How do people secretly communicate with AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we communicate telepathically so there is no chance of getting caught.

Same!

Two Betazoids in one thread!

They are communicating telepathically with each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:we communicate telepathically so there is no chance of getting caught.

Same!

Two Betazoids in one thread!

They are communicating telepathically with each other.

Had to look this up:

https://www.startrek.com/database_article/betazoids

Betazoids practice an old style of marriage arrangement called genetic bonding, wherein children are promised to each other for marriage later by their parents. On the same note, Betazoids are known for their ability to love more than one person without losing their ability to love their mate, nor are they bound by their marriage customs. Because marriage is a celebration of the act of love to Betazoids, the wedding ceremony itself is traditionally conducted in the nude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

Yes, you are missing something. They don't want a normal life. They do it because it's exciting and a dopamine rush and thrilling. The part of about guys thinking so little of their APs is just what a lot of betrayed women would like to believe about APs. Yes, some are just one-night stands and flings, but it's not impossible for a married man to develop feelings outside of his marriage. It happens more often than you think. My ex-H had a affair and he loved her. A lot of these men do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

Amen, sister. Complete trash losers.

You do realize that people who engage in affairs don't care about the namecalling, right? It doesn't stop them. They don't care about what you think of them. The best thing to do is not think about them at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

Yes, you are missing something. They don't want a normal life. They do it because it's exciting and a dopamine rush and thrilling. The part of about guys thinking so little of their APs is just what a lot of betrayed women would like to believe about APs. Yes, some are just one-night stands and flings, but it's not impossible for a married man to develop feelings outside of his marriage. It happens more often than you think. My ex-H had a affair and he loved her. A lot of these men do.

God. You are so obviously a woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

Amen, sister. Complete trash losers.

You do realize that people who engage in affairs don't care about the namecalling, right? It doesn't stop them. They don't care about what you think of them. The best thing to do is not think about them at all.

Well, duh. They have zero shame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

Yes, you are missing something. They don't want a normal life. They do it because it's exciting and a dopamine rush and thrilling. The part of about guys thinking so little of their APs is just what a lot of betrayed women would like to believe about APs. Yes, some are just one-night stands and flings, but it's not impossible for a married man to develop feelings outside of his marriage. It happens more often than you think. My ex-H had a affair and he loved her. A lot of these men do.

I’m sorry that happened to you PP. But go back even in this thread and see how the males talk about their female APs and the desire for a low word:sex ratio. These guys hide their APs because they do not care one bit about them and would be embarrassed to be caught with them. Hence the term “dirty little secret.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

Yes, you are missing something. They don't want a normal life. They do it because it's exciting and a dopamine rush and thrilling. The part of about guys thinking so little of their APs is just what a lot of betrayed women would like to believe about APs. Yes, some are just one-night stands and flings, but it's not impossible for a married man to develop feelings outside of his marriage. It happens more often than you think. My ex-H had a affair and he loved her. A lot of these men do.

I’m sorry that happened to you PP. But go back even in this thread and see how the males talk about their female APs and the desire for a low word:sex ratio. These guys hide their APs because they do not care one bit about them and would be embarrassed to be caught with them. Hence the term “dirty little secret.”

NP. You are missing the point that not all men who have affairs are represented on this one particular dcum thread.

[Anonymous]

telepathy or morse code

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

LOL. You sound like a bitter DW telling herself the husband never had feelings for the AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

LOL. You sound like a bitter DW telling herself the husband never had feelings for the AP.

You think this is a fake post by a woman posing as a cheater man? Seriously why would someone do that? This thread is nutty.

[Anonymous]

I travel for work and I have a few APs in various cities. None here where I live.

I have a business trip next month, so I'm flying out an AP to the same city. My meetings are a few days, but the AP will be there just for 24 hours. It will be a whirlwind trip of exploring a new city for both of us, having great conversation, wine, food, and lots of sex too of course. Then I'll drop AP at the airport and continue with my business trip.

We're both looking forward to it. It's the anticipation and the excitement of a frenzied short trip that's not about drudgery but just about fun. We don't text often otherwise -- just a happy new years, see you soon kind of stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

LOL. You sound like a bitter DW telling herself the husband never had feelings for the AP.

You think this is a fake post by a woman posing as a cheater man? Seriously why would someone do that? This thread is nutty.

Most of the trolling on here is from people trying to feel better about their situations.

[Anonymous]

^^Seems more like it’s from people who want to make other people feel bad about their situations, when they are actually feeling fine.

[Anonymous]

Semaphore lamp.