Women: are you jealous of your friends who married rich men?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Unfortunately a lot of them (mainly my private girls’ high school friends) are in gilded cages married to older men. My friend from college who married a man now in the top 200 richest men in the US gave up motherhood to do so. She does a lot of child-focused charity work but, you can tell it hasn’t healed that wound. She’s the richest sibling and cousin in her huge family and the only one with no kids of her own. It wouldn’t be an issue if she wanted to be child-free, but she has always wanted kids. She talks about it a lot.

He doesn’t want heirs?

NP. I’m assuming second marriage with a vasectomy he can’t or won’t reverse.

[Anonymous]

No. Most are divorced. One lost primary custody of DCs because EX was able to out lawyer her. The others are to controlled by their DH’s and have very little voice in their marriage (eg live where DH says, put up with cheating, etc). I prefer to have made my own money and the life I have.

[Anonymous]

I do not know of anyone who married a rich man, but a lot of them became rich during the course of their marriage.

We are not rich (HHI is 350K), I am SAHM and my DH is in a low stress and very secure job with tons of benefits. We are financially quite secure and do not have worries for the future (generous pension, no debts, college covered, medical, lots of insurance). If we have the need to pull out 500K for any unexpected cost, we can do it. We live a comfortable lifestyle with cleaners, eating out, vacations, organic foods etc.

My DH can make a lot of money and we can definitely quadruple our net-worth in a few years if he pursues other opportunities but it will mean insane work hours and not having a very laid back lifestyle with our kids. So we are happy where we are. We also have a solid marriage, and we spend a lot of time together as a couple so we are at a very good place relationshipwise. We also hold all our assets together and I manage all the money and investments, so monetary concerns are not a driving factor.

There are very few people in our group of friends who make more than us and have intact marriages/ successful kids as well. There is probably no one that I know whose life and fortune I am envious of. I feel very blessed. I do not envy any other woman who is working because it is a much harder life than what I lead. I have a comfortable, non-hectic life where I take care of my house, my kids and myself. They on the other hand have a full time job AND they have to do everything at home too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not know of anyone who married a rich man, but a lot of them became rich during the course of their marriage.

We are not rich (HHI is 350K), I am SAHM and my DH is in a low stress and very secure job with tons of benefits. We are financially quite secure and do not have worries for the future (generous pension, no debts, college covered, medical, lots of insurance). If we have the need to pull out 500K for any unexpected cost, we can do it. We live a comfortable lifestyle with cleaners, eating out, vacations, organic foods etc.

My DH can make a lot of money and we can definitely quadruple our net-worth in a few years if he pursues other opportunities but it will mean insane work hours and not having a very laid back lifestyle with our kids. So we are happy where we are. We also have a solid marriage, and we spend a lot of time together as a couple so we are at a very good place relationshipwise. We also hold all our assets together and I manage all the money and investments, so monetary concerns are not a driving factor.

There are very few people in our group of friends who make more than us and have intact marriages/ successful kids as well. There is probably no one that I know whose life and fortune I am envious of. I feel very blessed. I do not envy any other woman who is working because it is a much harder life than what I lead. I have a comfortable, non-hectic life where I take care of my house, my kids and myself. They on the other hand have a full time job AND they have to do everything at home too. [/quote

If your husband has a laid back job that pays $350k and you do not work, you should indeed feel blessed. You are like the 0.00001%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not know of anyone who married a rich man, but a lot of them became rich during the course of their marriage.

We are not rich (HHI is 350K), I am SAHM and my DH is in a low stress and very secure job with tons of benefits. We are financially quite secure and do not have worries for the future (generous pension, no debts, college covered, medical, lots of insurance). If we have the need to pull out 500K for any unexpected cost, we can do it. We live a comfortable lifestyle with cleaners, eating out, vacations, organic foods etc.

My DH can make a lot of money and we can definitely quadruple our net-worth in a few years if he pursues other opportunities but it will mean insane work hours and not having a very laid back lifestyle with our kids. So we are happy where we are. We also have a solid marriage, and we spend a lot of time together as a couple so we are at a very good place relationshipwise. We also hold all our assets together and I manage all the money and investments, so monetary concerns are not a driving factor.

There are very few people in our group of friends who make more than us and have intact marriages/ successful kids as well. There is probably no one that I know whose life and fortune I am envious of. I feel very blessed. I do not envy any other woman who is working because it is a much harder life than what I lead. I have a comfortable, non-hectic life where I take care of my house, my kids and myself. They on the other hand have a full time job AND they have to do everything at home too.

If your husband has a laid back job that pays $350k and you do not work, you should indeed feel blessed. You are like the 0.00001%.

