Opening presents during a birthday party versus after

[Anonymous]

I would be embarrassed if my child hated or tolerated watching another person open gifts on their special day. How self-centered can you allow your kids to be? Parents know your type of kids. The ones that blurt out, roll their eyes if things don't go their way and whine whine whine and then a parent caves and gives in. Cycle starts all over again.

I guess in this case maybe you should complain to the host that invited your child that your child dislikes present opening time when they whine about to you. Please don't take the time to teach your child manners, patience, being happy when others are happy - that is a total waste of time. My guess is they roll your eyes, you throw up your hands in defeat and look back down at your iPhone 5. DC Parenting 101

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be embarrassed if my child hated or tolerated watching another person open gifts on their special day. How self-centered can you allow your kids to be? Parents know your type of kids. The ones that blurt out, roll their eyes if things don't go their way and whine whine whine and then a parent caves and gives in. Cycle starts all over again.

I guess in this case maybe you should complain to the host that invited your child that your child dislikes present opening time when they whine about to you. Please don't take the time to teach your child manners, patience, being happy when others are happy - that is a total waste of time. My guess is they roll your eyes, you throw up your hands in defeat and look back down at your iPhone 5. DC Parenting 101

+100

I'm amazed these parents are not appalled by the children's reactions but actually come on here and proclaim their children don't like the gift opening----as if the hosts are supposed to give a fuck and actually alter their party structure for them!

Teach your freaking kids to celebrate others, respect someone else's day, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be embarrassed if my child hated or tolerated watching another person open gifts on their special day. How self-centered can you allow your kids to be? Parents know your type of kids. The ones that blurt out, roll their eyes if things don't go their way and whine whine whine and then a parent caves and gives in. Cycle starts all over again.

I guess in this case maybe you should complain to the host that invited your child that your child dislikes present opening time when they whine about to you. Please don't take the time to teach your child manners, patience, being happy when others are happy - that is a total waste of time. My guess is they roll your eyes, you throw up your hands in defeat and look back down at your iPhone 5. DC Parenting 101

+100

I'm amazed these parents are not appalled by the children's reactions but actually come on here and proclaim their children don't like the gift opening----as if the hosts are supposed to give a fuck and actually alter their party structure for them!

Teach your freaking kids to celebrate others, respect someone else's day, etc.

That is DC Parenting 102. They dropped the class due to low enrollment

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just finished reading this thread. Different strokes for different folks. I can say that my three children do not enjoy watching their friends open birthday presents. They tolerate it. They don't open their presents In front of others either. I will add that I think it is interesting when posters talks about manners and being selfless and then also call kids douches in the making. I'd be more concerned about raising a kid whose parent thinks calling other kids names and labeling them over an incident like what they prefer regarding present opening than how how they feel about present opening in the presence of others.

I'm sure you would. After all your kids don't enjoy seeing others celebrated in the way they (the hosts) seem fit . They can only. 'Tolerate ' it . If you were smart you 'd be more concerned about your children's attitudes than anonymous posts on a message board.

NP here: thanks, mom(not). You are annoying, judgmental, and on a high horse.

So what? At least my children know to be gracious enough not to complain about how a person conducts their own birthday party.

Their mother is annoying.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just finished reading this thread. Different strokes for different folks. I can say that my three children do not enjoy watching their friends open birthday presents. They tolerate it. They don't open their presents In front of others either. I will add that I think it is interesting when posters talks about manners and being selfless and then also call kids douches in the making. I'd be more concerned about raising a kid whose parent thinks calling other kids names and labeling them over an incident like what they prefer regarding present opening than how how they feel about present opening in the presence of others.

I'm sure you would. After all your kids don't enjoy seeing others celebrated in the way they (the hosts) seem fit . They can only. 'Tolerate ' it . If you were smart you 'd be more concerned about your children's attitudes than anonymous posts on a message board.

NP here: thanks, mom(not). You are annoying, judgmental, and on a high horse.

So what? At least my children know to be gracious enough not to complain about how a person conducts their own birthday party.

Their mother is annoying.

Yeah, well, she's an annoying mother who had the good sense to teacher her children how to be polite, gracious and celebrate/be happy for other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be embarrassed if my child hated or tolerated watching another person open gifts on their special day. How self-centered can you allow your kids to be? Parents know your type of kids. The ones that blurt out, roll their eyes if things don't go their way and whine whine whine and then a parent caves and gives in. Cycle starts all over again.

I guess in this case maybe you should complain to the host that invited your child that your child dislikes present opening time when they whine about to you. Please don't take the time to teach your child manners, patience, being happy when others are happy - that is a total waste of time. My guess is they roll your eyes, you throw up your hands in defeat and look back down at your iPhone 5. DC Parenting 101

+100

I'm amazed these parents are not appalled by the children's reactions but actually come on here and proclaim their children don't like the gift opening----as if the hosts are supposed to give a fuck and actually alter their party structure for them!

Teach your freaking kids to celebrate others, respect someone else's day, etc.

