Attraction to much older men

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Dad is 62, still very good looking, fit and very successful. I have a few GFs in their late 30's and early 40's who have expressed a real interest in him (I tend to roll my eyes) but they have young-ish children and my Dad is over that. I've mentioned it to him and he has no interest in dating a friend of his daughters. 50 and up seems to be fine for him.

He had you in his early 20s or you date older women?

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Anonymous wrote:It is ok. Don’t let anyone tell you who you should be attracted to. If you like older men, go for it. The good thing is that most older men like younger women.

It’s a waste of time and a bad idea if OP wants to have kids. Men that age won’t want to, and if they do, they will be dead or really old before the kid even gets to college.

OP here. I’m OK with not having kids. I used to like the idea of having them. But it’s less of a priority.

Kids are expensive, right?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

I hate to say it but there is definitely a subset of men who look better at 50 than at 20.

I was definitely a late bloomer. I was tall and skinny which is not a great look. Then, I was an avid bike racer (road and mountain) which made me look even worse. Once I got into lifting and put on quite a bit of muscle plus got older looking it really seemed to change things.

There is a huge difference between 50 and 60 for men. 50 is pretty much the same as 40 for men who workout and take a good care of themselves. Things really start going downhill for 60+ men . They look worse than 60s women in my opinion

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

I hate to say it but there is definitely a subset of men who look better at 50 than at 20.

I was definitely a late bloomer. I was tall and skinny which is not a great look. Then, I was an avid bike racer (road and mountain) which made me look even worse. Once I got into lifting and put on quite a bit of muscle plus got older looking it really seemed to change things.

There is a huge difference between 50 and 60 for men. 50 is pretty much the same as 40 for men who workout and take a good care of themselves. Things really start going downhill for 60+ men . They look worse than 60s women in my opinion

Completely agree with this. My dad looked younger than my mom until their 60s, then within a couple year span, he started looking really old (white hair, bags under his eyes, liver spots on his skin, hunching over, looks tired all the time), but she still looks the same as she did in her early fifties because she's always been high maintenance about working out, skin care and procedures, fashion, hair, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 36 and weirdly attracted to Harrison ford.

Christopher Plummer was the standard bearer for years

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Hey OP bby! I’m in your preferred demo and no blue pill needed. Let’s f***ing go!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I encourage this. Stop being so down on her preferences.

Same here. I'm betting a good portion of these posts are from bitter 55+ women who are upset they can't find someone to date. Because a good looking 60ish guy is going to be attractive and attracted to a 35 year old woman. It makes the harpies lose their minds.

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Anonymous wrote:I encourage this. Stop being so down on her preferences.

Same here. I'm betting a good portion of these posts are from bitter 55+ women who are upset they can't find someone to date. Because a good looking 60ish guy is going to be attractive and attracted to a 35 year old woman. It makes the harpies lose their minds.

Not really. Some really fit, really rich 50-somethings who are willing to spend their money on their dates can attract 35 year old women. 60+ and men are basically on their death bed from the perspective of younger women. It's a cliff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever actually dated an older guy long term? Besides the nursemaid issue and heightened risk of becoming a single parent and widow early, think of the kinds of attitudes towards women that were acceptable when this group came of age. If he’s that old and never been married before, or has been married a bunch of times, he’s so much more likely to espouse some of these undesirable views. It will be harder for you to find couple-friends to socialize with who are a good fit. Media has conditioned us to think of older men as being wiser, more patient, maybe richer, maybe more self-sacrificing, but remember they are not a monolith and there are plenty of handsome (and not) older men who are literally none of these things. I’ve seen some older guys infantilize younger girlfriends and basically aren’t able to take them seriously or treat them as equals. And with the rich, social types, just go in with eyes open that you will get a good twenty years max, but at some point they’ll decide they just want to be homebodies and live simply and not keep up with your constant gallivanting and will leave you. OP honestly if it’s just the look you’re into, marry someone a little closer to your age in a higher-stress job and they will age more quickly, and you will get your silver fox lol.

I'm in my mid 50s. "the kinds of attitudes towards women that were acceptable when this group came of age" are the same as today. All the guys I know have wives with similar education (grad school educated) and similar career trajectories. We all shared the child care and cook and clean as much as our wives.

Granted, that doesn't apply to every 55-65 year old man, but it also doesn't apply to every 25-35 year old man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

nothing worse than being energetic late 50s woman with 80+ frail man. I have a friend who married 20+ older man they stopped having sex when he was 70 and now she's creaming at him daily

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

nothing worse than being energetic late 50s woman with 80+ frail man. I have a friend who married 20+ older man they stopped having sex when he was 70 and now she's creaming at him daily

Why is she still married to him, then? Plenty of people choose to divorce in a sexless marriage.

[Anonymous]

I’m surprised OP doesn’t know that one of the biggest triggers for DCUM women is admitting you like older men. 😂😂😂

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a fit, tall and reasonably attracive older guy. What’s odd is that I get more interest from younger women than I did when I was actually their age. I think it partly has to do with an actor that I resemble who is in everything right now. Maybe, my look - although not great, is in style right now?

Btw, I wouldn’t date these people - I’m happily married.

They think you have $$$

This
Nothing more. Nothing less.

Attractive people are attractive and some women really like older guys.

My sister is one of those people. She’s always liked dating older men. Only one of them has been somewhat rich and he’s not the one she married. She has a 24 year age gap with her husband.

nothing worse than being energetic late 50s woman with 80+ frail man. I have a friend who married 20+ older man they stopped having sex when he was 70 and now she's creaming at him daily

Why is she still married to him, then? Plenty of people choose to divorce in a sexless marriage.

Children and financial matters . No point to divorce now that he's in his 80s and she realizes he won't last much longer. She doesn't plan to date or remarry what's the point