Does your DH watch pornography?

[Anonymous]

I thought this is what they're all doing when they are in the bathroom "pooping" for an hour daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Neither of us do. Notice how all the porn addicts think that’s unfathomable? They cannot imagine someone not watching porn.

I think it’s sleazy and gross. And absolutely not sexy in the least.

+100000
These women are usually drug addicts and trafficed as well.

You have a very, very narrow view of the porn industry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

1. Not everyone watches porn
2. Agree with this poster. The vast majority of those participating would rather be doing something else to earn that amount of money if they could, or are being trafficked in some way
3. Very concerned for the future - kids see things much earlier and much more varied than dad's magazines of 50 years ago, and think it's normal, when it's not. They don't know what normal is, what intimacy is, only warped views of what they see online

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this is what they're all doing when they are in the bathroom "pooping" for an hour daily.

Sometimes. But also sometimes complaining about the rankings on the college football subreddit.

I've heard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"
10% of the men at your kids soccer game are not going home to wives who loooove giving head or want to invite their girlfriends to join in."

WTH?! How are these two things even in the same sentence? It's perfectly within the norm for spouses to loooove giving head. But it's way outside of reality for anyone to invite their friends into the bedroom.

What you think is normal and way outside of reality is skewed.


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It’s entirely possible that your perception that there are a lot of married moms out there who looove giving head is just as skewed.

Wives refusing to ever give head is the norm. Remember the sad joke, “why is the bride smiling as she walks down the aisle? - she knows she never has to give head for the rest of her life.”

Which begs the Q.

- what if the husband chooses to watch a pron where head is given? Is that wrong ? Abnormal? Unrealistic ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

This is an interesting perspective, thanks for sharing it.

I’m a woman who does use porn occasionally and has found it very helpful for figuring out what I do and don’t want. I was anti-porn in my 20s/most of my 30s, but I was also not very satisfied with the sex I was having. I knew I wanted something more and different, but I didn’t know what. Watching porn as I got older helped me figure out exactly what I wanted and wanted to try, which has helped improved sex for me immensely.

But, I also recognize that it has a low potential to become addictive for me since I’m a woman. I go weeks or months without it and don’t miss it at all. While I have known many men who were addicted, to the point where they couldn’t perform with a real woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

- because we know in reality you and your friends are really all christo-fascists who secretly support MAGA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

- because we know in reality you and your friends are really all christo-fascists who secretly support MAGA.

Not to mention: anti choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this is what they're all doing when they are in the bathroom "pooping" for an hour daily.

If it makes you feel better, I am also pooping at the same time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

It shouldn't be amazing to you that a mention of church in this context is received politically. Look at the passage in question:

"I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on)."

This is specifically about joining a church in response to pornography. Churches that are politically neutral or left-leaning don't generally have much to say about porn or dwell, unduly, on sex generally. They are more interested in the things that Jesus spent a lot of time talking about (e.g. loving our neighbor, caring for those in need, etc.).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

- because we know in reality you and your friends are really all christo-fascists who secretly support MAGA.

Not to mention: anti choice

Typical porn addict deflecting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I’m a married man and will offer my perspective here.

I have consumed lots of pornography in life and I am convinced that it is a scourge in society, has warped male and female expectations about sex, and negatively impacted an entire generation of people since porn became widely available about 25 years ago.

First, let’s be frank about what is happening in most porn shoots — extremely vulnerable people who come from backgrounds where they were in most instances abused by other people are doing things with thier bodies that will live on the internet forever for a pittance of money — all for the sexual gratification of the person watching porn and so that a select few people at the top can make money off the entire enterprise. It’s deranged and sickening when you think about it. The people who perform in porn almost universally come from broken homes, and have drug or other interpersonal issues. Would you seriously want your son or daughter doing porn? We all know the answer to the question. If we truly care about vulnerable members of society, then we should not be doing things which aid in their exploitation.

And before anyone even says it … the amount of truly “ethical” pornography is extremely small and even those situations usually involve some sort of manipulation or other unhealthy behaviors.

These are real people we are seeing in these videos and pictures — people who have hearts, minds, souls. Let’s stop pretending otherwise.

Beyond that, the sheer amount of pornography available in society now is scales beyond anything we have ever seen before in human history. The average kid in high school today has already watched more porn that the people who stormed d-day would watch in their entire lifetimes. Think about that. And it’s not just the amount of porn but the type of sex acts too. I am not necessarily defending Playboy, but there was also some element of beauty and art to what they used to portray. Most porn today is very far away from that.

