breaking up with GF - hid divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Assume she was separated. I think if she was living separately and going through process, I understand not wanting to talk about it.

I’m married but have a few friends going through divorce. It can take years. My good friend has been trying to get divorced for 3 years and the ex is dragging his feet.

I have a good friend whose daughter is the same as as my child. When I met her, she told me she was divorced. Didn’t think anything of it. About 2 years later, she told me she was finally divorced. She said she didn’t want to talk about the process so she just told everyone she already was divorced. It is probably even more something that you may not want to talk about to someone you may date.

This is very very different than having an affair. Someone really going through divorce is single.

I dunno. I’m still married.

No. Someone divorced is single. Someone going through a divorce is still married. And married people reconcile all the time. I would not waste time with someone who was separated unless I knew I was just playing until I found someone single and in a position to commit to me.

Divorced people reconcile too.

What's your point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is probably still sleeping with her ex too.

There could be so much truth in this but what is she doing with op - monkey branching?

[Anonymous]

This is what she is going to get if she is treating her man in relationship like this. She didn't care about being honest with you and wouldn't care about anything else either.

[Anonymous]

She still gets d from DH.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She still gets d from DH.....

if that's the case then why get into a new relationship? Just stay with DH and don't divorce him. If she is going to play both fields then she would end up hurting herself. Sad that people do it in relationships when finding a good partner is so difficult.

[Anonymous]

I could never trust them. Break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She still gets d from DH.....

if that's the case then why get into a new relationship? Just stay with DH and don't divorce him. If she is going to play both fields then she would end up hurting herself. Sad that people do it in relationships when finding a good partner is so difficult.

because she is stupid. If she is just dating or dealing with FWBs, then lie otherwise be honest if you have any intentions of getting into an LTR.

[Anonymous]

I dated someone who misrepresented something fundamental to me like this early in dating. I thought it was an exception and forgave but history repeated itself. I wish I could tell you to stick with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated someone who misrepresented something fundamental to me like this early in dating. I thought it was an exception and forgave but history repeated itself. I wish I could tell you to stick with it.

what ended up happening? was he or she a serial liar or just maniuplated truth all the times?

[Anonymous]

There are two issues.
1. Being separated vs. divorced
2. Being honest about being separated vs.divorced.

It remains me about lying on resumes about having a degree.
1. You might be hired without degree
2. You won’t be hired for lying about degree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are two issues.
1. Being separated vs. divorced
2. Being honest about being separated vs.divorced.

It remains me about lying on resumes about having a degree.
1. You might be hired without degree
2. You won’t be hired for lying about degree.

The most important thing is lying about being divorced. Noone would hire you+ there is going to be legal trouble if you take a job by lying about a degree on your resume.