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Sister just stole my baby name... no, literally, MY name!
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Anonymous
op, you have a problem |
Anonymous
I think you have the problem, when it comes to reading comprehension. OP clearly said she didn't BELIEVE that's why her sister used the name. |
Anonymous
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I know people are probably not still using this post, but I had to ask an opinion about something along the same vein.
My boyfriend has said for the past four years that he can't wait to have a son and name him after his father's father -- Nathan. He said it would be such a wonderful thing to have another Nathan Green in the family again. We both never wanted to find out the gender before giving birth, so the big surprise would be to tell his Mom and Dad the day of the birth. My bf's cousin is VERY pregnant with twins. Last night, his mother told me that I was going to be invited to the briss for baby Nathan. When my face went white, she said, yes! Jamie is naming her baby boy after Barry's father. Jamie is my bf's mother's sister's daughter. Why would she use his dad's father's name? I'm so upset, and I may not even have a son. My bf is annoyed but says he'll still use the name. We live in the same town and the babies will be cousins and see each other all the time. A. Do I have a right to be upset even though I'm a couple of years from having a baby and may never have a son. And B. Wouldn't that be extremely weird to have cousins with the same name? |
Anonymous
Find something better to do with your time. You're not pregnant and you're not even married (or engaged to be married). |
Anonymous
A- You can be upset all you want, but you don't really have any reason to be, since, you know, you're not pregnant and as you say, are a couple of years away from having a baby. I don't think you can reserve names years in advance as your "idea." B- If you've read any of the responses on this thread, you will see that there are several examples of cousins with the same name. I think the (original) OP's problem was that two cousins would share the same name AND be almost the exact same age. |
Anonymous
I sympathize with the OP. Her sister is a skunk for using the name she knew her sister wanted to use. However, for the PP, if you're the first to give birth, you get to pick the name and let others who get pregnant much later pick something else. I'm 44 and pregnant, and would love to use some names that have already been used by family and friends. I won't, however. This late in the game, I get fewer choices. |
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I do not symphatize with the OP. There is no shortage of beautiful names. No need to fight with siblings over a name. Names just cannot be booked. Get over it.
Having said that I know someone who was in love with one particular name, and told her soon-to-be-fiance that that is what she wants to name her daughter. He said that that was the name of his ex-fiance. That was the end of that. In the end they had boy children |
Anonymous
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I haven't read all the replies. OP, I did a similar thing but went about it very differently. My sister, two aunts on different sides, grandmother, and great-grandmother all have the same name. My sister and I were pregnant at the same time, and we decided that it was important for someone in the new generation to have her family name. She said she didn't want to have a kid with the same name as herself, so I said I would give my kid the name if it was a girl. Turned out, we both had girls, I named mine after my sister and others, she picked a name from her husband's family, and we were all happy.
I think your sister either has a lot of issues and wanted to steal your name, or you two were not communicating explicitly enough about the family name situation before the baby was born and she honestly didn't know you were planning to use the name. Either way, you should pick whatever name you like best for your baby and let the family sort it out! |
Anonymous
| Use the name - the majority of her life she will not be with her cousin... |
Anonymous
| That sucks and I would be pissed but if I were you and you sound pretty locked in on this name, I would use the name as planned. When/if she says something, you can always say that this was the name you planned on having and wished you would have known about her plan to also use it. Now, if you choose to find another name, you're going to have to find a way to let it go bc family is family. I have 2 sisters and they would have never pulled this stunt; however my SIL did but like a PP said, she had the baby first so I had to let it go. I let it go but I still thinks she's a real jerk for doing it. |
Anonymous
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How nice!
Now you will not have to name your child after your mother or anyone elses mother. YOur child can have a name of her own |
Anonymous
| Chiming in late here- The same thing happened to my aunt- she was pregnant at the same time as her SIL who delivered first and "stole" their boy name. The cousins live in the same city and see each other often. My aunt and uncle ended up using their second choice name but if you dont have one, I would just keep it! |
Anonymous
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It sounds to me like the sister who takes her sister's name for her child is rather selfish. Did she stop and think of how this might effect the relationship between cousins? How does the chid with the stolen name feel? Iss that name really worth the potential for future issues?
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Anonymous
OP have you had your baby?? It's been 2 weeks and yesterday was a full moon! Keep us posted 
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