Widower dating again & my adult children are not happy about it.

[Anonymous]

So to summarize the OP is 72, has no money (needs daughter's financial help after wife's passing, so was the wife paying the bills?), then got wife's life insurance money and is selling the house... after which he wants to remarry as quickly as possible to anyone willing (how quickly did you marry the first time, after knowing wife for a week???)... and he thinks his adult children are the problem?! Instead of worrying about marriage, you need to figure out how you're going to manage financially in your remaining years without relaying on others. Your priorities are all wrong. Your daughter should thank the lucky stars and get out of this mess as quickly as possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP if you are real you are a very childish, or very controlling, 70-something man.

Nobody said you have to die alone (although we all do), or that you cannot date. You ARE dating, for pity’s sake.

You just don’t get to control your adult children and their feelings about it.

Keep dating your lady friend. Marry her if you want. Don’t expect your kids to want a close relationship with her. Maybe they never will, what difference does it make? What matters is that you’re not alone, right?

I have little doubt you will eventually disinherit your kids because it’s all about control for you. Good for you.

OP sounds like a first class jerk.

As for the will, OP ... how about giving the 50% of the marital assets earned during your marriage to wife#1 to your kids? After all - if you would have divorced your 1st wife, she would have got the 50%. Then, live on your 50% and give everything you earn in the future to your wife#2 and her children. That way you can cut off all relationship with the children of your first wife. You are certainly not acting like a dad to them. Also, if you will not have children with the 2nd wife, why do you need to marry her?

BTW - how old is your wife #2? Hope you are not being led by your pecker. You seem to be a horrid and mean man.

I haven’t quite figured out how I’d divide my assets. I kept most of my wife’s life insurance money (gave them 3k a piece), so I’ll give them more once I die. Without really sitting and really planning I told my daughter I would leave all of social security to my new wife and the rest to my children. This may obviously change. If I marry my girlfriend she has two children as well.

My girlfriend is 54.

You’re getting taken for a ride—no 50 year old woman wants a 70 year old man unless there is a PAYDAY. No doubt your stupid ass will marry her, cut off your kids, and give everything to this grifter. Hopefully, she’ll at least stay to see you into your grave, but she’ll more likely get you to marry her and then rob you blind and ditch you.

Tell the gold digger you are putting every dime into a trust that will go to your kids when you die. Tell her you and her can get married but keep separate finances and pay for things 50-50 and see how fast she runs away.

But you won’t, because you’re a selfish old fool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP if you are real you are a very childish, or very controlling, 70-something man.

Nobody said you have to die alone (although we all do), or that you cannot date. You ARE dating, for pity’s sake.

You just don’t get to control your adult children and their feelings about it.

Keep dating your lady friend. Marry her if you want. Don’t expect your kids to want a close relationship with her. Maybe they never will, what difference does it make? What matters is that you’re not alone, right?

I have little doubt you will eventually disinherit your kids because it’s all about control for you. Good for you.

OP sounds like a first class jerk.

As for the will, OP ... how about giving the 50% of the marital assets earned during your marriage to wife#1 to your kids? After all - if you would have divorced your 1st wife, she would have got the 50%. Then, live on your 50% and give everything you earn in the future to your wife#2 and her children. That way you can cut off all relationship with the children of your first wife. You are certainly not acting like a dad to them. Also, if you will not have children with the 2nd wife, why do you need to marry her?

BTW - how old is your wife #2? Hope you are not being led by your pecker. You seem to be a horrid and mean man.

I haven’t quite figured out how I’d divide my assets. I kept most of my wife’s life insurance money (gave them 3k a piece), so I’ll give them more once I die. Without really sitting and really planning I told my daughter I would leave all of social security to my new wife and the rest to my children. This may obviously change. If I marry my girlfriend she has two children as well.

My girlfriend is 54.

You’re getting taken for a ride—no 50 year old woman wants a 70 year old man unless there is a PAYDAY. No doubt your stupid ass will marry her, cut off your kids, and give everything to this grifter. Hopefully, she’ll at least stay to see you into your grave, but she’ll more likely get you to marry her and then rob you blind and ditch you.

Tell the gold digger you are putting every dime into a trust that will go to your kids when you die. Tell her you and her can get married but keep separate finances and pay for things 50-50 and see how fast she runs away.

But you won’t, because you’re a selfish old fool.

+1
This is the reality and truth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's up with the 2nd kid? The OP says he has two kids (who were 34 and 39 when his wife died). Then he only talks about the daughter. Is the older kid a son? What is this child's opinion on everything?

Pretty sure the OP is being written by the daughter, with the script flipped. That's why the other child's feelings aren't mentioned, and why the father is being painted to look so terrible when he is, supposedly, the one posting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are an a$$. And I say that as a young-ish widow who started dating less than a year after my DH died.
You don't have to die alone and you absolutely can date. What you should not be doing is planning to leave money to a hypothetical person instead of your children. The fact that you already told your children that you will prioritize someone you hadn't met yet above them says all they need to know about you.

Where did you get that I prioritized her over my kids?

OP, how do you not see the weigh of your words to your kids? You tell them to their face you intend to leave your estate to the next wife, and good luck to your own flesh and blood if she chooses to cut them out of her estate. If you are 72 and college educated, you should have the critical thinking skills to understand this. You sound at best very, very immature, and possibly cognitively compromised.

My guess is you are a bored teenager having a little fun creating threads on your mama's favorite blog. Don't you have anything better to do with your time?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, you are an a$$. And I say that as a young-ish widow who started dating less than a year after my DH died.
You don't have to die alone and you absolutely can date. What you should not be doing is planning to leave money to a hypothetical person instead of your children. The fact that you already told your children that you will prioritize someone you hadn't met yet above them says all they need to know about you.

Where did you get that I prioritized her over my kids?

OP, how do you not see the weigh of your words to your kids? You tell them to their face you intend to leave your estate to the next wife, and good luck to your own flesh and blood if she chooses to cut them out of her estate. If you are 72 and college educated, you should have the critical thinking skills to understand this. You sound at best very, very immature, and possibly cognitively compromised.

My guess is you are a bored teenager having a little fun creating threads on your mama's favorite blog. Don't you have anything better to do with your time?

New poster here.
I absolutely believe the situation is real.
This literally could have been written by my dad, but he died a few months ago (before he found anyone to re-marry.) But he had pretty much the exact same attitude as OP--hell bent on marrying someone (anyone!) so that his adult kids would not get an inheritance. We didn't even have a "bad relationship" and one of my siblings was literally performing dozens of hours of work EVERY week for my dad (between driving to appointments, managing finances, taking phone calls from my dad's assisted living facility, etc.) Yet for some reason my Dad got it in his head that he needed a wife to leave all his money to, and to hell with his kids.
FWIW, most of my Dad's money was an inheritance from HIS parents.

But yeah, there are definitely real people who think like OP.