not post anything about my dad dying on FB and was angry that my siblings did.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I basically use Facebook as a feed for news outlets, OP. 99% of what people post on FB is useless crap, so I tend to scan right past personal posts, TBH. If a friend of mine posted something like this on FB, I'd be highly likely to miss it.

That shows the type of friend you are, since you are admitting to not reading the personal posts.

Organize your friends into groups, it will make a world of difference.

omg we heard you the first time. i don't want to organize my friends into groups. i want to casually scroll through FB a few times a day and read various posts from various friends and end up missing half of them. i'm ok with that. if i somehow offend someone who expected me to respond to their FB post that i didn't see because they only have 40 friends and don't understand that's not how most people use FB, their loss. i'm sure we weren't close anyway since someone i'm ACTUALLY friends with might actually pick up the phone or email or FB message (and it's highly unlikely that i would be friends with someone that sensitive and histrionic anyway).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When I die, I hope my kids aren't worried about social media condolences.

YES!

X1000. If OP were one of my children, I would feel like I had failed as a parent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I basically use Facebook as a feed for news outlets, OP. 99% of what people post on FB is useless crap, so I tend to scan right past personal posts, TBH. If a friend of mine posted something like this on FB, I'd be highly likely to miss it.

That shows the type of friend you are, since you are admitting to not reading the personal posts.

Organize your friends into groups, it will make a world of difference.

omg we heard you the first time. i don't want to organize my friends into groups. i want to casually scroll through FB a few times a day and read various posts from various friends and end up missing half of them. i'm ok with that. if i somehow offend someone who expected me to respond to their FB post that i didn't see because they only have 40 friends and don't understand that's not how most people use FB, their loss. i'm sure we weren't close anyway since someone i'm ACTUALLY friends with might actually pick up the phone or email or FB message (and it's highly unlikely that i would be friends with someone that sensitive and histrionic anyway).

x1,000,000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Social media really is the beginning of the end. How old are you?? So what they didn't offer condolences in a public forum. Are you tallying who did that for some reason?? Frankly, it doesn't matter why they didn't offer condolences via FB, what matters is your mother and her memory.

Grow up!!!

Nice way to talk to someone who is grieving. Why don't you just STFU.

Grieving?? Really?? OP is mad that her FB friends who post a lot of meaningless crap didn't offer condolences upon her mother's passing?? She's not grieving. She's mad about some really stupid shit that means nothing in the grand scheme of life. Her mother died and she's worried about FB notifications?? Ok.

Thank God we have you here to arbitrate what should bother people, what's important in the grand scheme of life, and who's grieving.

Your magic man in the sky must be pissed at yours and OP's blatant disregard for the 5th commandment.... If you think that stewing over FB attention (or lack thereof) is justifiable at a time like this, you need help.

I feel sorry for both of your mothers.

And I feel sorry for anyone who has to deal with you in any capacity. Life's way too short to deal with nasty bitches; speaking of needing help..

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the person posted about their loss on Facebook, then it's an appropriate places to express condolences. To say otherwise makes it all about you and not the person experiencing the loss. Nothing stopping you from also sending a card and memorial contribution.

Exactly! Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Social media really is the beginning of the end. How old are you?? So what they didn't offer condolences in a public forum. Are you tallying who did that for some reason?? Frankly, it doesn't matter why they didn't offer condolences via FB, what matters is your mother and her memory.

Grow up!!!

Not OP, but no really, YOU need to grow up.

[Anonymous]

I posted when my mother died because I have friends from high school and college who live out of town and that's how I communicate with them. Of course I called my relatives and local friends. It's possible to disagree with OP without being childish and harsh. I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I posted when my mother died because I have friends from high school and college who live out of town and that's how I communicate with them. Of course I called my relatives and local friends. It's possible to disagree with OP without being childish and harsh. I'm sorry for your loss, OP.

+1
I suspect it's just a couple of posters repeatedly posting and being nasty to someone who is grieving.

[Anonymous]

Don't be upset at people who don't know how to address death. Plus, it's so repetitive that some people don't want to dwell on it. Or they might just want to focus on the positive things that are still living. Plus, you look great might just make you feel better for a few minutes in your dark hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I basically use Facebook as a feed for news outlets, OP. 99% of what people post on FB is useless crap, so I tend to scan right past personal posts, TBH. If a friend of mine posted something like this on FB, I'd be highly likely to miss it.

That shows the type of friend you are, since you are admitting to not reading the personal posts.

Organize your friends into groups, it will make a world of difference.

omg we heard you the first time. I don't want to organize my friends into groups. I want to casually scroll through FB a few times a day and read various posts from various friends and end up missing half of them. I'm ok with that. If I somehow offend someone who expected me to respond to their FB post that I didn't see because they only have 40 friends and don't understand that's not how most people use FB, their loss. I'm sure we weren't close anyway since someone I'm ACTUALLY friends with might actually pick up the phone or email or FB message (and it's highly unlikely that I would be friends with someone that sensitive and histrionic anyway).

Like most people on this site, lack of organization is in play here. As multiple people said, you don't have to reply directly on Facebook, you can send something privately.

Unfortunately, people use social media as a mass message system for situations like the OP has. I think it is sad you are OK with missing posts from your friends, because you never know when you will miss something of substance. But, it is your life.