Sister just stole my baby name... no, literally, MY name!

[Anonymous]

I agree with PPs to go ahead and use the name. You and your DH love it, it's special to you, and it is your child. I would try not to make a big deal out of it (so that your daughter doesn't internalize some feud dynamic around her name) and just stick to "we've always planned to name her this, in honor of me and my mother."

[Anonymous]

Another vote for using the name you had chosen. And your mom will be twice as happy to have two granddaughters named after her

[Anonymous]

Your sister's a bitch and so is 22:43.

I'd still use the name and if she says anything just smile and say *Well you thought it was a great idea when I told you about it a few months ago.*

Or

*Well I have always been a little partial to it for some reason....*

You had it first. She can suck it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think it is the start of a sweet family tradition.

Your mom is Eleanor Ann, you are Eleanor Jane, and the two cousins will be Eleanor Mae and Eleanor Rose.

[Anonymous]

How bitchy!

Use the name.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if this is why Jewish tradition says you can only name babies after dead relatives, not living ones. Helps mitigate the "sucking up" theory a bit - Granny wouldn't care if both kids were named after her since she'd be dead lol.

I think you should just name your DD what you want. You might want to mention it to your sister, but then of course, she'll probably say you can't name her that now. Which would just lead to additional drama.

[Anonymous]

THis happened to my sister and her brother-in-law. My sister had told her husband's side of the family the name they were using for their son, a family name. The BIL used the exact name, first & middle and they have the same last name. Luckily the first name was Robert so one goes by Robbie and the other by Bobby. At least your kids will have different last names. Go ahead and use it.

[Anonymous]

OP, I totally disagree with the previous posters. Choose another name. You lost this time. Considering how close in age these two girls will be and the frequency they will see each other, it is really lame for you to insist on using the name too. Also I think it is strange for your daughter to be mom junior. Pick something else. There are lots of nice names out there. What about grandma's name or DH's mom's name?

[Anonymous]

something similar happened to my friend. she and her husband decided on "michael" for their expected boy. her brother was due with a boy three months before them. when my friend told her parents they decided on michael, her dad was like, great name! all my grandkids should have that name!
he then told his son to name their boy michael too! and they did, even though they had a different name picked out.
my friend is super easy going and even thiug she was a bit frustrated and perplexed by her dad, they decided to use their name as planned. the cousins live in different states and will have different last names. really, it's a pretty funny story!

[Anonymous]

Ugh, that's really infuriating, OP. I would still go with your original name combination. As another option, would you consider calling your daughter by the middle name you chose?

[Anonymous]

Use the name. Clearly your sister is a gigantic bitch, and given that we know this already and she'll probably get even bitchier if you use "her" name (ha!), you might not see too much of her. The kids therefore won't know each other very well, and it won't matter that they share a name.

Oh, and yeah, she stole it. No doubt about it. The passive agressiveness is practically seeping through my computer.

[Anonymous]

I'm loving your attitude OP! You're way too nice/generous with your sis. I'd be totally livid. That said, I agree with most PPs - I would just use the name you picked.

[Anonymous]

OP You really should use the name. Your child will have this name throughout her life. It will not matter or be noticable to any of her friends. teachers, co-workers, or anyone else in her life that her cousin happens to have the same name. You do not want to be annoyed throughout her life that you were not able to name her what you wanted.

If anyone in the family comments you can answer politely..

We had already been set on the name, had things monogrammed, and did not realize that sister would choose this all of sudden, especially since she mentioned other names.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I totally disagree with the previous posters. Choose another name. You lost this time. Considering how close in age these two girls will be and the frequency they will see each other, it is really lame for you to insist on using the name too. Also I think it is strange for your daughter to be mom junior. Pick something else. There are lots of nice names out there. What about grandma's name or DH's mom's name?

Mee thinks I smell a Rat. Are you the sister?

[Anonymous]

It is not that strange for cousins to have the same name. DH came from a large Catholic family that had a tradition of using family names. He has 6 aunts and uncles who all had between 2-5 kids for each family. There were several duplicates and one name was used 3 times.