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Sister just stole my baby name... no, literally, MY name!
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Anonymous
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So your sister is kind of a bitch, huh? She had no right to use the name -- and if she was considering it she should have said something to you. The fact that she didn't mention it makes her conniving in my book.
You should just use the name - it is yours. It will be your daughters and she will love that you share the name. Your niece will think it's kind of odd that her mother used your name, too. So strange. |
Anonymous
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op forget it.
give your child some other name and get on with your life. no need to raise this spat into something that spans generations |
Anonymous
| Im dying to know what this beautiful name is! Please share with us! And use the name, its your name for gods sake! I have considered giving my daughter my own name, but wondered if it would be weird. Why is it that dads can pass down their names and you dont hear of moms doing it? |
Anonymous
I have the same name as my mom. I don't think it's that unusual. |
Anonymous
OP here. Well, technically *I* am mom junior, and I always thought it cool when I was a kid. Our name is my mom's name and DH's mother's name for the middle.
It's possible, but again, it's just not what we had picked out... and with less than two weeks to go, it's hard to "rush" and make this monumental decision!
Again, choose a brand new name in two weeks? (or less!) Surely that won't make me bitter at all!
I think I have to resist revealing it, just in the interest of privacy. I did not expect this thread to take off like it has! I will post an update when our baby comes, but at this point, I'm pretty sure we're just going to go ahead as planned. I still think we'll call her by her first name, but who knows... maybe we'll find ourselves using both, maybe initials, maybe some totally unrelated nickname. I told my sister about our name maybe 2-3 months ago--maybe she forgot, maybe she "forgot" but she'll get over it. Of course, if in 2-3 weeks, somebody posts "My sister named her baby the same thing I just did!!!" you might have a clue who it is...! Thanks for all the encouragement--I don't want to perpetuate any drama in the family, so coming here is a great place to vent and get it out of my system. Definitely not planning to hold a grudge against my little niece. We're actually quite happy that our daughter will have a cousin so close in age to be a playmate. |
Anonymous
No, I just think this is a stupid hill to die on. And I want my kids to feel like their names are unique, not like they are some kind of bizarre copy of their cousin. |
Anonymous
She won't feel like a copy of her cousin. Her name will match her mother and her grandmother. The cousin might feel like a copy. |
Anonymous
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So glad you are going to stick with the name. You should.
And your sister has some balls on her. I see it two ways. Let's say you weren't even going to have any more kids. ...To leave it up to her husband to announce they have given their child your name, without giving you a head's up first, is just weird. Did they do it that way for shock effect or something? If my sister gave her child my name I might be honored and find it cool, but I would think she would tell me first, not spring it on me, and she wouldn't leave it to her husband to tell me. Second, the fact that you told her you you intended to use the name ...she stole your baby's name, and it is just bitchy. Not that you both couldn't have used it, but she should have told you she was considering it too to avoid all this weirdness! You informed her months ago. She didn't forget. Please. Would you? Would anyone forget the name their sister planned to name the baby, especially if it was a legacy name? It defies reason. Has she said nothing to you after the fact? No explanation at all? |
Anonymous
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I can so relate to how the OP must feel. My sister did the same thing. But Karma is a bitch. Her first child is mentally disabled and the child she "named after me" is........gay. Granted she may have kids, but my asshole sister would never accept them. She's a "good catholic" Sad....I would not wish a disabled child on anyone.....but makes me believe in karma!
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Anonymous
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errrmmm, awkward! Don't think having a child who is gay or has a disability is an example of karma...
(maybe you mean to say that she is unable to appreciate the qualities in the children she so selfishly named?) |
Anonymous
| BITCH plain and simple. We gave my DD my sister's middle name since she is the godmother but would NEVER have done so without checking with her first. So sorry |
Anonymous
| OP, news for you: it is not your name, it is everybody's name. you have no ownership over it. it is so played out in your family already; if you are the third one then no, your sister does NOT have to ask you. |
Anonymous
| PP: I can't help but think you are missing the point. Are you the bitch that stole the sibling's baby name? Like someone else's name. I can't help but think......no one names their child after someone they can't stand. So what does that tell ya? Jealous bitch! How many people are named after YOU? |
Anonymous
Totally disagree with this. In our family the women share the middle name - my DD is 5th generation with the same middle name. I know it's different than a first name. But, I think traditions are very important and this name is obviously important to you. Name your child something you love - if it's the same name - then that is fine. I think the tradition of it will mean a lot to your child. |
Anonymous
PP: Your situation is totally different. It is more of an expectation and everyone understands and enjoys this tradition. Good for you. Some of us got lousy sisters. |