How do people secretly communicate with AP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What self respecting person would be involved with someone who won’t even communicate with them by normal text or phone, or take pictures with them? You’re willing to be hidden away in the closet - really??

Many. It's how affairs work when both are married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

You sound charming. It’s no wonder these gals are throwing themselves at you lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Serious question: Do you think this is true love? No contact except for booty calls.

It’s being used to get off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

Omg

[Anonymous]

It's so easy to catch a cheater, most don't get away with it. GPS on the car, or just follow them with a friend or hire a P.I.

If you feel the need to cheat then you should divorce and date forever and ever. Otherwise it makes no sense.

If someone is stupid enough to date my spouse then I'm going to come after them and affect their life as well. Whether it's their work place, or family, and friends. Then I'll either divorce my spouse, or they'll be a lifetime roommate. Either way I'm done with a cheater.

Really is it worth all that?

[Anonymous]

Mine was at work so communication was easy…

[Anonymous]

Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

Omg

NP. That is the way not to get caught/I am a woman (no affair) but this makes logical sense. There’s no desire to actually leave the marriage there should be a minimum of talking and it should only be about sex and there should be no communication other than meet ups; why people are surprised by this surprises me. But I guess that’s why idiots who have affairs get caught and the ones who are smart about it and logical don’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's so easy to catch a cheater, most don't get away with it. GPS on the car, or just follow them with a friend or hire a P.I.

If you feel the need to cheat then you should divorce and date forever and ever. Otherwise it makes no sense.

If someone is stupid enough to date my spouse then I'm going to come after them and affect their life as well. Whether it's their work place, or family, and friends. Then I'll either divorce my spouse, or they'll be a lifetime roommate. Either way I'm done with a cheater.

Really is it worth all that?

If the marriage is really bad, it doesn’t really matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

I’m not sure why this is hard to figure out. Some people actually don’t want relationships. If someone is engaged in affair is because they know that person is not leaving their spouse and they have somebody reliable and they don’t have to worry about finding a boyfriend or girlfriend and being an actual real relationship that requires a commitment. This is not hard to understand. It is all you romantic people who think marriage is the end all be all that I don’t understand (not a cheater and single but I completely understand why someone would do this if the chemistry was good and they did not want a full-blown relationship and only wanted a reliable sex partner). Relationships are exhausting and some people simply don’t want them and then you start having sex with somebody and they wanna relationship it blows up but if you’re having sex with somebody and you’re in an affair and that person is not leaving their spouse that could go on for years. If somebody doesn’t want a relationship, (and limited to sex only…not dates or public meetings) that’s actually pretty good set up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

Omg

NP. That is the way not to get caught/I am a woman (no affair) but this makes logical sense. There’s no desire to actually leave the marriage there should be a minimum of talking and it should only be about sex and there should be no communication other than meet ups; why people are surprised by this surprises me. But I guess that’s why idiots who have affairs get caught and the ones who are smart about it and logical don’t.

Surprised because the women on Ashley Madison actually believe they can get the guy to fall in love with them under these circumstances. They don’t even talk to them (or very minimally) and just to bang them. Then they get needy. It’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

Omg

NP. That is the way not to get caught/I am a woman (no affair) but this makes logical sense. There’s no desire to actually leave the marriage there should be a minimum of talking and it should only be about sex and there should be no communication other than meet ups; why people are surprised by this surprises me. But I guess that’s why idiots who have affairs get caught and the ones who are smart about it and logical don’t.

Surprised because the women on Ashley Madison actually believe they can get the guy to fall in love with them under these circumstances. They don’t even talk to them (or very minimally) and just to bang them. Then they get needy. It’s crazy.

I doubt you know anything about "the women on AM" unless you're someone who has an account and has met many of them. I kn ow, you are the bitter scorned wife who was cheated on but don't post like you have any real knowledge outside of the one woman you credit with destroying your marriage. You don't.