Attraction to much older men

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

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This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

Jealousy is the word. Menopause is psychologically rough for many women who won't accept their aging.

Menopouse is rough for women in many ways, but from a relationship perspective, especially for single women, it's very freeing! Life without any commitments to a romantic partner is liberating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

I don't think it's about resentment. Many older women do not want to remarry, especially women who are already at least 50, many view men as a liability. They've already raised their kids and cared for their husbands, and they don't want to do it all over again. Many older women cherish being single. They find companionship with other women or their children. Committing to a new man means potentially becoming his caretaker, accomodating his children and grandchildren, etc. It's just not appealing.

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We are not jealous. You young women want the old men, you can have them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

Jealousy is the word. Menopause is psychologically rough for many women who won't accept their aging.

Menopause takes off pink glasses and helps to see life in real terms. I personally think now of many years I had spent on romantic stressors related to men instead of focusing on my career, for example. I would have achieved so much more in my life if I wasn’t conditioned to get married asap, and then didn’t have to deal with divorce in my 40s, and all that useless dating.

[Anonymous]

Just like Trump’s White House press secretary.
She is 28 and husband is late 50th.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

I don't think it's about resentment. Many older women do not want to remarry, especially women who are already at least 50, many view men as a liability. They've already raised their kids and cared for their husbands, and they don't want to do it all over again. Many older women cherish being single. They find companionship with other women or their children. Committing to a new man means potentially becoming his caretaker, accomodating his children and grandchildren, etc. It's just not appealing.

+1

We are not jealous. You young women want the old men, you can have them.

+1. We'll take the younger men, thank you. Two of my gfs married men four years younger.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like youve been groomed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

And why is that? I don't get why so much hate.

I think that women resent the idea of younger women getting the better quality older guys. There’s also some concern about a younger woman taking an interest in their man.

There’s a lot of resentment here for age gap relationships.

Jealousy is the word. Menopause is psychologically rough for many women who won't accept their aging.

Menopause takes off pink glasses and helps to see life in real terms. I personally think now of many years I had spent on romantic stressors related to men instead of focusing on my career, for example. I would have achieved so much more in my life if I wasn’t conditioned to get married asap, and then didn’t have to deal with divorce in my 40s, and all that useless dating.

Amen. I’m in my late 40s. I’m not in menopause but in since I turned 40, I really had wish I had not spent all this time on romantic relationships because men have truly been nothing but trouble and have added no value to my life and I would’ve been better off staying single and focusing on my own ones and needs the entire time and it’s sad that I had to wait until 40 to realize this. Damage was done.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

You can also marry a younger guy who doesn't need caretaking for even longer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

I hate to say it but there is definitely a subset of men who look better at 50 than at 20.

I was definitely a late bloomer. I was tall and skinny which is not a great look. Then, I was an avid bike racer (road and mountain) which made me look even worse. Once I got into lifting and put on quite a bit of muscle plus got older looking it really seemed to change things.

There is a huge difference between 50 and 60 for men. 50 is pretty much the same as 40 for men who workout and take a good care of themselves. Things really start going downhill for 60+ men . They look worse than 60s women in my opinion

Completely agree with this. My dad looked younger than my mom until their 60s, then within a couple year span, he started looking really old (white hair, bags under his eyes, liver spots on his skin, hunching over, looks tired all the time), but she still looks the same as she did in her early fifties because she's always been high maintenance about working out, skin care and procedures, fashion, hair, etc.

Can confirm. This is around when a 12 year age gap started to look more like 25.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Attractive financially independent 40s women have no deficit of men their own age courting them. I have a suitor 1 year younger than me, he’s tall, educated and good looking. Full head of dark hair, smooth skin. I don’t see why I would need to date or marry a man in his 60s if I’m able to land 40s men from my own lane.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Sounds really lonely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Attractive financially independent 40s women have no deficit of men their own age courting them. I have a suitor 1 year younger than me, he’s tall, educated and good looking. Full head of dark hair, smooth skin. I don’t see why I would need to date or marry a man in his 60s if I’m able to land 40s men from my own lane.

That’s 40’s. Big difference. Come talk to us in your 50’s.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

+100

This is a huge trigger here.

because a lot of here are gen x or older millenials, with aging parents (or husbands!), and know what dealing with old men are like!

Right? It's more out of solidarity with other women. We're not fighting over the same men. Most older women don't want older men anyway - they prefer to be single over taking on a second husband and becoming a caretaker to a new man and potentially his children.

This is the truth. All my friends are long-marrieds to their first husbands (met in college, grad school or first jobs) but would not remarry if widowed/divorced. No one wants to be a caretaker after raising a family to anyone but their current spouse.

You can just marry an older guy who is fit and doesn’t need a “caretaker”. They exist. Don’t judge all men by your fat slug of a DH.

But why? Such a man wouldn't add any value to my lifet. I have plenty of money, friends, my own kids, and sex is not exactly difficult for a reasonably attractive woman of any age to find. Commitment to an older man, no matter how much he works out, would be a liability at this point.

Attractive financially independent 40s women have no deficit of men their own age courting them. I have a suitor 1 year younger than me, he’s tall, educated and good looking. Full head of dark hair, smooth skin. I don’t see why I would need to date or marry a man in his 60s if I’m able to land 40s men from my own lane.

That’s 40’s. Big difference. Come talk to us in your 50’s.

I’m in a large Midwest urban center. The stats are about the same for men and women in 50s in my area. The men I dated also dated attractive 50s women.