Attraction to much older men
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Anonymous
+100 This is a huge trigger here. |
Anonymous
And why is that? I don't get why so much hate. |
Anonymous
If they haven't had sex for 10 years, starting when she was in her late 40s, that's just a long time to live a celibate life. As far as finances, some people get more out of a divorce settlement than they will out of an estate (elective share is only 33% in many states). But, if it works for her, then it makes sense. |
Anonymous
because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like! |
Anonymous
Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children. |
Anonymous
She already lived these celibate years he’s in his 80s. Shes now in her 50s herself doesn’t need sex much but still bitter at him for many lost years |
Anonymous
Well are you going to keep at it with 55-65 year olds or settle down and then in a short period of time, that guy will be 75-80 and that's just nasty when you are 40s. |
Anonymous
This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse. |
Anonymous
| Good if you just want to have fun, not good if you want to have kids. |
Anonymous
Women would be more interested in long term relationships in middle age if men dated women their own age. But men brag all the time how "worthless"50s women are. The more I read it on this forum, the less I'm interested in dating men in general. As most second marriages are with larger gaps, a woman would be only interested in caretaker role if serious $$$ reward is guaranteed. These are many years of life devoted to an old person! Maybe younger women don't understand it, but anyone who has parents over 70 or an older first husband knows |
Anonymous
I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man. There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships. |
Anonymous
I don't think it's about resentment. Many older women do not want to remarry, especially women who are already at least 50, many view men as a liability. They've already raised their kids and cared for their husbands, and they don't want to do it all over again. Many older women cherish being single. They find companionship with other women or their children. Committing to a new man means potentially becoming his caretaker, accomodating his children and grandchildren, etc. It's just not appealing. |
Anonymous
Completely normal. Men tend to be about 10-20 years behind women both emotionally and physically, so it makes sense to date men around 10-20 years older than yourself at any age over 18. Men and women finally equal up at around mid 70s, when men age rapidly same as women do in their 50s. Evolution. |
Anonymous
That makes a lot of sense. I wish they’d stop though. |
Anonymous
Jealousy is the word. Menopause is psychologically rough for many women who won't accept their aging. |