What would you think of a single, childless, professional man pushing 50?

[Anonymous]

Isn't 50 the new 30?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't 50 the new 30?

Yes...especially in a world where people are shocked when a 79 year old dies in his sleep.

Apparently humans believe we live forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does any of this have to be a character flaw? Maybe he's a loner who doesn't need to be in a relationship to be happy? Just because he's not a sheep who follows what everyone else is doing doesn't mean there's something wrong.

+1

[Anonymous]

I know two attractive men with great jobs that are single without kids. One is mid 30's and the other mid 40's. They are both very very into their work and are sort of married to the job. I love the work that they do (same field) and actually find their dedication attractive. No big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:MY first thought would be he's like my brother who is high functioning autism, has an amazing well paying job based on his intellectual abilities. Is generally pleasant to be around and is like by mostly everyone he meets, both men and women find him attractive. I've seen people flirt with him and then be miffed when he doesn't respond.

He has zero interest in relationships.


Outside of that my general thoughts are the same for both men and women who are single and childless as long as you're happy and are a generally a good person I don't care what you do with your genitals and who you have decided to commit them to or procreate with.

Just curious, because I know someone like this, do you think that he really doesn't care at all about never having sex? If someone could communicate with him super directly without using lots of non-verbal social cues (which are the mainstay of most flirting/testing things out) would he be interested?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband was a 46-yo bachelor when we married and was considered quite a catch. I think people were a little surprised he picked me because I was 40 at the time and divorced. He is attractive, charming and wealthy and but be a bit controlling. I think we're a good catch because I don't put up with his BS and call him out on things. Two kiddos later, we're happy.

Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He claims he wants to be married and have kids.

We live in a culture now where some people can't close the deal because they are convinced there is something better out there, this guy sounds like that type. It isn't that hard once you get past the initial "are we attracted to each other and have some common interests" to make it to the altar if marriage and children is the goal. I would say that isn't really his goal. It sounds good but he hasn't done it in 30 years of dating so it's not a goal. He should be more honest with himself and the women he is dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He claims he wants to be married and have kids.

We live in a culture now where some people can't close the deal because they are convinced there is something better out there, this guy sounds like that type. It isn't that hard once you get past the initial "are we attracted to each other and have some common interests" to make it to the altar if marriage and children is the goal. I would say that isn't really his goal. It sounds good but he hasn't done it in 30 years of dating so it's not a goal. He should be more honest with himself and the women he is dating.

Completely agree. This man doesn't want to get married. If he did he would have already done so. He might think he does but he doesn't. Run away.

[Anonymous]

The gay men flirting with him is a BIG RED flag.

[Anonymous]

Damaged goods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The gay men flirting with him is a BIG RED flag.

Why? Gay people flirt with me doesn't make me any less straight.

Now if he is flirting with them then you may have a point about the red flag.


To answer the OP's question I would think he's single, childless, professional and pushing 50.

If you are attracted to him pursue accordingly.

If you aren't interested in him I suggest taking up knitting or some other hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he is happy with his life. Why does something have to be wrong?

I agree

The 'tradition' bullshit really is old school thinking. Not having kids and not being married at that age really doesn't mean a thing.....as long as he is happy. Now if his past relationships only last a few months, then he may have some commitment issues.

[Anonymous]

only child, mama's boy, not going to give. RUN

[Anonymous]

Probably loves women and loathes kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't quite put my finger on what's wrong with him. The consensus is that he isn't gay, although I've witnessed gay men flirting with him on two separate occasions. The consensus is that he's attractive, fun and kind. The consensus is that he's dated really awesome women (but it never lasts longer than 4-6 months).

I have a friend like this. As far as I can tell, he's only interested in women who are unavailable or "outside his league." Also, he talks about HS a lot.