Clothing for school and kids with social issues

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think some of these kids might have parents who are socially awkward themselves. The parents might not have the best hygiene, or they might not have any idea what is cool, and they might not understand the social dynamics at play. Therefore, the kids have poor hygiene and uncool clothes.

Are you kidding me? What is wrong with you?

But that's not always untrue. I was raised by a clueless mother who dressed me funny (short ill fitting, ugly clothes) and I was teased a lot.
One of my friends had eccentric psychiatrists for parents and we were definitely fashion disaster buddies together at school. Total flood pants city (Jimmy - are you there?).

Yeah, my parents were social misfits and my clothes weren't great either. I knew another girl in elementary school, who might have an Aspie or anxiety diagnosis today, who came to school in just awfully unfashionable stuff and never washed her hair. She told me once that she used the powder they use in hospitals instead of shampoo, and mentioned that her mother was in the hospital a lot so she would just take it from the hospital. I think her father was an engineer or scientist (like mine) and totally socially clueless, and the poor mother was apparently very ill. There were a lot of people (not me) who made fun of her. My own daughter is rather social clueless and hates to wear certain clothes that her peers would wear and hates to wash her hair (sensory issues), and I often think of that little girl that didn't have the mother to wash her hair when I am having the battle with my daughter over how often to wash her hair.
I have one SN kid, and another with mild SN (sensory issues and some mild ADHD)...I don't do great about how they are dressed because most days I feel lucky to get them out of the house fed. None of this is easy. I take OP's point and the much better stated point of the previous OP about what she would do in hindsight.