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Sister just stole my baby name... no, literally, MY name!
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Anonymous
| My brother and one of our cousins are both named James and both go by Jimmy/Jim. My cousin was born first and his father (my uncle) is my mother's brother. However, my father's name is also James, so I'm sure my parents were planning on using that name. That said, they were born several years apart, so it's not quite the same situation. But I guess the ultimate point I'm trying to make is that I don't think it's a big deal to have cousins with the same name. I would be feeling a bit peeved though too. |
Anonymous
| SIL did this to DH and I, used DH's middle name, also her father's middle name. Now we have cousins with the same name. She was peeved that we still used my DH's middle name, but she was never honest with us. |
Anonymous
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Use your name. Just do it. It's not as weird as you might think and people will get used to it pretty quickly. My husband comes from a culture where everyone uses the same names all the time, and I have three nephews who go all have the grandfather's name. No nicknames, either. When I need to distinguish among them, I call one by his first and middle name. But that's rare that I have to do that. Even when they are all in the same room.
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Anonymous
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OP here-- my sister and I do not have the greatest relationship, which is probably where my thoughts immediately went to "she stole it!" rather than "oops, I guess she forgot!" She can be a total bitch and it's not entirely unthinkable that she would use something as important as a baby's name to spite someone else. Of course, I'm trying to see it from another point of view and give her the benefit of the doubt. She just had my niece yesterday, so I'm not about to confront her over it, just wanted to vent a bit. At this point, if my baby were born tomorrow, I'm pretty sure we'd just continue with the name as we planned and everyone can just deal with it. I'm all about having cute funny family stories, so if that's what this becomes, well then, great. Just pretty bummed about getting some of my thunder stolen...
My new niece is healthy and that's what's really important. And I must say, she has a beautiful name...! (let's see if I'm convincing myself) |
Anonymous
| Wow. I'm usually against picking the same name as a family member's child, but in this case I'd stick with it. |
Anonymous
| My dad grew up with a cousin 5 days younger with the same name-- same nickname, even, when there were other nickname options available. It was not a big deal at all. Do what you want! The girls will love it. |
Anonymous
| I would just use the same name. |
Anonymous
| As proof show her registration papers that say that the name was reserved |
Anonymous
| What a crappy thing for your sister to do. Since the name is YOUR given name, no one will think you stole her name. Your daughter is essentially a junior (well, I guess the third since it is your mother's name as well). Most people will probably think your sister is the weirdo. The girls will probably like having the same name! |
Anonymous
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Why didn't you share that you wanted to use your name when you and your husband decided? I've always failed to understand why people do this and then, when someone unwittingly uses a name that the other liked there are hurt feelings.
Having said this, it is strange that your sister never mentioned this to you or your mom. |
Anonymous
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^ she did tell her sister--that was the only one she told.
OP, go with the name. as others have said, the girls will probably think it's cool, and your mom will feel doubly honored. |
Anonymous
| I know someone who this happened too as well by someone in the family. So they chose a different name because the name was stolen. |
Anonymous
you have a great attitude! I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes well. Here is wishing you and your baby lots of good karma! |
Anonymous
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well yeah! I mean its not like there are two people anywhere in the world with the same name.
Stop being stupid OP. If you want to give your child a specific name then go ahead. There are no "name police" who are going to show up at your door and haul you off... If your sister wanted to name her kid the same thing so what??? It's really no big deal at all. |
Anonymous
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Wow. This sets some new kind of record for nasty siblings. That's ca-razy. And yes, keep the name, and let your mom in on the whole thing.
Again, WTF, sis? You have a good attitude, OP. I would be ripshit. |