Isn't 350K a middle class life style? So a single earning HHI, with a SAHM not a sign of mediocrity on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. Unfortunately a lot of them (mainly my private girls’ high school friends) are in gilded cages married to older men. My friend from college who married a man now in the top 200 richest men in the US gave up motherhood to do so. She does a lot of child-focused charity work but, you can tell it hasn’t healed that wound. She’s the richest sibling and cousin in her huge family and the only one with no kids of her own. It wouldn’t be an issue if she wanted to be child-free, but she has always wanted kids. She talks about it a lot.

He doesn’t want heirs?

NP. I’m assuming second marriage with a vasectomy he can’t or won’t reverse.

Yes, he had children with his first wife. They are young adults. He is not interested in raising more kids or diluting the existing kids’ inheritance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None of my friends married rich men but many, including myself, married men who became rich. I had my own career as well so it was fun starting out with little and then having a lot with being in love the real constant.

If you really had LITTLE, it wasn’t fun.

Tolerable, maybe. Even something that deepened your love and devotion.

But truly being poor is not fun.

[Anonymous]

DH and I live comfortably and we enjoy ourselves but still.have to budget. My friend married a man from a wealthy family and who makes mid 7 figures a year. I was completely jealous at first. But then they had their own struggles so I got over myself. She ended up being envious of things in my life, so being jealous of her seemed silly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. However, when my friend who is a SAHM married to a rich guy said "I feel I owe him sex because of all that he gives me and my family," It made me kinda glad I'm not.

Yes, hard to be someone like Melanesia Hrump.

I have so much respect for women like Kylie Jenner. She has been able to be with the most hideous men sexually, even when she did not need the money She is so unbiased and spiritually evolved.

[Anonymous]

Who resurrected this thread from 2015 and why???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not know of anyone who married a rich man, but a lot of them became rich during the course of their marriage.

We are not rich (HHI is 350K), I am SAHM and my DH is in a low stress and very secure job with tons of benefits. We are financially quite secure and do not have worries for the future (generous pension, no debts, college covered, medical, lots of insurance). If we have the need to pull out 500K for any unexpected cost, we can do it. We live a comfortable lifestyle with cleaners, eating out, vacations, organic foods etc.

My DH can make a lot of money and we can definitely quadruple our net-worth in a few years if he pursues other opportunities but it will mean insane work hours and not having a very laid back lifestyle with our kids. So we are happy where we are. We also have a solid marriage, and we spend a lot of time together as a couple so we are at a very good place relationshipwise. We also hold all our assets together and I manage all the money and investments, so monetary concerns are not a driving factor.

There are very few people in our group of friends who make more than us and have intact marriages/ successful kids as well. There is probably no one that I know whose life and fortune I am envious of. I feel very blessed. I do not envy any other woman who is working because it is a much harder life than what I lead. I have a comfortable, non-hectic life where I take care of my house, my kids and myself. They on the other hand have a full time job AND they have to do everything at home too.

What you don’t understand is that many working women get satisfaction out of their job. I wouldn’t want my entire world to be about my house and kids. I want my own identity and ability to control my future. One can easily outsource housework and other tasks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not know of anyone who married a rich man, but a lot of them became rich during the course of their marriage.

We are not rich (HHI is 350K), I am SAHM and my DH is in a low stress and very secure job with tons of benefits. We are financially quite secure and do not have worries for the future (generous pension, no debts, college covered, medical, lots of insurance). If we have the need to pull out 500K for any unexpected cost, we can do it. We live a comfortable lifestyle with cleaners, eating out, vacations, organic foods etc.

My DH can make a lot of money and we can definitely quadruple our net-worth in a few years if he pursues other opportunities but it will mean insane work hours and not having a very laid back lifestyle with our kids. So we are happy where we are. We also have a solid marriage, and we spend a lot of time together as a couple so we are at a very good place relationshipwise. We also hold all our assets together and I manage all the money and investments, so monetary concerns are not a driving factor.

There are very few people in our group of friends who make more than us and have intact marriages/ successful kids as well. There is probably no one that I know whose life and fortune I am envious of. I feel very blessed. I do not envy any other woman who is working because it is a much harder life than what I lead. I have a comfortable, non-hectic life where I take care of my house, my kids and myself. They on the other hand have a full time job AND they have to do everything at home too.

If your husband has a laid back job that pays $350k and you do not work, you should indeed feel blessed. You are like the 0.00001%.

+1

My husband makes double that in a low stress stable secure job

Not hard

I work too though. I’d rather stick a fork in my eye than sah.
Isn't 350K a middle class life style? So a single earning HHI, with a SAHM not a sign of mediocrity on DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Rich or poor. Never know how things will turn out. Best to have what you need. Save some money in case of emergency.

You revived a 4 1/2 year old thread to say that??? Why?

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I can't do it myself. It is hard to find a rich and good looking man.

[Anonymous]

Not jealous, because to be rich I'd have to live with that guy.