Now the more personal — I grew up in the 90s when an aol Internet connection was a novel thing and I watched porn just about every day for almost 30 years. It absolutely led me to have a very warped view of female sexual desire, true love-making, expectations around sex, the normalcy of certain sexual acts, and many other issues. During my first marriage, when my then-wife and I hit a rough patch in our marriage, I started watching more and more porn and the boundaries between porn world and the real world became increasingly blurred. I started taking small steps to combine the two — going to a strip club, talking in sexually charged chat rooms. Eventually, I had a full blown affair with someone where I got her to act out every porn fantasy I had ever watched. After that glow wore off — and it did — and the affair ended — I was left with the wreckage of a failed marriage, an extremely hurt ex-wife, and horrible feelings of guilt and shame at what I had done.

And yet … even after that … I didn’t stop. I tried but couldn’t. Porn was just an ingrained part of my life. A prison I couldn’t escape.

Fast-forwarding, I eventually got married a second time. I said I would not make the same mistakes again. I said I could control my porn usage now. That I knew the pain of an affair. And yet … when marriage number two hit a rough skid a few years ago, what did I find myself doing again to soothe that pain? More and more porn. More intense porn. The lines were starting to become blurred again and I felt like I was at a major crossroads in my life.

Thankfully, I picked a much wiser path this time. I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on). I started working with an executive coach who also didn’t believe in most of the modern therapy BS that porn is harmless. He showed me what it meant to show up as a real man in my relationship. I also came clean with my wife. While I was terrified she would leave me, she had precisely the opposite reaction and showed me incredible love and grace. We also started to professionally address serious intimacy issues both of us had in our marriage. Our sex life is much better now and we don’t have this toxic substance floating around all the time.

Am I an extreme case? Maybe, maybe not. I’ve met a lot of men now who tell me some version of my story. It’s crazy and wild.

I am very convinced that there are many men struggling out there in the world around this issue.

I hope my story shows that there can be change and you are not locked in this forever.

I also hope that this shows that it is not a harmless hobby. Countless threads on this board revolve around affairs, bad relationships, sexless marriages, and the like. I believe if you start to look beneath the surface, porn is playing a major role in many of these dysfunctions, even if people deny or hide it (I did both for a LONG time and never got caught). It was only after I dealt with my porn problem, that my marriage dramatically improved overall.

“joined a church” ?

this post is extremely Charlie Kirk / MAGA

Why do you say that?

I am the person who wrote it. While I am a registered independent, I can tell you that I voted for Biden twice and Harris this past year. If you looked up my name, I have made a single political donation to Biden in 2020 for the maximum amount.

Moreover, I am not a Charlie Kirk fan and was disgusted by the idolatry of Kirk by some at his funeral. Christians were acting like he was Jesus or something instead of a very flawed person, just like all of us are.

It is amazing to me that people have such singular political lenses that the mere mention of attending a church is coded by some as a political statement. It’s not. Jesus was neither a Democrat nor a Republican, not a conservative nor a liberal. He was something else entirely and you cannot put my faith into the typical political buckets through which everyone likes to sort things these days.

It shouldn't be amazing to you that a mention of church in this context is received politically. Look at the passage in question:

"I took a long hard look at my life and how porn had become this type of counterfeit god in my life. And how I sincerely needed to change. I joined a church. I made real friends there. I introduced accountability into the picture (if you use an IPhone, almost all porn will be blocked by the built-in blocking software if you just turn it on)."

This is specifically about joining a church in response to pornography. Churches that are politically neutral or left-leaning don't generally have much to say about porn or dwell, unduly, on sex generally. They are more interested in the things that Jesus spent a lot of time talking about (e.g. loving our neighbor, caring for those in need, etc.).

Who cares if it was church or a therapist? The guy realized porn was creating a net negative in his life and changed his habits for a better outcome.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this is what they're all doing when they are in the bathroom "pooping" for an hour daily.

Sometimes. But also sometimes complaining about the rankings on the college football subreddit.

I've heard.

Ha! Yes, the bathroom is an uncomfortable place for "release". I think it is more likely than not that the husbands that value their bathroom time are just scrolling on the same normal crap that they would be doing otherwise, just in peace.