S/O Reality of marriage for late 30s woman

[Anonymous]

both spouses working
get a cleaning service
I clean my house b/c I don't work

no need for a dirty house

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sorry, I can't stop laughing at how you've twice now mentioned your "4 pack."

Yeah...and a "four pack" isn't something men care about. Kindness is.

Certainly, the hard working, thoughtful DH deserves more kindness. How remiss of OP not to tie his shoelaces and brush his teeth for him on top of all that she is rightly doing. That lousy four-pack-having shrew!!

Agreed. The four pack makes it even worse, IMO. It shows she is spending actually time focusing on herself rather than her DH. Those times spent at workouts are valuable minutes that could have been spent massaging his feet or shaving his back for him. Evil harpy!!!

You, my dear, have your priorities straight. It is time we brought back public floggings. I want the flesh flayed off any woman seen engaging in an activity that benefits only herself. OP, you have been warned.

I love this thread!

[Anonymous]

OP, are you stil around for update?

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have a younger sister I can date?

[Anonymous]

How long have you been married?

[Anonymous]

OP, I almost married a man that was just like your Husband. We were engaged, then six months later I accidentally got pregnant. I thank the heavens every day that we didn’t get married. He would’ve been just like your DH. After having the baby I quickly realized that despite his good talk, he was going to suck as both a parent and a life partner.

After being together a total of over three years, I realized he was not marriage material after all, and I broke off the engagement and never looked back.

I don’t think it will ever get better for you. I advise you to not have anymore children with this sorry man.

[Anonymous]

Can you get a weekly cleaning service to lighten the load. Perhaps sit down with your DH with the list of chores that need to be maintained and get him to pick half. That way he can pick the half he feels that he can manage.

He may be suffering from depression and it just seems overwhelming to him or he may just be lazy which in that case you need to have a serious heart to heart with him and tell him your expectations and where you are at.

Could you do a deal where he does less chores if he agrees to go to the gym?

[Anonymous]

OP, tell him outright. You don't need a therapist present to tell him, since he won't do marital counseling. Wait for him to get pissy with you and then drop it on him. This actually worked for me, to fix some aspects of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Hoping OP is still around to update us

[Anonymous]

I could have written this post 4 years ago. In my situation, I divorced. OP, would love an update and hope things got better for you.