Would guys be interested in a woman with 3 kids

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Anonymous wrote:You are 29 and have three kids. I think you should be focusing on them rather than dating so you don't wind up a single mom of four.

Best advice here. Kids need their mom more than mom needs a date.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in awe. I'm married with 2 kids and with their activities DH and I barely have time for an evening out. And I don't even have to primp. I think it would be a lot of work to raise 3 kids and have a relationship.

Amen! I'm a single mom of one and have no desire to date. I even think it would be good for me to get out again, but I just don't have the energy. I tried a few times, but a new relationship requires so much work that I just don't have it in me.

OP, I am a woman, and I think a guy will look for a lot more than just how many kids you have. In other words, there are plenty of bat shit crazy single, childless women who are not dating material and plenty of super nice, normal moms of 3. I don't think we could give you a true answer. The key is to do what makes you happy.

I totally agree w/ this. I am pretty sure Im not batshit crazy w/ 2 kids. However it was a juggling act w/ a relationship. It might be easier to date w/ 1 kid. My eldest will be out in 4 so I'll be good in 4yrs.

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I kind of think you may have luck with a guy in his 30s or your age who wants kids but is ok skipping the baby phase. A super good guy who is a nurturer who is laid back enough to not demand bio kids. But maybe I watch too many movies.

Is the dad (dads?) in the picture? Are you hot? If no and yes, respectively, that's helpful I think.

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Hot and put out

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She said their dad is very involved.

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The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

I totally acknowledge that my situation is different, since I have 1 child, but thought I should share anyway. I'm 30, with a 3.5yo. Ex is still involved regularly as well. I have found that usually guys are impressed with my situation. DD has a dad she sees 6 days a week (we split drop off/pick up), I have a decent amount of free time, and when my ex is brought up in conversation, I always speak positively of the situation (i.e. "Coparenting works, relationship didn't. No complaints."). I think its assumed when you're 20 something with kids that there must be drama or an absentee parent. I also find that people are more understanding of the breakup due to incompatibility because we early 20s when we met. Guys have told me they respect the fact we have made the most out of what could have been a bad situation.

There will be some guys who will not be interested, sure. But that holds true for anyone, you will not be everybody's type. Although I tend to date childless men, I have dated some divorced guys who only seriously date women with kids because they had kids young and don't want to feel obligated to have more. Being attractive definitely helps. I have met a couple of guys who have dated women with 3-5 kids and were open to marriage. One joked that his ex was so fine, she could've had 3 more kids and he wouldn't have cared (she had 3). A mutual friend tried to hook me up with the latter, but we werent a match. For one, he wants a large family so a single mom is a bonus to him. However, he prefers single moms without the dad around because he's a diplomat and moves every 2 years internationally. So there's someone for everyone out here.

For most guys in the 29-35 age bracket, a woman with one child would be far more appealing than a woman with three. Coming to a relationship with one child still leaves plenty of room (literally and figuratively) for the new couple to have kids of their own. With three, it becomes much harder logistically, financially, and mentally for the couple to add more.

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It depends on the guy.

Being a single mother in the dating world is a benefit because it will be much easier to filter out the jerks.
If a guy meets you and falls in love w/you, his love should be completely unconditional and he should accept you as you are and you ARE a mother as well as his partner.

Hope this helps.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

I totally acknowledge that my situation is different, since I have 1 child, but thought I should share anyway. I'm 30, with a 3.5yo. Ex is still involved regularly as well. I have found that usually guys are impressed with my situation. DD has a dad she sees 6 days a week (we split drop off/pick up), I have a decent amount of free time, and when my ex is brought up in conversation, I always speak positively of the situation (i.e. "Coparenting works, relationship didn't. No complaints."). I think its assumed when you're 20 something with kids that there must be drama or an absentee parent. I also find that people are more understanding of the breakup due to incompatibility because we early 20s when we met. Guys have told me they respect the fact we have made the most out of what could have been a bad situation.

