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Anonymous
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I've seen a lot of these posts, but she babysits frequently, so she sees if I get rid of them. Seriously, the woman can tell if I put an ugly pair of shoes back in the closet, then she holds them in my face and accuses me of dressing my child poorly.
For example, she recently purchased him this shirt: http://www.walmart.com/ip/Nickelodeon-Blaze-The-Monster-Machines-Toddler-Boy-Short-Sleeve-Graphic-Tee/44016993 He's barely two. He doesn't watch TV. I find this shirt hideous, so I put it in a box in his closet. She came over and asked where it was, then got all passive aggressive about it being hidden. I've asked her to dial down the clothing purchases - he has way too many clothes anyway - and she says that "someone needs to dress him like a child and not a little adult." She just bought him these in three different sizes, wtf? http://www.target.com/p/paw-patrol-toddler-boy-s-sneakers-blue/-/A-17167553#prodSlot=_1_7 I'm at a loss here. Help. |
Anonymous
| I bet he likes those shoes and the shirt. What does he think? His clothing should be the last worry in your mind. |
Anonymous
| Well, maybe you do need to dress him like a child and not like a little adult. |
Anonymous
| How about having a firm rule- no characters on clothing? Which it sounds like is what you want. |
Anonymous
He's barely two. He hasn't really verbalized what clothing he likes, but he doesn't refuse to wear what I buy him. |
Anonymous
| You need to relax. |
Anonymous
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My mother does the same thing, and she buys them at stores I don't have around me (Boscov's, Kohl's) so that I can't exchange them. She also tends to buy things at end-of-season clearance that are too small (and then my DD begs to wear the short-sleeved, too-small Hello Kitty t-shirt that she got for Christmas). Fortunately she doesn't babysit.
OP, I think I would just keep on, keeping on. She buys the stuff, you put it in a box in the closet. She knows you're not using it, so you're probably not going to be able to convince her to stop buying it. I'll be interested in other responses. |
Anonymous
Yes, God forbid OP dress him in something without TV characters emblazoned on it. |
Anonymous
| I can understand not liking characters/logos on kids' clothing. I never buy that stuff. But the kids love it when they get it as a gift, and I would never stop them from wearing it. What you linked isn't hideous. They're cute, childish things. You just don't like them. That's fine. But no need to overreact or be a control freak. Say thank you and me on with your life. |
Anonymous
I suggested this to her, and she told me I was uptight. I'm not uptight, I just don't like wasting money on clothes that aren't nice-looking. This all came to a head today because we're visiting them in a few weeks and she wants to have professional photos of him done while we're there. She immediately followed that sentence with, "Please make sure you bring his doggie sneakers." No, no, no. |
Anonymous
| They're not hideous. Is it just the characters that you object to? |
Anonymous
| he's 2. grandma is buying him clothing for a 2 year old. Stop treating your son like he's a model in a tea or boden catalog. Agree with the PP who suggested that perhaps your two year old likes the cartoon kids clothing. relax. |
Anonymous
my toddler tells me what clothing he likes. |
Anonymous
| Say thank you, and donate it OP. Seriously. This is just not the hill you want to die on. She is trying to criticize you- don't take the bait. Nod, smile and donate. |
Anonymous
Yet... Seriously though, this isn't that important. Try to let it go. That's great that your mom babysits a lot! Hooray! |