My mother buys my child the ugliest clothes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, she got to dress her own children. She's being controlling here, not you OP.

This.

Here's what I would do. Allow your mom to dress him how she likes when she cares for him. The rest of it is up to you.

[Anonymous]

What you posted isn't my style either..

But, you can put the kid in her shirt when she comes to babysit. You don't have to let him leave the house with it on.

[Anonymous]

Im on your side, OP. That crap is hideous. Yuck! I'm all for kitchy tourist tees for playing in the back yard or camp or whatever, but I really limit character stuff. You can ask her not to buy shoes by saying you prefer to take him to have him fitted properly.

"Little adult" can go a few ways, so tell us how you're dressing him. It might be totally fine, or there might be middle ground.

But no way would he be wearing doggie shoes in professional shots that I'm paying for. If she's paying, she can pick the outfit and keep the pics and you can pretend it never happened.

[Anonymous]

For stuff like that, I either took it to daycare/school for their spare clothing, or let them play outside in it, so I didn't care if it was ruined. For dressier stuff, I would at least try to have them wear it once. My mom finally got the message on the clothes - it only took 4-5 years. She says we are "preppy". She isn't/wasn't as demanding as your mom, but she would definitely ask if they wore it.

[Anonymous]

If your DS did know these characters, they'd be cute gifts. My mom sends ugly character pajama and my toddler absolutely loves picking out which one to wear. I would never buy them, but hey it makes him happy.
You may find that he loves those clothes before you know it.

[Anonymous]

My mother buys our daughter seriously ugly clothing.

I say to myself, "wow...that's ugly."

Then I put her in it anyways because
1. free clothes
2. delay laundry another day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For stuff like that, I either took it to daycare/school for their spare clothing, or let them play outside in it, so I didn't care if it was ruined. For dressier stuff, I would at least try to have them wear it once. My mom finally got the message on the clothes - it only took 4-5 years. She says we are "preppy". She isn't/wasn't as demanding as your mom, but she would definitely ask if they wore it.

Amen to this with my mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

"Little adult" can go a few ways, so tell us how you're dressing him. It might be totally fine, or there might be middle ground.

Basically Target jeans, plus a t-shirt. Long sleeved t in the winter, maybe a sweater. Plain shoes.

http://www.target.com/p/toddler-boys-t-shirt-heather-gray-stripe-cherokee/-/A-50079139#prodSlot=large_3_21

http://www.janieandjack.com/shop/dept_item.jsp?PRODUCT%3C%3Eprd_id=845524443478542&FOLDER%3C%3Efolder_id=2534374303729359&bmUID=laPHzRT&productSizeSelected=0&fit_type=

http://www.target.com/p/toddler-boy-s-huston-sneakers-cherokee-lite-chambray/-/A-16590688#prodSlot=_1_20

http://www.target.com/p/toddler-boys-pullover-sweater-gray-cherokee/-/A-50435778#prodSlot=large_1_6

Nothing crazy, or little adult, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother buys our daughter seriously ugly clothing.

I say to myself, "wow...that's ugly."

Then I put her in it anyways because
1. free clothes
2. delay laundry another day

I feel like this just me more laundry to do!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So what do I do about her wanting him to wear the hideous puppy shoes for professional photos?

Can't you just snap a couple with those shoes and the rest with the shoes you want him to wear?

In general, this is a tricky subject. I can be more honest with my mom than my MIL, though it sucks because my mom has much better taste than my MIL (except sometimes, puffer Frozen vest for my 2y.o., wha mom?). Bigger issue is that MIL buys v. low quality clothing which looks cheap and stretched out quickly. I don't see them as often, though, so I just make sure she's wearing something when she does see MIL.

My similar issue is with DD's loving nanny who has the absolute most atrocious taste...like, seriously trashy and age inappropriate. But I just let her dress DD in the outfits she occasionally buys her, luckily it's just a couple a year. It's not the end of the world, and I'm glad DD's nanny loves her enough to want to buy her gifts and take ownership of what she's wearing. She probably hates the clothes I buy for DD, but luckily that's the majority of her wardrobe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So what do I do about her wanting him to wear the hideous puppy shoes for professional photos?

Can't you just snap a couple with those shoes and the rest with the shoes you want him to wear?

In general, this is a tricky subject. I can be more honest with my mom than my MIL, though it sucks because my mom has much better taste than my MIL (except sometimes, puffer Frozen vest for my 2y.o., wha mom?). Bigger issue is that MIL buys v. low quality clothing which looks cheap and stretched out quickly. I don't see them as often, though, so I just make sure she's wearing something when she does see MIL.

My similar issue is with DD's loving nanny who has the absolute most atrocious taste...like, seriously trashy and age inappropriate. But I just let her dress DD in the outfits she occasionally buys her, luckily it's just a couple a year. It's not the end of the world, and I'm glad DD's nanny loves her enough to want to buy her gifts and take ownership of what she's wearing. She probably hates the clothes I buy for DD, but luckily that's the majority of her wardrobe

NP here but that will be a huge pain with a toddler. These are professional photos! OP should dress him how she likes. Her mother can take her own photos at another time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So what do I do about her wanting him to wear the hideous puppy shoes for professional photos?

Can't you just snap a couple with those shoes and the rest with the shoes you want him to wear?

Nope. My mom has the eye roll and passive aggressive sigh down to a science. I just told her he has enough shoes and she huffed, yes, huffed, "Fine. I'll take them back." and hung up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Say thank you, and donate it OP. Seriously. This is just not the hill you want to die on. She is trying to criticize you- don't take the bait. Nod, smile and donate.

THIS!

This too shall pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I'm with you. I think those clothes are hideous. I especially hate ones that day "daddy's little princess" or "hunter in training." Gag.

+1

I like the little shirt you posted.

I do too and I hate most character stuff.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like my stupid bitch ass ugly DIL.

Your mother should do what I do. Keep clothes, shoes, toys at her house then she can do what she wants.

I hate having DILs. They are the dregs of the Earth.