What would you think of a single, childless, professional man pushing 50?

[Anonymous]

Why does any of this have to be a character flaw? Maybe he's a loner who doesn't need to be in a relationship to be happy? Just because he's not a sheep who follows what everyone else is doing doesn't mean there's something wrong.

[Anonymous]

I didn't meet Ms. Right and marry until I was 44. I had a series of 1-3 year relationships with women over the years. Was not feeling an urge to get married -- a few women did but they weren't marriage material in my view. I didn't think of myself as commitment phobic but maybe I was to an extent. Then I met DW who while not a perfect match was so wonderful in so many ways I could not believe it -- I didn't think it was possible. 15 years later we're still married with a couple children.

[Anonymous]

I'm gonna go with...

He's a bi narcissist with intimacy issues, and, maybe, knows it and isn't going to commit conventionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't automatically count him out. I have a relative who fits the description you gave, and I believe the reason he's never married is that for so long he had this idea that the 'perfect' woman for him was out there, somewhere, and so he never settled down with someone who met 8 out of the 10 things he was looking for. Now he's 50 and the women he meets tend to be divorced women with baggage or much younger women...and I don't think he's into either. He's a great guy, though, and would have made a wonderful father. I think he probably has a lot of women wondering the same things about him that OP is wondering about the man she knows.

Those are called commitment issues.

Np. No, it's called not settling!

There is a difference between not settling and expecting perfection. Part of loving someone is seeing their flaws and loving them anyway (then committing to them). If your threshold for loving and committing to someone is perfection, then *you* have issues.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't take a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm gonna go with...

He's a bi narcissist with intimacy issues, and, maybe, knows it and isn't going to commit conventionally.

^^THIS.

A tall, very good looking, accomplished man with a high paying, prestigious job who I dated briefly before running in the other direction just got married at age 48. He has a child on the way. And is still regularly having sex with men on the side. I am still friends with him and his wife gives me smug little smiles
and makes comments about how my husband doesn't make enough. I just smile at her and praise her for being the one to "catch" such an amazing man. A slimy bitch like that deserves to be a homosexual's fool. Is that what you deserve, OP? If not, RUN.

[Anonymous]

Why does something have to be wrong with him?. You do have people in the sorld who dont want to be in long term relationships or have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does something have to be wrong with him?. You do have people in the sorld who dont want to be in long term relationships or have kids.

Typo world ***

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he reads DCUM and realizes none of you broads are worth marrying and squeezing out more disturbed special snowflake kids and dealing with your in laws after reading all y'all's posts is not worth it.

-Single childless 40-something male

Dude, if you are a single, childless 40-something, then WTH are you doing here?!?!

Not the PP, but this is a free for all site, kids or not. Get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he reads DCUM and realizes none of you broads are worth marrying and squeezing out more disturbed special snowflake kids and dealing with your in laws after reading all y'all's posts is not worth it.

-Single childless 40-something male

Dude, if you are a single, childless 40-something, then WTH are you doing here?!?!

Not the PP, but this is a free for all site, kids or not. Get over it.

Yes, we know.

But it's weird.

And perhaps that's why he's single and childless?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First thought: Gay

Second thought: has some serious personality issues which don't become apparent until he starts dating

Third thought: commitment phobia

One of these

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife's brother is 45, professionally successful, attractive, never married. He has anxiety over commitment and is very shy, never approaches women so doesn't meet many.

If this guy is outgoing and friendly, and has not had at least a couple of long term relationships, I think gay.

I will never understand how this can happen. Be very shy but speak to men and women on a daily basis.

Has no woman ever approached him?

[Anonymous]

George Clooney?

If he doesn't want kids I would think he has decided there is no upside to marriage for him. He can get the things he needs (sex, companionship) without it.

[Anonymous]

Some people have a hermit side to them.

[Anonymous]

He claims he wants to be married and have kids.