Attraction to much older men

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

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This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Sounds really lonely.

I’m not the PP lady but it can be extremely lonely with a partner with whom you are ages apart. When a woman is single she can just take off and do whatever she wants. I’m single right now and in the last 4 months I traveled twice, went to several concerts and events, visited friends they visited me, spent time with my kids. I felt more lonely when I was married and you exH was always traveling for work.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Attractive financially independent 40s women have no deficit of men their own age courting them. I have a suitor 1 year younger than me, he’s tall, educated and good looking. Full head of dark hair, smooth skin. I don’t see why I would need to date or marry a man in his 60s if I’m able to land 40s men from my own lane.

That’s 40’s. Big difference. Come talk to us in your 50’s.

When I’m in my 50s then I might start dating 60s men if I’m unable to attract my age peers. But I just don’t see too many 40s women around dating 60s men. Maybe only Hollywood actors or Wall street bankers. But we all know why they date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all 60 yo are built the same. My husband will turn 60 in March and he is fit, doesn’t have a paunch or gray hair. Most people would look at him and think he is 45. Also, FWIW, he doesn’t need ED meds. He would be up for s3x 4 times a week. (Menopause has made me the issue there)

His brother OTOH is aging poorly. He is 58, with gray, thinning hair and a large paunch. You would never think that my husband is the older brother. They have a sister too. Most people who don’t know them would think my husband is the youngest.

People make all kinds of relationships work. I think you are fine

Hw will soon. It is inevitable.

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Only if they are rich enough to afford a lifestyle for you as well along with their care issues.

[Anonymous]

Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

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This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

I don't think it's about resentment. Many older women do not want to remarry, especially women who are already at least 50, many view men as a liability. They've already raised their kids and cared for their husbands, and they don't want to do it all over again. Many older women cherish being single. They find companionship with other women or their children. Committing to a new man means potentially becoming his caretaker, accomodating his children and grandchildren, etc. It's just not appealing.

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We are not jealous. You young women want the old men, you can have them.

So this. They can have them. The joke is on them! Enjoy!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Sounds really lonely.

That’s life. You will get there if your lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

I did not follow this.

Is the poster saying that Trump's White House press secretary has a job requiring her to lie on a grand scale, so she benefits from a calm older husband?

Or maybe she's saying Christians have to lie a lot?

I'd marry someone thirty years older than me, even with advanced dementia, before I'd accept a job as Trump's press secretary.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Attractive financially independent 40s women have no deficit of men their own age courting them. I have a suitor 1 year younger than me, he’s tall, educated and good looking. Full head of dark hair, smooth skin. I don’t see why I would need to date or marry a man in his 60s if I’m able to land 40s men from my own lane.

That’s 40’s. Big difference. Come talk to us in your 50’s.

I’m 50s and the same for me as pp. However, I am happily married for 30 yrs. Fitness is our passion though. 6 yr age difference. I would not be interested in remarrying or even dating IF DH passes before me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

She would be in that job regardless of her DH.

[Anonymous]

Dude here - I like older women too, specifically MILFs. So I hear you. You are attracted to FILFs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

I did not follow this.

Is the poster saying that Trump's White House press secretary has a job requiring her to lie on a grand scale, so she benefits from a calm older husband?

Or maybe she's saying Christians have to lie a lot?

I'd marry someone thirty years older than me, even with advanced dementia, before I'd accept a job as Trump's press secretary.

Previous poster here. I’m just saying she has a job where she has to lie on a grand scale - not that it has anything to do with her husband.

I’m also saying that having that kind of job would be hard on a person’s soul. Press secrataries don’t often have the longest tenure - I wonder if that’s why?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

She would be in that job regardless of her DH.

Pp here. I wasn’t insinuating that her husband had anything to do with her job.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Someone above mentioned Karoline Leavitt, the White House Press Secretary. She’s 27 and married to a 59 yo man.

She’s playing in a way older league for her age. She’s the youngest press secretary ever for one of the toughest administrations. WH Press Secretary is not an easy job. Plus, if you consider yourself Christian - its a LOT of lying on a grand scale. It has to be hard on a person mentally.

She would be in that job regardless of her DH.

Pp here. I wasn’t insinuating that her husband had anything to do with her job.

She looks early 40s and is overweight even though she's late 20s. No wonder she couldn't land a good looking man her age. It's usually uglier women who marry/settle for much older men

[Anonymous]

Thinking about the women I've matched with since my divorce and thinking about the older man-younger-woman couples I met over the years, I think the woman's personality and temperament matter much more than the woman's looks. The younger women I've dated have been above average looking. They prefer my way of talking and doing things with them. And yes, most of them have very strained relationships with family or with an ex.