Would guys be interested in a woman with 3 kids

[Anonymous]

At least you're young. That counts for a lot.

[Anonymous]

You are 29 and have three kids. I think you should be focusing on them rather than dating so you don't wind up a single mom of four.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are 29 and have three kids. I think you should be focusing on them rather than dating so you don't wind up a single mom of four.

Internet b&$?* smack to you.

[Anonymous]

I think knowing more context helps--are you a divorced single mom, a widowed single mom? Are there 3 different fathers or one? And how involved are they? Are the kids triplets? How old are the kids?
What was your last relationship?

[Anonymous]

Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

[Anonymous]

Can you support yourself and your 3 kids on your income plus CS? Is your home large enough to accommodate 2 adults and 3 children?

[Anonymous]

I have friends with 3 kids who have found great boyfriends. It's not for everyone, but you don't need to date everyone, just one great guy.

29 is on the young side around here, though, so you might find that some guys in your preferred age range don't really know what to think.

My guy friends seem fine dating moms as long as they're hot. (I'm a single mom of 1. I don't date much, but don't really make much time for it either.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

What's up with dad? Can you make it work?

[Anonymous]

Without child support i make 75k so yes. Also Im not planning on moving anybody into my house anytime soon. I was just wondering where I would fit in the dating scene.

Anonymous wrote:Can you support yourself and your 3 kids on your income plus CS? Is your home large enough to accommodate 2 adults and 3 children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. You'd have to be very hot.

Agreed. Or be more accommodating to his needs than women without children.

[Anonymous]

I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

Amen! I'm a single mom of one and have no desire to date. I even think it would be good for me to get out again, but I just don't have the energy. I tried a few times, but a new relationship requires so much work that I just don't have it in me.

OP, I am a woman, and I think a guy will look for a lot more than just how many kids you have. In other words, there are plenty of bat shit crazy single, childless women who are not dating material and plenty of super nice, normal moms of 3. I don't think we could give you a true answer. The key is to do what makes you happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are 29 and have three kids. I think you should be focusing on them rather than dating so you don't wind up a single mom of four.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

I totally acknowledge that my situation is different, since I have 1 child, but thought I should share anyway. I'm 30, with a 3.5yo. Ex is still involved regularly as well. I have found that usually guys are impressed with my situation. DD has a dad she sees 6 days a week (we split drop off/pick up), I have a decent amount of free time, and when my ex is brought up in conversation, I always speak positively of the situation (i.e. "Coparenting works, relationship didn't. No complaints."). I think its assumed when you're 20 something with kids that there must be drama or an absentee parent. I also find that people are more understanding of the breakup due to incompatibility because we early 20s when we met. Guys have told me they respect the fact we have made the most out of what could have been a bad situation.

There will be some guys who will not be interested, sure. But that holds true for anyone, you will not be everybody's type. Although I tend to date childless men, I have dated some divorced guys who only seriously date women with kids because they had kids young and don't want to feel obligated to have more. Being attractive definitely helps. I have met a couple of guys who have dated women with 3-5 kids and were open to marriage. One joked that his ex was so fine, she could've had 3 more kids and he wouldn't have cared (she had 3). A mutual friend tried to hook me up with the latter, but we werent a match. For one, he wants a large family so a single mom is a bonus to him. However, he prefers single moms without the dad around because he's a diplomat and moves every 2 years internationally. So there's someone for everyone out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

Your situation is in no way parellel to OPs. You have regular sex at your disposal and a life partner for companionship. You don't have to primp because you have someone already.