Teen devastated over not getting picked...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s tough, but every time someone is chosen, someone else is generally not chosen. It’s not always fair.

She can ask for feedback — nothing wrong with that. I agree with waiting a bit until making a decision as to whether to continue with organization.

In this case literally one senior was left out. Why do that?

I am guessing it is because of her mother.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s tough, but every time someone is chosen, someone else is generally not chosen. It’s not always fair.

She can ask for feedback — nothing wrong with that. I agree with waiting a bit until making a decision as to whether to continue with organization.

In this case literally one senior was left out. Why do that?

I am guessing it is because of her mother.

That's even worse

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

Pick pick pick pick pick.

I’m sure every server spits in every glass of rose you drink.

#unhinged

Sorry your college daughter auditioning story has little to do with seniors in high school getting bumped off teams or groups they did together for years.

Not me so your worn snatch self cannot impact me.

These threads, Jesus Christ. Instead of giving perspective on why the girl should quit and/or alone ask for a reason etc it becomes “she couldn’t cut it” in the mask of a sloppy spoiled smug mom. GTFOH.

#UnhingedContinues

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something similar happened to my DD. At her school, it turned out the staff advisor to the club had control over the selection process and just didn't like my kid. The selection process was supposed to be a popular vote among the club members. If you wanted a leadership position, you applied for it, and sort of ran a mini campaign. There was no one running against my DD for the position, and when the advisor realized she would end up winning by default, she started campaigning to get someone else to run against my DD. Advisor was not slick, sent emails to students that were eventually forwarded to my DD by the other kids.

Eventually the advisor convinced another kid to run, and of course that other kid "won". It was already known among everyone at this point what the advisor had done, and so a few other club members (not my DD) asked to see the results (which apparently is allowed, or has been allowed in the past) but advisor refused.

My DD was very hurt and upset over what happened and my DH and I were as well. For a grown adult to artificially insert themselves into this high school drama, to manufacture club election results, is just insane. My DD stayed in the club, so she could put it on her college application as being a member for 4 years, but didn't do much her senior year and we didn't force her. Was a horrible life lesson that life isn't fair and that there will be people who are jerks you will have to interact with in life (at school, work, etc.).

With the evidence of the emails, I as a parent would have raised that with the school principal. Not in a hysterical, angry way, just in a "Really? Is this how your staff at this school model fairness and merit and elections based on ability and popular vote? Why is this teacher acting this way?" and make sure it's clear what the teacher did to many in the school. I wouldn't push it to the point of "My DD has to get that position", but I'd make sure that teacher knew that messing with a kid that openly is not going to fly. Even if the principal does nothing, it's still been put out in the open so other students and parents know. I'm sure that teacher has other students they don't like and would also mess with that way.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She should ask for feedback herself.

I dont think its a popularity contest and tenure should not result in instant promotion. The most qualified or talented should get the opportunity. Her goal should be to either become the most talented or qualified or move on knowing she doesnt have what it takes. The feedback should help if its honest. Many people wont gove honest feedback though.

Everything is not for everyone. Just because i'm interested doesn't mean i'm good at a task. I'm interested in basketball that doesnt mean I deserve to be chosen for the NBA.

We're talking about high schoolers. They are all minimally talented and qualified. These things are always rigged.

Exactly. Look at all of this absolute trash. These never lived in reality UMC primarily white women mom beasts who truly believe their turds have extraordinary leadership potential.

Your reply is trash. If you think something is unrealistic about someone's post, tell them what you think they're missing. But you're just as bad as those you're dissing, plus wow you really called people's kids "turds". You're much more likely a troll, or you're a real parent who talks trash and likes trolling. Either way, your post is just as bad as the one's you're criticizing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should ask for feedback herself.

I dont think its a popularity contest and tenure should not result in instant promotion. The most qualified or talented should get the opportunity. Her goal should be to either become the most talented or qualified or move on knowing she doesnt have what it takes. The feedback should help if its honest. Many people wont gove honest feedback though.

Everything is not for everyone. Just because i'm interested doesn't mean i'm good at a task. I'm interested in basketball that doesnt mean I deserve to be chosen for the NBA.

We're talking about high schoolers. They are all minimally talented and qualified. These things are always rigged.

Exactly. Look at all of this absolute trash. These never lived in reality UMC primarily white women mom beasts who truly believe their turds have extraordinary leadership potential.

Here comes the turd in a punch bowl.

You are that, and have been your entire goddamned life, from tweens to today. Sack of sh!t.

Mothers who think this is cute - you ruin community for all kids. And my own DC is not in any awkward position. I hope you get throttled.

Queen Troll, nice job! You either never say this stuff to people's face in real life, or you're that parent your poor kids are always mortified by and really wish they could pretend they didn't know if you do say this in real life.