Question for white, upper middle class moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not try to befriend black and hispanic upper class moms too?

It looks like OP wants to befriend only upper class white women. Other posters are asking questions about befriending blacks and hispanic women- OP never responded back but has been back on and responded to others and/or added more comments.

OP here. Read all the posts, please, before you make such a strong statement. I already answered that yes, of course, I
am interested in any friends. I asked specifically about white UMC because those are the vast majority in my area AND because I
have not had the same issues with non-white moms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is this shit getting your kids into TJ?

What are you talking about? We aren't interested in TJ? I see you are one who stereotypes and won't befriend an Asian-American.

[Anonymous]

Should be a period after TJ. Not interested.

[Anonymous]

OP: If you try not to be racist, others will try also. That means you do not run off the minute you find another mom who is Asian and talk down about "typical Americans" No one wants to be friends with someone who stabs them behind their back. Racism goes both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why not try to befriend black and hispanic upper class moms too?

It looks like OP wants to befriend only upper class white women. Other posters are asking questions about befriending blacks and hispanic women- OP never responded back but has been back on and responded to others and/or added more comments.

Not OP but not true. When asked about AA moms, OP indicated the ones she know are are friendly and that is why she did not inquire.

Thank you for reading and defending me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: If you try not to be racist, others will try also. That means you do not run off the minute you find another mom who is Asian and talk down about "typical Americans" No one wants to be friends with someone who stabs them behind their back. Racism goes both ways.

I don't do this. Do you assume all Asians do this? If so, I guess I have the answer to my question from you.

[Anonymous]

I wish I could find a way to meet all the friendly people who posted that they are looking to make new friends!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish I could find a way to meet all the friendly people who posted that they are looking to make new friends!

+1

Me, too!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: If you try not to be racist, others will try also. That means you do not run off the minute you find another mom who is Asian and talk down about "typical Americans" No one wants to be friends with someone who stabs them behind their back. Racism goes both ways.

OMG, where did OP indicate that?

[Anonymous]

11:21 and 11:23 was OP. I forgot to identify myself!

[Anonymous]

I am Asian-American and grew up MoCo. Growing up, I found that there was not outright racism but definitely stereotypes and segregation. While there are plenty of individuals who are open to being friends, as a group I think many white people don't know how prejudice they can be unconsciously. And since you ask about upper middle class white people, that is an especially tricky bunch! It could be a combo of your being Asian and also midwestern. http://stuffwhitepeoplelike.com

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: If you try not to be racist, others will try also. That means you do not run off the minute you find another mom who is Asian and talk down about "typical Americans" No one wants to be friends with someone who stabs them behind their back. Racism goes both ways.

+1

I know an awful lot of Asian moms, specifically, who make up stories about white moms.

In their case, they are extremely insecure that their husband will leave them for a white woman - strong, independent, stable, self-confident, capable, Americanized, educated here, assimilated here, socialized here.......

Oh, and not crazy, fixated, obsessed and one way. Besides, who wants their aging relatives moving in with them in this day and age? And their relatives talking about their spouse in their language all the time, especially every single holiday? You don't think that gets old?

Think if you might have the aforementioned insecurities deep down, though of course you would never admit it here, OP.

Go ahead, dare to ask me how I know. First hand.

I don't talk about white moms. I don't cross white moms. Because I know better. Surprise - we are still a minority, OP. It will always, always, always bite you in the arse.

Settle down and worry about yourself, and what you might be doing to distance people.

[Anonymous]

OP, your post sounds like, how can I get white women to be my friend? I wonder if the only friendships you would value are those of white people.

[Anonymous]

I think many white moms are just like you and feel the same way. There are so many lonely people thay post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, your post sounds like, how can I get white women to be my friend? I wonder if the only friendships you would value are those of white people.

+1