Would guys be interested in a woman with 3 kids

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Anonymous wrote:"Just because you "can" doesn't mean you should. If you care at all for what's best for the kids, that is. And yes, absolutely, I think the OP should focus on her kids first, rather than her love life, and yes, that most likely means no dating until the youngest one is grown."

No nookie for a decade or more? While OP is still in her prime? LOL!

Would you give the same advice to a man?

The person who said OP should not date and have sex for fourteen years has probably not had sex in that many years of her married life. So it is no big deal to her. She had sex to catch her husband and then stopped after the kid(s) came along. Her DH is getting it elsewhere and she wants OP to endure endure what she is enduring.

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Anonymous wrote:^^ being an unmarried mom of three on the prowl for dick. Not the most intelligent selfless person in the group.

You are a ranting idiot.

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Anonymous wrote:And when is this cutoff that it would be better not to date until the child is out od the house? One kid, two kids, three kids? So any parent who is single/divorced with kids in the home should stop dating until kids leave the home?

NP here, and I think that is exactly the best situation, at least for the kids. OP chose to have 3 children, without the benefit of being married. That was her decision. And now -- surprise -- she and "daddy" have split, amicably, of course, but still a drastic adjustment for the kids. Her priority should not be wondering whether or not she is damaged goods in the eyes of any would-be boyfriend. It would be nice if she cared more about her kids and their needs.

Why do you people keep emphasizing her marital status. Would your judgment be different if she was a divorced mother of three? Heck, OP's description of her ex seems more responsive than a lot of posts on DCUM about absentee ex and current husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^ Not everyone puts their vagina before their kids' welfare. My kids will ALWAYS come first. Lots of women on here who think getting laid is more important than their kids. Sad! And we wonder why our culture has decayed so much. People without self respect and dignity abound.

You really need to get laid. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I don't have that problem. My husband and father of my children takes care of business in the bedroom quite well. My children still come first and if I was single I would be focused of them. You can get an orgasm solo, you know. If reaching a climax is oh so important that you would throw your kids welfare to the wind, at least have the compassion to jerk off.... Since you are a jerk off.

This does not ring true. You protest too much.

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Anonymous wrote:Believe me, I don't have that problem. My husband and father of my children takes care of business in the bedroom quite well. My children still come first and if I was single I would be focused of them. You can get an orgasm solo, you know. If reaching a climax is oh so important that you would throw your kids welfare to the wind, at least have the compassion to jerk off.... Since you are a jerk off.

Dude. You got me laughing so hard right now! You're such a sad little lady.

Well then. If you ever become a single mother, may you never get laid again or find a best friend to confide in and help raise your children. That's your choice. Congratulations for being a rancid person! Hugs!

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Anonymous wrote:And when is this cutoff that it would be better not to date until the child is out od the house? One kid, two kids, three kids? So any parent who is single/divorced with kids in the home should stop dating until kids leave the home?

NP here, and I think that is exactly the best situation, at least for the kids. OP chose to have 3 children, without the benefit of being married. That was her decision. And now -- surprise -- she and "daddy" have split, amicably, of course, but still a drastic adjustment for the kids. Her priority should not be wondering whether or not she is damaged goods in the eyes of any would-be boyfriend. It would be nice if she cared more about her kids and their needs.

Why do you people keep emphasizing her marital status. Would your judgment be different if she was a divorced mother of three? Heck, OP's description of her ex seems more responsive than a lot of posts on DCUM about absentee ex and current husbands.

Absolutely not, situation would be the same if she were a divorced mother of three young children. And to the ex-hubby, too, in that case. The never-married status is relevant here because it shows a pattern of short-term, shallow thinking and putting her desires/ wants/ preferences ahead of what is (statistically) better for children.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And when is this cutoff that it would be better not to date until the child is out od the house? One kid, two kids, three kids? So any parent who is single/divorced with kids in the home should stop dating until kids leave the home?

NP here, and I think that is exactly the best situation, at least for the kids. OP chose to have 3 children, without the benefit of being married. That was her decision. And now -- surprise -- she and "daddy" have split, amicably, of course, but still a drastic adjustment for the kids. Her priority should not be wondering whether or not she is damaged goods in the eyes of any would-be boyfriend. It would be nice if she cared more about her kids and their needs.

Why do you people keep emphasizing her marital status. Would your judgment be different if she was a divorced mother of three? Heck, OP's description of her ex seems more responsive than a lot of posts on DCUM about absentee ex and current husbands.

Absolutely not, situation would be the same if she were a divorced mother of three young children. And to the ex-hubby, too, in that case. The never-married status is relevant here because it shows a pattern of short-term, shallow thinking and putting her desires/ wants/ preferences ahead of what is (statistically) better for children.

It can only be one extreme or the other, right? Abstinent for years or a slut who sleeps with every guy/woman (yes, a man can be a slut too, but I guess you would object to that as well). You have no clue that OP doesn't care about her kids. You're just a vapid shrew with a non-existent sex life so you feel the need to make sure others don't get it as well.

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Oh please the OP should be allowed to date. Responsibly, ie not bringing different men around home.

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There is no prude worse than a reformed slut.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn't have that problem. She's a slut who wants to stay a slut and asking for help on DCUM. 3 kids and all. Hope her kids are doing a good job raising themselves while mama is off dick hunting.

[Anonymous]

You will still be a (relatively) young woman when your youngest goes to college. You may have an amazing life & love life - it just may be much, much later in life -

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn't have that problem. She's a slut who wants to stay a slut and asking for help on DCUM. 3 kids and all. Hope her kids are doing a good job raising themselves while mama is off dick hunting.

A slut? Where did you get that? She has 3 children with the same father stupid bitch. And even if she was a slut, a promiscuous person does not equate to an inadequate parent, so your comment is invalid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will still be a (relatively) young woman when your youngest goes to college. You may have an amazing life & love life - it just may be much, much later in life -

It just seems rather offputting, this idea that love/sex are simply unimportant if you find yourself as a single mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom, my children come first. Sorry, any woman worth anything puts her children above getting effed. And yes, any real man would do the same. OP has a track record of selfish stupid decisions and sounds like she wants advice on how to chose Dick above her kids again. OP, at least have the humanity to get on birth control. You could give a shit about the three innocent lives you've already jacked up. Please don't have a fourth.

Then go back to celibacy if you're so happy and stay out of threads about dating.

Some of my friends have moms who didnt date post divorce. The result was overbearing moms who made them feel guilty about going away to college, etc and women who were anxious to get married young (20-25) so that they wouldnt turn out like their moms. And now they're miserably married like many of you.