Attraction to much older men
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Anonymous
| My Dad is 62, still very good looking, fit and very successful. I have a few GFs in their late 30's and early 40's who have expressed a real interest in him (I tend to roll my eyes) but they have young-ish children and my Dad is over that. I've mentioned it to him and he has no interest in dating a friend of his daughters. 50 and up seems to be fine for him. |
Anonymous
So gross to talk about your dad that way. 🤢 |
Anonymous
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Think of it this way
When you were 10 he was ….. Gross |
Anonymous
That is one f'king simpleton way to see life |
Anonymous
| Have you ever actually dated an older guy long term? Besides the nursemaid issue and heightened risk of becoming a single parent and widow early, think of the kinds of attitudes towards women that were acceptable when this group came of age. If he’s that old and never been married before, or has been married a bunch of times, he’s so much more likely to espouse some of these undesirable views. It will be harder for you to find couple-friends to socialize with who are a good fit. Media has conditioned us to think of older men as being wiser, more patient, maybe richer, maybe more self-sacrificing, but remember they are not a monolith and there are plenty of handsome (and not) older men who are literally none of these things. I’ve seen some older guys infantilize younger girlfriends and basically aren’t able to take them seriously or treat them as equals. And with the rich, social types, just go in with eyes open that you will get a good twenty years max, but at some point they’ll decide they just want to be homebodies and live simply and not keep up with your constant gallivanting and will leave you. OP honestly if it’s just the look you’re into, marry someone a little closer to your age in a higher-stress job and they will age more quickly, and you will get your silver fox lol. |
Anonymous
| I encourage this. Stop being so down on her preferences. |
Anonymous
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Actually another thing that can happen is once you hit a certain age, the geezer trades you in for a younger one the age you were when you got together.
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Anonymous
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Date whoever you want. Women are more than capable of making decisions for themselves and weighing out the pros and cons. If you are attracted to him and want to date him, do so. You are both adults.
Sarah Paulsen is 50 and has been dating her girlfriend since she was 40 and her girlfriend was 72. No one cares, it barely made the news and those are celebrities. |
Anonymous
Fairly sure most of us did that math. It’s gross. This is a troll anyway |
Anonymous
| It’s not ok, long term. They will (or have already) develop the old people smell and erectile dysfunction. You don’t want to be dealing with that in your 30s. Plus there is a HUGE decline physically, medically, and sometimes mentally going from 55-65 to 75-85. You marry a man that is 60 right now, and they will likely be very different in 10-15 yrs. |
Anonymous
.. don't worry pp is a troll |
Anonymous
Works fine. Just be clear about what it looks like to be 69 years old caring for n 80 year old partner. Resources matter, especially with people loving until over 100 and health care in disarray. |
Anonymous
| It only works in the short term. Once men hit 60 and especially once they become grandpas, they are just old, and if you end up in a committed relationship with someone whose age causes you to be old before your time by association, you'll regret it. Promise. |
Anonymous
| Daddy issues. |
Anonymous
| I know the majority of women don't feel the way OP does, but many women do. Some feel a deep emotional connection (and physical) with older men. Sometimes it's related to parent issues (dad or mom) and sometimes it has more to do with bad experiences with boys or men their own age. |