There will be some guys who will not be interested, sure. But that holds true for anyone, you will not be everybody's type. Although I tend to date childless men, I have dated some divorced guys who only seriously date women with kids because they had kids young and don't want to feel obligated to have more. Being attractive definitely helps. I have met a couple of guys who have dated women with 3-5 kids and were open to marriage. One joked that his ex was so fine, she could've had 3 more kids and he wouldn't have cared (she had 3). A mutual friend tried to hook me up with the latter, but we werent a match. For one, he wants a large family so a single mom is a bonus to him. However, he prefers single moms without the dad around because he's a diplomat and moves every 2 years internationally. So there's someone for everyone out here.

For most guys in the 29-35 age bracket, a woman with one child would be far more appealing than a woman with three. Coming to a relationship with one child still leaves plenty of room (literally and figuratively) for the new couple to have kids of their own. With three, it becomes much harder logistically, financially, and mentally for the couple to add more.

I get that its easier for this reason. I do think older men would be a better match for OP, men who have kids of their own or are totally fine as a stepdad only. The exception to this is guys 29-35 who are current/former military and out of their starter marriages. Lots of em had kids young too and are not looking to have more.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Same father who is very involved. We were never married. the kids are 7,5,3.

I totally acknowledge that my situation is different, since I have 1 child, but thought I should share anyway. I'm 30, with a 3.5yo. Ex is still involved regularly as well. I have found that usually guys are impressed with my situation. DD has a dad she sees 6 days a week (we split drop off/pick up), I have a decent amount of free time, and when my ex is brought up in conversation, I always speak positively of the situation (i.e. "Coparenting works, relationship didn't. No complaints."). I think its assumed when you're 20 something with kids that there must be drama or an absentee parent. I also find that people are more understanding of the breakup due to incompatibility because we early 20s when we met. Guys have told me they respect the fact we have made the most out of what could have been a bad situation.

There will be some guys who will not be interested, sure. But that holds true for anyone, you will not be everybody's type. Although I tend to date childless men, I have dated some divorced guys who only seriously date women with kids because they had kids young and don't want to feel obligated to have more. Being attractive definitely helps. I have met a couple of guys who have dated women with 3-5 kids and were open to marriage. One joked that his ex was so fine, she could've had 3 more kids and he wouldn't have cared (she had 3). A mutual friend tried to hook me up with the latter, but we werent a match. For one, he wants a large family so a single mom is a bonus to him. However, he prefers single moms without the dad around because he's a diplomat and moves every 2 years internationally. So there's someone for everyone out here.

For most guys in the 29-35 age bracket, a woman with one child would be far more appealing than a woman with three. Coming to a relationship with one child still leaves plenty of room (literally and figuratively) for the new couple to have kids of their own. With three, it becomes much harder logistically, financially, and mentally for the couple to add more.

I get that its easier for this reason. I do think older men would be a better match for OP, men who have kids of their own or are totally fine as a stepdad only. The exception to this is guys 29-35 who are current/former military and out of their starter marriages. Lots of em had kids young too and are not looking to have more.

Is OP interested in being a stepmother, dealing with a blended family, and husband's ex?

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My sister has two young children (3 and 8) and is getting married this summer to a wonderful guy! We absolutely adore him! She wasn't looking for a relationship. They were friends and it developed from there. She doesn't make a lot of money, but she is really cute. I'm sure that helped.

She is 32. He is 34. He also has two kids.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

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Anonymous wrote:If it were me, yes, I would run the other way. 29 is way too young to have 3 kids as a single mom.

But then, I'm not a guy.

On the one hand women get criticized for nit having kids early enough and on the other for doing just that.

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They will like you better than if you are 40 with 3 kids. It's now or never.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with having three kids at 29 is that most guys between 29 and 35 don't have kids yet but still aspire to have them in the near or distant future. They will be understandably worried about having to financially support both sets of children and may also feel like they want to experience parenthood for the first time with their own kids.

You will probably find dating gets easier in 10 or 15 years because men between 39 and 50 are more likely to have kids of their own. Also, age mellows people in a way that makes them more accepting of the unique personal history that mature adults typically bring to a relationship.

Or, she could just look for a 50 year old now. He'd probably do her.

Does OP want to date a guy 31 years older than her? Old enough to be her father? Ugh.