What would you think of a single, childless, professional man pushing 50?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm gonna go with...

He's a bi narcissist with intimacy issues, and, maybe, knows it and isn't going to commit conventionally.

^^THIS.

A tall, very good looking, accomplished man with a high paying, prestigious job who I dated briefly before running in the other direction just got married at age 48. He has a child on the way. And is still regularly having sex with men on the side. I am still friends with him and his wife gives me smug little smiles
and makes comments about how my husband doesn't make enough. I just smile at her and praise her for being the one to "catch" such an amazing man. A slimy bitch like that deserves to be a homosexual's fool. Is that what you deserve, OP? If not, RUN.

Sweetie, you know nothing about their relationship. My guess is that they are "open" and she lets him have his fun. She's smirking because he probably told her how uptight you are and how you couldn't deal with his lifestyle. Meanwhile, she revels in it and enjoys the lifestyle his job affords him.

You each found the person that was right for you. No need to denigrate each other.

Not PP, but you sound delusional. A "hot" guy having sex with men on the side is not a prize to any woman I know. Period. I don't care how wealthy. Her husband would rather fuck a dude. That aint winning.

Obviously bogus story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't automatically count him out. I have a relative who fits the description you gave, and I believe the reason he's never married is that for so long he had this idea that the 'perfect' woman for him was out there, somewhere, and so he never settled down with someone who met 8 out of the 10 things he was looking for. Now he's 50 and the women he meets tend to be divorced women with baggage or much younger women...and I don't think he's into either. He's a great guy, though, and would have made a wonderful father. I think he probably has a lot of women wondering the same things about him that OP is wondering about the man she knows.

No offense but as a relative you know very little about him in that area. I will guarantee he's very judgmental on every woman he meets. Probably can't compromise and see's himself as perfect. A narcissist, many out there.

[Anonymous]

I met a guy once through business (50) who seemed like a great guy. Out of curiosity I looked him up and found him on all the dating sites trolling for woman as young as 30. A total creeper. He even had the dreaded bathroom shot holding a cat no less. It was the best laugh I had. I never dreamed he was that way. There's a reason they're single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my DH when he was 41. He was in a 6 year relationship with an abusive woman during his 30s and needed a bit of time to recover and get his self esteem back after breaking up with her. Nothing wrong with him all. Great DH and dad.

Women don't abuse men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First thought: Gay

Second thought: has some serious personality issues which don't become apparent until he starts dating

Third thought: commitment phobia

+1

Even worse if he's attractive.

+ 2

[Anonymous]

I'd think someone like that has issues, but then I'd want to know more about the issues to figure out if these things were dealbreakers for me.

Because, you know -- we all have issues of one sort or another.

[Anonymous]

My good-looking 6'2" brother has never been married because he is a total player...and, self-admittedly, set in his ways and a little selfish. Hilaroiously funny and smart.

It's better for everyone he has never married at 48. He'd probably be on his 4th wife by now.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you ask him, op?

[Anonymous]

While I don't believe in soul mates , I suspect I would have ended up like these guys had I not met my wife. I think there are a lot of singles who are not gay and can function. Acceptably in other ways but are dysfunctional when it comes to the ability to get beyond the first few weeks or months of a relationship. They may repeatedly pick incompatible partners or have various personality disorders that don't show up immediately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I don't believe in soul mates , I suspect I would have ended up like these guys had I not met my wife. I think there are a lot of singles who are not gay and can function. Acceptably in other ways but are dysfunctional when it comes to the ability to get beyond the first few weeks or months of a relationship. They may repeatedly pick incompatible partners or have various personality disorders that don't show up immediately.

Good for this guy for realizing he has a great thing going. OP indicated he's hot, has a great job and is an overall decent guy. What if he just wants to sleep with lots of women over the course of his life and not settle down? He may not want kids. That can be a deal breaker for women. If I didn't want kids I wouldn't have gotten married to DW. I was having plenty of fun beforehand.

[Anonymous]

I would think 90% chance he's pretty screwed up. The men I know like this? One is bipolar and is broke because he spends all his money and sleeps around when manic. One is ADHD and can't focus on anyone or anything, always fails on follow-through, and works very odd hours to get his work done. Another is very sweet but completely scared of any responsibilities - he literally went white when I asked him to dog sit for 24 hours because it was too much responsibility, though he loves dogs. Another still thinks he can bag a hot 30 y.o. with a high paying job, though he's a mid-50s mid-level career government lawyer. . . .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met my DH when he was 41. He was in a 6 year relationship with an abusive woman during his 30s and needed a bit of time to recover and get his self esteem back after breaking up with her. Nothing wrong with him all. Great DH and dad.

Women don't abuse men.

Bullshit

[Anonymous]

Peter Pan issues would be my guess.

[Anonymous]

Why do people assume everybody is dying to get married? Many women don't, even more men don't. If I were a dude, I'd never marry LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm gonna go with...

He's a bi narcissist with intimacy issues, and, maybe, knows it and isn't going to commit conventionally.

^^THIS.

A tall, very good looking, accomplished man with a high paying, prestigious job who I dated briefly before running in the other direction just got married at age 48. He has a child on the way. And is still regularly having sex with men on the side. I am still friends with him and his wife gives me smug little smiles
and makes comments about how my husband doesn't make enough. I just smile at her and praise her for being the one to "catch" such an amazing man. A slimy bitch like that deserves to be a homosexual's fool. Is that what you deserve, OP? If not, RUN.

Sweetie, you know nothing about their relationship. My guess is that they are "open" and she lets him have his fun. She's smirking because he probably told her how uptight you are and how you couldn't deal with his lifestyle. Meanwhile, she revels in it and enjoys the lifestyle his job affords him.

You each found the person that was right for you. No need to denigrate each other.

PP here. Sweetie, you and all the other desperate beards of the world can enjoy sucking random men's feces off your husband's cocks. If what you describe is true, then my friend's wife is even more stupid than I thought. Either way, it is not my problem. He is a great business contact who has sent me a number of clients over the years and I couldn't care less what he does with his anus or his marriage.