How do people secretly communicate with AP?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So most of you only communicate when it’s time to schedule a f@@@ck? Mere logistics? Such romantics

Yes, those are the best affairs. In between, we go back to our married life and don't communicate again until it's time to get together. Then usually a bit of wrap-up the few days after. The worst is when she requires constant communication in between. Those are also the ones who get caught. You want to keep the ratio of words:sex as low as possible.

Omg

NP. That is the way not to get caught/I am a woman (no affair) but this makes logical sense. There’s no desire to actually leave the marriage there should be a minimum of talking and it should only be about sex and there should be no communication other than meet ups; why people are surprised by this surprises me. But I guess that’s why idiots who have affairs get caught and the ones who are smart about it and logical don’t.

She get's it. I learned it early on from the women I was seeing. Ideally, it's what both partners should want. I don't want another wife, or girlfriend to share the details of my day. We share sex and keep the conversations to about 75% sex and logistics of meeting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Confide or wickr

Is this why Jeff Bezos bought Wickr??? After his phone was hacked LOL

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

[Anonymous]

what do you all do about gps location on phones when you are with your AP? I found my DH through find my iphone. Either at an odd location or he turned it on airplane mode.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

Amen, sister. Complete trash losers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:what do you all do about gps location on phones when you are with your AP? I found my DH through find my iphone. Either at an odd location or he turned it on airplane mode.

Mine learned how to hack that so he could make it appear that he was at his office when he was halfway around the beltway at the whore’s house in the middle of the day. He never turned it off, it just wasn’t revealing where he really was.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

Amen, sister. Complete trash losers.

Totally. And they think people that aren’t nasty trash liars scurrying around in the dark and shadows just don’t like sex. Ha. Yeah okay. They just aren’t scum. Sex is great. I’m not going to secret app and hack my iPhone locator and lie to my spouse and kids to meet some Ho in a mid range hotel.

[Anonymous]

we communicate telepathically so there is no chance of getting caught.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Questions for the APs that communicate via erasing message app, Words with Friends, burner phone and the like. Why do you live your life this way? Why not have a normal life with normal communication with normal people? Is it that you’re just so into this person that you’ll do whatever nonsensical thing it takes so that you can be with them? Judging by how little the guys seem to think of their APs, the answer apparently would be No. Then why do this? If this is in fact a form of slumming, then what exactly do you get out of the slumming? To me it seems like a shameful addiction. Am I missing something?

They don’t want to get caught because they don’t want to leave their marriage/wives. A little side variety midlife so they do crazy things to cover their tracks. My question is who would want to have sex with someone that goes to such lengths to make sure nobody can ever know about them and who only opens the app to schedule the next bang. Over time, it’s not even new anymore so why hang in there. Do they really think they can get them to fall in love and start a new life?

You can't seem to let go of this narrative you made up of the woman pining for romance while the man just uses her for sex. That's sometimes the case, but oftentimes the woman just wants sex too and doesn't want to leave her marriage.

You can't fathom a woman "using" a man for sex...because you, yourself, don't like sex. That's what you're broadcasting here.

I’m the one that posted the questions above, but someone else posted the prior response (about women on Ashley Madison expecting love). My point isn’t that I think women expect love; my point is that this whole “dirty little secret” affair thing is low class and demoralizing. You can be a woman (or man) who likes sex and doesn’t have to resort to such low brow tactics to get it. I know, I know, you claim the marrieds want a little variety. That may be true, but it doesn’t change the fact that ho-ing around is tacky af. And no, burying the texts in a secret app doesn’t make them look smarter. It makes them look like a creepy sex addict.

Amen, sister. Complete trash losers.

Totally. And they think people that aren’t nasty trash liars scurrying around in the dark and shadows just don’t like sex. Ha. Yeah okay. They just aren’t scum. Sex is great. I’m not going to secret app and hack my iPhone locator and lie to my spouse and kids to meet some Ho in a mid range hotel.

Yep. I’m never going to f@“k someone else’s spouse. That’s so trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:we communicate telepathically so there is no chance of getting caught.

Same!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

You are truly a psychopath. A smart psychopath, but a psychopath nonetheless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I found trails of texts and phone calls, but suspect DH communicated in other ways. Emails have been deleted as have text messages but only those on phone bill appear. What are other ways? FB messenger? What's app? What are other modes? This is a long distance AP. DH promises it is over but want to know other ways he could still be communicating?

Yes, FB Messenger and WhatsApp and any other texting app where texts don't show up on a phone bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

You are truly a psychopath. A smart psychopath, but a psychopath nonetheless.

The ladies should all be so flattered, but go in with eyes wide open when choosing to bang married men. This is what they think of you, truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a burner phone and prepaid with cash. Met AP at a bar and was concerned about getting caught. I did the following:

1) Met her at places that I would never go to in places of town that I never went to.

2) Told her that I hated social media and that I avoided it like the plague. Told her that my only phone was my burner phone.

3) Lied to her about where I worked (I told her that I worked as a consultant at the department of homeland security and that my job was not that exciting but not something that I was allowed to talk about).

4) Did not do any pictures with her

5) Did not talk a whole lot about my life with her.

I made it clear that all I wanted to do was have sex and that was cool for while. After about 6 months she started to really push me on some issues and I broke it off with her. She lost her mind and told me that she was going to call my wife. Too bad she had no idea who I was and no idea how to contact me. All she had was a telephone # which I trashed after a week of hysterical text messages.

If you are planning to have an affair, first don't! The fantasies about great sex was not worth the strain of maybe getting caught. I was smart enough to make it less likely but by no means was it foolproof. After throwing the phone away I went home and for the first time in more than 1/2 a year truly relaxed. Never told wife about the affair and I never will.

Its been a couple of years and I think I'm in the clear but I will never be certain that I might run into her somewhere and the cards could come crashing down. My plan would be to lie and deny but who knows if that would work?

You are truly a psychopath. A smart psychopath, but a psychopath nonetheless.

The ladies should all be so flattered, but go in with eyes wide open when choosing to bang married men. This is what they think of you, truly.

I’d expect no less of a cheater. This is exactly what I imagined.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:we communicate telepathically so there is no chance of getting caught.

Same!

Two Betazoids in one thread!