Question for white, upper middle class moms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not at all - I'm Jewish....Jews / Asians often have a lot in common.

Glad we're not the only ones to have noticed this! DH is a korean immigrant and gets along like gangbusters with all my Jewish friends. There is a lot of similarity in their cultural backgrounds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why not try to befriend black and hispanic upper class moms too?

It looks like OP wants to befriend only upper class white women. Other posters are asking questions about befriending blacks and hispanic women- OP never responded back but has been back on and responded to others and/or added more comments.

Not OP but not true. When asked about AA moms, OP indicated the ones she know are are friendly and that is why she did not inquire.

Thank you for reading and defending me.

You are welcome. Perhaps our paths will cross. Signed, white UMC mom

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why not try to befriend black and hispanic upper class moms too?

It looks like OP wants to befriend only upper class white women. Other posters are asking questions about befriending blacks and hispanic women- OP never responded back but has been back on and responded to others and/or added more comments.

Not OP but not true. When asked about AA moms, OP indicated the ones she know are are friendly and that is why she did not inquire.

Thank you for reading and defending me.

You are welcome. Perhaps our paths will cross. Signed, white UMC mom

Black man here. This reminds me that there are way too many idiots on DCUM to discuss race. Too many insecure black folks who want to hijack every thread with their own insecurities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. For the 3rd or 4th time, the vast majority in my area are UMC white moms. I'm happy to be friends with others and have had more luck
but there are really not many. And I'm still left out of most of the socializing. That is why I asked the question of that group. I wish people would read before they post.

OMG! This is freaking ridiculous. Op, don't even read what people are posting (except to laugh) any more. I live in an area where there are a lot of Asian women and American Asian women, and they are awesome! Don't listen to any of this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your post sounds like, how can I get white women to be my friend? I wonder if the only friendships you would value are those of white people.

READ the freaking post!!

It sounds like the OP lives in Bethesda or upper NW where THE VAST, VAST MAJORITY OF MOMS ARE WHITE.

I live in upper NW and I know 2 Asian families and about 200 white families.

OP is not being a racist. She is just trying to fit in to the community in which she lives.

Oh man this makes me not want to move to upper NW if she is having these issues there. I am Asian American too and thinking of moving to DC.

[Anonymous]

White, Upper-Middle Class woman in Bethesda here.

I don't care about your race, ethnicity, religious beliefs or politics beliefs. If you're a nice person who I can have an intelligent and meaningful conversation with - I'm going to like you. period.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To be completely honest, I feel most comfortable around people like me- same race, same type of upbringing, same lifestyle. Many people make an effort to make a diverse group of friends- and that's great. But there are also many of us who prefer being around people like ourselves. It's not PC to say this, so it's nothing I'd admit to anyone. You can see this mentality across all different demographics- not just UMC white women.

bingo!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, your post sounds like, how can I get white women to be my friend? I wonder if the only friendships you would value are those of white people.

READ the freaking post!!

It sounds like the OP lives in Bethesda or upper NW where THE VAST, VAST MAJORITY OF MOMS ARE WHITE.

I live in upper NW and I know 2 Asian families and about 200 white families.

OP is not being a racist. She is just trying to fit in to the community in which she lives.

Oh man this makes me not want to move to upper NW if she is having these issues there. I am Asian American too and thinking of moving to DC.

You are a moron if you think that anything that is said on this site is representative of.the actual region. And given this, please for the love of god, don't move here Or moron quota has been fulfilled.

[Anonymous]

Ok. I'll be honest.

We are definitely not upper class financially, but we are a early 30s couple with very respectable professional jobs (think lawyer, accountant, architect, etc...). Due to the nature of where we've chosen to work, we probably make less than our peers in the same profession. Anyway...

I find a large proportion of the upper class, professional (east) Asian women and some men I know to be so perfect. Intimidatingly so. Smart, well-respected in their careers, nice little families with grandparents close by, they cook, they are nice, thin, have pretty homes, all the bells and whistles. So if I keep any distance it's because I feel inferior or a little ashamed!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all - I'm Jewish....Jews / Asians often have a lot in common.

Glad we're not the only ones to have noticed this! DH is a korean immigrant and gets along like gangbusters with all my Jewish friends. There is a lot of similarity in their cultural backgrounds.

Indian-American here - I have always gotten along with Jewish people than non-jewish whites. Effortless really.

[Anonymous]

AA woman...same re: easy relationships with Jewish women. They were also some of the best mentors in my career and when single I always found it endearing that the older ones were always trying be matchmaker.

[Anonymous]

I'll throw this out there. I have a friend whose parents are from India. My friend has a name that is not common outside of India. It's not easy to spell, it's not easy to pronounce. She is a physician and thought having moved to a new area, she was having trouble feeling accepted. She asked for my advice so I was blunt with her. She needs to state upfront, right away, what she has in common - she was born and raised in Illinois.

People assume she is more foreign than she is. I wouldn't have given that advice (probably not too PC) but she asked. OP, find a very common aspect of your personal history and share this right away when you meet someone new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:White, Upper-Middle Class woman in Bethesda here.

I don't care about your race, ethnicity, religious beliefs or politics beliefs. If you're a nice person who I can have an intelligent and meaningful conversation with - I'm going to like you. period.

This, exactly.

[Anonymous]

I would be totally fine with an Asian friend. I don't particularly care. The court where I live is like a melting pot. I love it. My husband is AA, my children are light brown, I love that we live someplace that is representative of the world. My son takes kung fu classes, the families are mostly Chinese, and I'm there about 2-3 times a week. Maybe because I socialize and used to work with people from so many cultures, it's not something I consider?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not at all - I'm Jewish....Jews / Asians often have a lot in common.

Glad we're not the only ones to have noticed this! DH is a korean immigrant and gets along like gangbusters with all my Jewish friends. There is a lot of similarity in their cultural backgrounds.

I have tons of Jewish friends. I've never heard this. However, we do agree that Italians and Jews are very similar.

I think it's all about cultural bonds with family.