Teen devastated over not getting picked...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

Not the same thing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should ask for feedback herself.

I dont think its a popularity contest and tenure should not result in instant promotion. The most qualified or talented should get the opportunity. Her goal should be to either become the most talented or qualified or move on knowing she doesnt have what it takes. The feedback should help if its honest. Many people wont gove honest feedback though.

Everything is not for everyone. Just because i'm interested doesn't mean i'm good at a task. I'm interested in basketball that doesnt mean I deserve to be chosen for the NBA.

We're talking about high schoolers. They are all minimally talented and qualified. These things are always rigged.

Exactly. Look at all of this absolute trash. These never lived in reality UMC primarily white women mom beasts who truly believe their turds have extraordinary leadership potential.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly this could be a gift to your daughter. It's senior year and she will be plenty busy. She can keep this activity on her resume, participate at will, be active but not responsible for the heavy lifting. Reframe for her that this could be a win.

This presumes the kid is an idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should ask for feedback herself.

I dont think its a popularity contest and tenure should not result in instant promotion. The most qualified or talented should get the opportunity. Her goal should be to either become the most talented or qualified or move on knowing she doesnt have what it takes. The feedback should help if its honest. Many people wont gove honest feedback though.

Everything is not for everyone. Just because i'm interested doesn't mean i'm good at a task. I'm interested in basketball that doesnt mean I deserve to be chosen for the NBA.

We're talking about high schoolers. They are all minimally talented and qualified. These things are always rigged.

Exactly. Look at all of this absolute trash. These never lived in reality UMC primarily white women mom beasts who truly believe their turds have extraordinary leadership potential.

Here comes the turd in a punch bowl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

[Anonymous]

[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IF she stops doing the activity, she should white lie and say she's going to be busy. I think dropping the activity, and even just because she is hurt, is fine. But teach her to exit gracefully.

If she doesn't want to white lie, then have help her have something concrete lined up.

+1

There's no sugar coating this and the person knew what they were doing. There's no reason to continue and this is a massive life lesson. Burning bridges is a bad idea but so is accepting the snub. Exit gracefully.

I don’t see how a white lie that she’s doing something else is exiting gracefully? Why not just say that she decided not to participate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should ask for feedback herself.

I dont think its a popularity contest and tenure should not result in instant promotion. The most qualified or talented should get the opportunity. Her goal should be to either become the most talented or qualified or move on knowing she doesnt have what it takes. The feedback should help if its honest. Many people wont gove honest feedback though.

Everything is not for everyone. Just because i'm interested doesn't mean i'm good at a task. I'm interested in basketball that doesnt mean I deserve to be chosen for the NBA.

We're talking about high schoolers. They are all minimally talented and qualified. These things are always rigged.

Exactly. Look at all of this absolute trash. These never lived in reality UMC primarily white women mom beasts who truly believe their turds have extraordinary leadership potential.

Here comes the turd in a punch bowl.

You are that, and have been your entire goddamned life, from tweens to today. Sack of sh!t.

Mothers who think this is cute - you ruin community for all kids. And my own DC is not in any awkward position. I hope you get throttled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

Pick pick pick pick pick.

I’m sure every server spits in every glass of rose you drink.

[Anonymous]

Gawd, you should see the petty politics, bribes, and lying at soccer or basketball tryouts!

[Anonymous]

It would break her heart to go and participate. I’d bow out and not bother saying anything. They know they did her wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

Pick pick pick pick pick.

I’m sure every server spits in every glass of rose you drink.

#unhinged

Sorry your college daughter auditioning story has little to do with seniors in high school getting bumped off teams or groups they did together for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

Pick pick pick pick pick.

I’m sure every server spits in every glass of rose you drink.

Wow, lol. Guess we know who rigged the selection process!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people are more resilient than others. My daughter is auditioning for paid jobs while in school in NYC. She was dismissed on the first cut at one audition. I thought she was going to have a nervous breakdown. It wasn’t that she wasn’t qualified it was simply she wasn’t what they were looking for. I don’t know if she’s tough enough for this, many aren’t, but she’ll figure it out.

I would guess your daughter is perfectly qualified for a leadership program but wasn’t chosen this time for whatever reason. The worst thing she could do is quit. This will happen occasionally throughout life, she will have successes and failures. She doesn’t want to be seen as a quitter.

She was interviewing alongside classmates she knew for several years in the same job they all had?

Pick pick pick pick pick.

I’m sure every server spits in every glass of rose you drink.

#unhinged

Sorry your college daughter auditioning story has little to do with seniors in high school getting bumped off teams or groups they did together for years.

Not me so your worn snatch self cannot impact me.

These threads, Jesus Christ. Instead of giving perspective on why the girl should quit and/or alone ask for a reason etc it becomes “she couldn’t cut it” in the mask of a sloppy spoiled smug mom. GTFOH.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:[twitter]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:IF she stops doing the activity, she should white lie and say she's going to be busy. I think dropping the activity, and even just because she is hurt, is fine. But teach her to exit gracefully.

If she doesn't want to white lie, then have help her have something concrete lined up.

+1

There's no sugar coating this and the person knew what they were doing. There's no reason to continue and this is a massive life lesson. Burning bridges is a bad idea but so is accepting the snub. Exit gracefully.

I don’t see how a white lie that she’s doing something else is exiting gracefully? Why not just say that she decided not to participate?

It's polite. Everyone will know the truth but it saves face.

[Anonymous]

This happened to my kid who was moving up the ranks of a student club and was VP junior year. Normally, the VP becomes President the next year. Kid was not chosen and was devastated. But they picked themselves up, made the most of another position that was offered, and wasn’t overextended senior year, which was actually a blessing in disguise.