Agree

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just finished reading this thread. Different strokes for different folks. I can say that my three children do not enjoy watching their friends open birthday presents. They tolerate it. They don't open their presents In front of others either. I will add that I think it is interesting when posters talks about manners and being selfless and then also call kids douches in the making. I'd be more concerned about raising a kid whose parent thinks calling other kids names and labeling them over an incident like what they prefer regarding present opening than how how they feel about present opening in the presence of others.

I'm sure you would. After all your kids don't enjoy seeing others celebrated in the way they (the hosts) seem fit . They can only. 'Tolerate ' it . If you were smart you 'd be more concerned about your children's attitudes than anonymous posts on a message board.

NP here: thanks, mom(not). You are annoying, judgmental, and on a high horse.

So what? At least my children know to be gracious enough not to complain about how a person conducts their own birthday party.

Their mother is annoying.

Yeah, well, she's an annoying mother who had the good sense to teacher her children how to be polite, gracious and celebrate/be happy for other people.

Disagree...doesn't have food sense. Only sees her way. I'm thinking she is the one who is replying above.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just finished reading this thread. Different strokes for different folks. I can say that my three children do not enjoy watching their friends open birthday presents. They tolerate it. They don't open their presents In front of others either. I will add that I think it is interesting when posters talks about manners and being selfless and then also call kids douches in the making. I'd be more concerned about raising a kid whose parent thinks calling other kids names and labeling them over an incident like what they prefer regarding present opening than how how they feel about present opening in the presence of others.

I'm sure you would. After all your kids don't enjoy seeing others celebrated in the way they (the hosts) seem fit . They can only. 'Tolerate ' it . If you were smart you 'd be more concerned about your children's attitudes than anonymous posts on a message board.

NP here: thanks, mom(not). You are annoying, judgmental, and on a high horse.

So what? At least my children know to be gracious enough not to complain about how a person conducts their own birthday party.

Their mother is annoying.

Yeah, well, she's an annoying mother who had the good sense to teacher her children how to be polite, gracious and celebrate/be happy for other people.

"Good" sense.
Disagree...doesn't have food sense. Only sees her way. I'm thinking she is the one who is replying above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be embarrassed if my child hated or tolerated watching another person open gifts on their special day. How self-centered can you allow your kids to be? Parents know your type of kids. The ones that blurt out, roll their eyes if things don't go their way and whine whine whine and then a parent caves and gives in. Cycle starts all over again.

I guess in this case maybe you should complain to the host that invited your child that your child dislikes present opening time when they whine about to you. Please don't take the time to teach your child manners, patience, being happy when others are happy - that is a total waste of time. My guess is they roll your eyes, you throw up your hands in defeat and look back down at your iPhone 5. DC Parenting 101

+100

I'm amazed these parents are not appalled by the children's reactions but actually come on here and proclaim their children don't like the gift opening----as if the hosts are supposed to give a fuck and actually alter their party structure for them!

Teach your freaking kids to celebrate others, respect someone else's day, etc.

Appalled that my kid is open enough with me to privately express how he feels about something? You ladies get up in arms too easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How painfully tedious. No one wants to endure this nightmare. At our house we open 4 gifts a day and write thank you cards along the way. DH and I opened our wedding gifts this way too. More enjoyable than a gift opening frenzy imho.

This is exactly what we do. DD is six, and she knows our tradition is to open 3-4 a day, and to write the thank you note immediately after we open each one. This way, she thinks about the gift and the giver, plays with the gift etc. before moving on to the next one.

We've found it stops the frenzy where everything blends together for her. She also remembers long-term who got her what, which is sweet when she later refers to "the game Myles got for me" or "the bead set from Eva." This is our third year doing this, and it's amazing that she really remembers who got her what in a nice way.

AND she's involved in the thank you notes, both in that she has to delay opening the next present until we write the thank you note, and in that she has a hand in writing them. At age four, she put stickers on each envelope to personalize it. At age five, she signed her name on each. This year, she wrote a simple first sentence and I added some other sentences with details about the specific gift.

This is one of the reasons we open presents privately at home after the party. I'd hate for DD to wiz through the opening process and not have time to appreciate the gifts or her friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How painfully tedious. No one wants to endure this nightmare. At our house we open 4 gifts a day and write thank you cards along the way. DH and I opened our wedding gifts this way too. More enjoyable than a gift opening frenzy imho.

This is exactly what we do. DD is six, and she knows our tradition is to open 3-4 a day, and to write the thank you note immediately after we open each one. This way, she thinks about the gift and the giver, plays with the gift etc. before moving on to the next one.

We've found it stops the frenzy where everything blends together for her. She also remembers long-term who got her what, which is sweet when she later refers to "the game Myles got for me" or "the bead set from Eva." This is our third year doing this, and it's amazing that she really remembers who got her what in a nice way.

AND she's involved in the thank you notes, both in that she has to delay opening the next present until we write the thank you note, and in that she has a hand in writing them. At age four, she put stickers on each envelope to personalize it. At age five, she signed her name on each. This year, she wrote a simple first sentence and I added some other sentences with details about the specific gift.

This is one of the reasons we open presents privately at home after the party. I'd hate for DD to wiz through the opening process and not have time to appreciate the gifts or her friends.

