My mother buys my child the ugliest clothes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

[Anonymous]

I hope the hill you have chosen to die on here is worth it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They don't look that bad to me OP. Not super-classy, but kid / 2 year old appropriate. They actually look like what kids wear in flyover states all the time.

Why not let him wear some of it around the house to appease her and pick other battles, or wait until he is older (and in school) to pick the clothing battles with her. It will make more sense if he doesn't like the items and does not want to wear them to school.

Wow. What a bitch you are

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Did you stand up to her about the clothes and it all came to a head? If so, good for you, OP! I hope you find a good d/c for your son

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Man, OP. Yet thyself to a therapist. You're a fucking mess. Sorry you hate your mom so much. To be clear, if you lose your job because of YOUR childcare situation, that is your problem. Not your mom's. So don't blame her. You seem incredibly ungrateful and if all of this hate is really deeper than clothes you deem ugly then quit using your mom. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They don't look that bad to me OP. Not super-classy, but kid / 2 year old appropriate. They actually look like what kids wear in flyover states all the time.

Why not let him wear some of it around the house to appease her and pick other battles, or wait until he is older (and in school) to pick the clothing battles with her. It will make more sense if he doesn't like the items and does not want to wear them to school.

Wow. What a bitch you are

Plus a million

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Man, OP. Yet thyself to a therapist. You're a fucking mess. Sorry you hate your mom so much. To be clear, if you lose your job because of YOUR childcare situation, that is your problem. Not your mom's. So don't blame her. You seem incredibly ungrateful and if all of this hate is really deeper than clothes you deem ugly then quit using your mom. Sad.

You really have no idea what's going on in my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Did you stand up to her about the clothes and it all came to a head? If so, good for you, OP! I hope you find a good d/c for your son

It wasn't about the clothes. And he is in daycare, it just doesn't meet my current needs. It's a bad situation but I'm doing everything possible to find a solution.

[Anonymous]

I have some idea.

[Anonymous]

STOP with the flyover BS!

My kid has a tee with Blaze on it. I have no idea who it is. My kid doesn't watch TV except some youtube music videos of muppets/ sesame street. He LIVES for trucks, will just stare at any truck, or van or whatever on the street. So my step mom got him this shirt. Is it chic and adorable? No. Do I think its cute that she loves my kid enough to randomly go looking for a shirt with a truck? Yes. Have perspective.

Also, I have a really active 2 year old, if yours is like mine you always need clothes for coloring, chalk, paint, bubbles, playing in grass, etc. Use her clothes for that. Or daycare, who cares.

Perspective, try to keep in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have some idea.

Unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Man, OP. Yet thyself to a therapist. You're a fucking mess. Sorry you hate your mom so much. To be clear, if you lose your job because of YOUR childcare situation, that is your problem. Not your mom's. So don't blame her. You seem incredibly ungrateful and if all of this hate is really deeper than clothes you deem ugly then quit using your mom. Sad.

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It's not the clothes that are ugly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you have more money/education than your mom did when you were growing up? The clothes you like have a more upper class appearance than the clothes your mom has picked out. Is it possible that she feels that you are rejecting her and your own upbringing/background by dressing your child in a more upscale sort of way? Maybe she feels hurt and buying your son clothes is her way of dealing with feeling that hurt.
Maybe it's not about the clothes at all. Maybe she wants to feel more accepted by you and more a part of your life.

Education or not the mom has a lot more class. Hope the daughter isn't going to instill her poor values on her child.

Why don't I have class? Because I'm finally standing up to a hateful mother who is still trying to control her 35 year old daughter? You have no idea what our relationship has been my entire life. Yes, this post started out as me complaining about ugly clothes, but as I worked through it, I realized she's doing it to prove a point - I make bad decisions and I'm a bitch for disagreeing with hers. Toxic.

By the way, I don't consider Target clothes "upscale". The shirt I posted was $6.

If this is how you really feel about her the you need to stop using her for childcare, full stop.

She actually went home this morning and won't be coming back. I am going to lose my job because of my childcare situation, but I'm working through that.

Man, OP. Yet thyself to a therapist. You're a fucking mess. Sorry you hate your mom so much. To be clear, if you lose your job because of YOUR childcare situation, that is your problem. Not your mom's. So don't blame her. You seem incredibly ungrateful and if all of this hate is really deeper than clothes you deem ugly then quit using your mom. Sad.

You really have no idea what's going on in my life.

You're right, we don't know what's going on in your life. However, the fact that you're fighting with anonymous people online speaks volumes about you. For what it's worth you have some massive issues that you need to get worked out.

[Anonymous]

Let it go, not worth it. Tell her thanks for the clothes but you have so many and don't want her to waste her money.

Instead suggest she spend money on taking your son out to eat, or some activity they can do together. Zoo, etc.