Would guys be interested in a woman with 3 kids
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Anonymous
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"Just because you "can" doesn't mean you should. If you care at all for what's best for the kids, that is. And yes, absolutely, I think the OP should focus on her kids first, rather than her love life, and yes, that most likely means no dating until the youngest one is grown."
No nookie for a decade or more? While OP is still in her prime? LOL! Would you give the same advice to a man? |
Anonymous
| And when is this cutoff that it would be better not to date until the child is out od the house? One kid, two kids, three kids? So any parent who is single/divorced with kids in the home should stop dating until kids leave the home? |
Anonymous
Exactly. I find this attitude disturbing on so many levels. When I was 29, I was a single mom of two children (I'm 35 now), and to say that I didn't deserve to date because I needed to focus on my kids is such bullshit. Somehow I feel that people would be more sympathetic to a single dad -- because single dads who have full custody of their kids are adorable and responsible, right? So they deserve to have a nice woman in their lives, right? Why should it be any different for women? I married young and had children young (not my wisest decision but it is what it is.) My ex-husband ended up being abusive and I packed up my two kids and left. I went back to school full-time and scrounged my money up so I could feed, clothe, and provide a few fun things for my children. Then for people to say that single mother's shouldn't date? What the fuck? Every single ounce of energy was poured into my children. And I didn't deserve to have a nice evening out with a guy -- to have a glass of wine and a nice dinner? To see if maybe he was a decent guy? I never had a parade of boyfriends come through my house. By the way, I met my current husband when I was 30 -- on a dating website. He's my best friend and soul mate. So to say that single mother's shouldn't date -- you're essentially saying they don't deserve to be happy. Not only that, but if a single woman finds a good guy -- wouldn't that be beneficial for the children who have no father figure in their lives? I really don't get some people sometimes. |
Anonymous
| As a mom, my children come first. Sorry, any woman worth anything puts her children above getting effed. And yes, any real man would do the same. OP has a track record of selfish stupid decisions and sounds like she wants advice on how to chose Dick above her kids again. OP, at least have the humanity to get on birth control. You could give a shit about the three innocent lives you've already jacked up. Please don't have a fourth. |
Anonymous
My, what a pleasant contribution to this discussion. |
Anonymous
She does? Where? What are they? |
Anonymous
| ^^ being an unmarried mom of three on the prowl for dick. Not the most intelligent selfless person in the group. |
Anonymous
Lol! Go back to 1950. |
Anonymous
NP here, and I think that is exactly the best situation, at least for the kids. OP chose to have 3 children, without the benefit of being married. That was her decision. And now -- surprise -- she and "daddy" have split, amicably, of course, but still a drastic adjustment for the kids. Her priority should not be wondering whether or not she is damaged goods in the eyes of any would-be boyfriend. It would be nice if she cared more about her kids and their needs. |
Anonymous
No. You go back to your bridge troll. There's nothing antiquated about suggesting a mom with three kids focus on them and not getting laid. |
Anonymous
Not pp, but you're the one - and your uptight, nun friends - who sounds like the troll. I bet you would have loved the Middle Ages. |
Anonymous
| ^^ Not everyone puts their vagina before their kids' welfare. My kids will ALWAYS come first. Lots of women on here who think getting laid is more important than their kids. Sad! And we wonder why our culture has decayed so much. People without self respect and dignity abound. |
Anonymous
Oh honey. You need to get laid. |
Anonymous
| Believe me, I don't have that problem. My husband and father of my children takes care of business in the bedroom quite well. My children still come first and if I was single I would be focused of them. You can get an orgasm solo, you know. If reaching a climax is oh so important that you would throw your kids welfare to the wind, at least have the compassion to jerk off.... Since you are a jerk off. |
Anonymous
| If you are a MILF you will have no problems. |