What would you think of a single, childless, professional man pushing 50?

[Anonymous]

Can't quite put my finger on what's wrong with him. The consensus is that he isn't gay, although I've witnessed gay men flirting with him on two separate occasions. The consensus is that he's attractive, fun and kind. The consensus is that he's dated really awesome women (but it never lasts longer than 4-6 months).

[Anonymous]

That he has commitment/ relationship issues.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he is happy with his life. Why does something have to be wrong?

[Anonymous]

Not marriage material.

[Anonymous]

Is he short?

[Anonymous]

Loser alert.

[Anonymous]

First thought: Gay

Second thought: has some serious personality issues which don't become apparent until he starts dating

Third thought: commitment phobia

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he short?

Tall, fit and handsome. Easily an 8 or 9.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First thought: Gay

Second thought: has some serious personality issues which don't become apparent until he starts dating

Third thought: commitment phobia

+1

Even worse if he's attractive.

[Anonymous]

Don't automatically count him out. I have a relative who fits the description you gave, and I believe the reason he's never married is that for so long he had this idea that the 'perfect' woman for him was out there, somewhere, and so he never settled down with someone who met 8 out of the 10 things he was looking for. Now he's 50 and the women he meets tend to be divorced women with baggage or much younger women...and I don't think he's into either. He's a great guy, though, and would have made a wonderful father. I think he probably has a lot of women wondering the same things about him that OP is wondering about the man she knows.

[Anonymous]

It immediately tells me he's selfish and don's want to make the sacrifices people make in long term relationships and marriages. I not assume this, but I would not be surprised if he also had a personality disorder like narcissistic personality disorder.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't automatically count him out. I have a relative who fits the description you gave, and I believe the reason he's never married is that for so long he had this idea that the 'perfect' woman for him was out there, somewhere, and so he never settled down with someone who met 8 out of the 10 things he was looking for. Now he's 50 and the women he meets tend to be divorced women with baggage or much younger women...and I don't think he's into either. He's a great guy, though, and would have made a wonderful father. I think he probably has a lot of women wondering the same things about him that OP is wondering about the man she knows.

Those are called commitment issues.

[Anonymous]

So are you interested in him OP for dating purposes or are you just being nosy and judgmental?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't automatically count him out. I have a relative who fits the description you gave, and I believe the reason he's never married is that for so long he had this idea that the 'perfect' woman for him was out there, somewhere, and so he never settled down with someone who met 8 out of the 10 things he was looking for. Now he's 50 and the women he meets tend to be divorced women with baggage or much younger women...and I don't think he's into either. He's a great guy, though, and would have made a wonderful father. I think he probably has a lot of women wondering the same things about him that OP is wondering about the man she knows.

It's this and do count him out unless he's been in counseling or figured this out on his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is he short?

And your point is?