My kids open the presents during the party and have no difficulty appreciating the gift or remembering who gave what. It seems it comes down to the child. It sounds like your daughter needs slow input of information with lots of time to process in order to remember. If I had a child with similar cognitive abilities, I would still open during the party but I would be sure to write down every gift then we could go over it repeatedly and practice who gave what until they got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How painfully tedious. No one wants to endure this nightmare. At our house we open 4 gifts a day and write thank you cards along the way. DH and I opened our wedding gifts this way too. More enjoyable than a gift opening frenzy imho.

This is exactly what we do. DD is six, and she knows our tradition is to open 3-4 a day, and to write the thank you note immediately after we open each one. This way, she thinks about the gift and the giver, plays with the gift etc. before moving on to the next one.

We've found it stops the frenzy where everything blends together for her. She also remembers long-term who got her what, which is sweet when she later refers to "the game Myles got for me" or "the bead set from Eva." This is our third year doing this, and it's amazing that she really remembers who got her what in a nice way.

AND she's involved in the thank you notes, both in that she has to delay opening the next present until we write the thank you note, and in that she has a hand in writing them. At age four, she put stickers on each envelope to personalize it. At age five, she signed her name on each. This year, she wrote a simple first sentence and I added some other sentences with details about the specific gift.

This is one of the reasons we open presents privately at home after the party. I'd hate for DD to wiz through the opening process and not have time to appreciate the gifts or her friends.

My kids open the presents during the party and have no difficulty appreciating the gift or remembering who gave what. It seems it comes down to the child. It sounds like your daughter needs slow input of information with lots of time to process in order to remember. If I had a child with similar cognitive abilities, I would still open during the party but I would be sure to write down every gift then we could go over it repeatedly and practice who gave what until they got it.

OMG you are rude as hell. My kid, in AAP, opens ONE a day as we have done for years when my sister in law suggested it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How painfully tedious. No one wants to endure this nightmare. At our house we open 4 gifts a day and write thank you cards along the way. DH and I opened our wedding gifts this way too. More enjoyable than a gift opening frenzy imho.

This is exactly what we do. DD is six, and she knows our tradition is to open 3-4 a day, and to write the thank you note immediately after we open each one. This way, she thinks about the gift and the giver, plays with the gift etc. before moving on to the next one.

We've found it stops the frenzy where everything blends together for her. She also remembers long-term who got her what, which is sweet when she later refers to "the game Myles got for me" or "the bead set from Eva." This is our third year doing this, and it's amazing that she really remembers who got her what in a nice way.

AND she's involved in the thank you notes, both in that she has to delay opening the next present until we write the thank you note, and in that she has a hand in writing them. At age four, she put stickers on each envelope to personalize it. At age five, she signed her name on each. This year, she wrote a simple first sentence and I added some other sentences with details about the specific gift.

This is one of the reasons we open presents privately at home after the party. I'd hate for DD to wiz through the opening process and not have time to appreciate the gifts or her friends.

My kids open the presents during the party and have no difficulty appreciating the gift or remembering who gave what. It seems it comes down to the child. It sounds like your daughter needs slow input of information with lots of time to process in order to remember. If I had a child with similar cognitive abilities, I would still open during the party but I would be sure to write down every gift then we could go over it repeatedly and practice who gave what until they got it.

I hope your kids take after their other parent, and not you. You are unbelievable. Reread what you wrote and then go away.

P.S. Kind of funny you're suggesting how to handle others with low cognitive abilities, when your advice has a grammatical error in it. Can you find it?

[Anonymous]

Just asked my 8.5 year old. She said she doesn't like it when the bday kid opens presents at the party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How painfully tedious. No one wants to endure this nightmare. At our house we open 4 gifts a day and write thank you cards along the way. DH and I opened our wedding gifts this way too. More enjoyable than a gift opening frenzy imho.

This is exactly what we do. DD is six, and she knows our tradition is to open 3-4 a day, and to write the thank you note immediately after we open each one. This way, she thinks about the gift and the giver, plays with the gift etc. before moving on to the next one.

We've found it stops the frenzy where everything blends together for her. She also remembers long-term who got her what, which is sweet when she later refers to "the game Myles got for me" or "the bead set from Eva." This is our third year doing this, and it's amazing that she really remembers who got her what in a nice way.

AND she's involved in the thank you notes, both in that she has to delay opening the next present until we write the thank you note, and in that she has a hand in writing them. At age four, she put stickers on each envelope to personalize it. At age five, she signed her name on each. This year, she wrote a simple first sentence and I added some other sentences with details about the specific gift.

This is one of the reasons we open presents privately at home after the party. I'd hate for DD to wiz through the opening process and not have time to appreciate the gifts or her friends.

My kids open the presents during the party and have no difficulty appreciating the gift or remembering who gave what. It seems it comes down to the child. It sounds like your daughter needs slow input of information with lots of time to process in order to remember. If I had a child with similar cognitive abilities, I would still open during the party but I would be sure to write down every gift then we could go over it repeatedly and practice who gave what until they got it.

LOL!! You clearly don't know my child or her cognitive abilities. But thanks for your guesswork. It gave me a good laugh tonight.