Spouse’s ex moved back, rejoined friend circle

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Anonymous wrote:If he's going to cheat with her, he's going to do it regardless of if he meets up with the friend group without you. Frankly, I think you're being a bit ridiculous.

I disagree. Cheating is half opportunity. The more time he spends alone with her, the more opportunity to cheat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If he's going to cheat with her, he's going to do it regardless of if he meets up with the friend group without you. Frankly, I think you're being a bit ridiculous.

I disagree. Cheating is half opportunity. The more time he spends alone with her, the more opportunity to cheat.

So you want to be his mommy and control his free time?

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Anonymous wrote:At what ages were they in a relationship? How long did it last?

Unless there has been cheating or some reason for concern, not reasonable. If you don't trust your spouse, you don't trust them but you can't control them and cut them off from friends unless you oversee their visits.

Teens. Approximately one year.
Ex decided to leave for school.

Are you feeling nervous because the only reason they broke up was so ex gf could go to college, not because the relationship had run its course, and now that she’s back, you think they just might pick up where they left off?

Yes, that’s my guess.
I’m OP and actually the ex.
I moved back to our hometown after a divorce. We both have kids now and had not spoken at all since either of us got married.

You need to expand your social group beyond your hs friends.

You have no power here. I don’t understand why the guy is hanging out with a mixed-sex crowd without his wife when he has little kids at home anyway. Either way, you need more friends that don’t include these people.

What? You are saying the guy - or anyone shouldn't hang out in a group of people that include the opposite sex when their spouse isn't there?

That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

I had no idea Mrs. Pence posted on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t worry about who my spouse dated as a teen

That was the hottest sex though

[Anonymous]

I have a question for OP - if he were single would you be interfered in rekindling the relationship? Maybe the wife gets that vibe and is trying to be safe.
Does the friend group like the wife (before this rule was imposed)?

[Anonymous]

I'm kinda surprised by the reactions here.

Of all of my exes, I have the strongest nostalgic feelings for my high school sweetheart. I wouldn't have an affair with him because he's married and I don't do that. But I think it's reasonable to feel threatened by that.

Oh, and one of my exes broke up with me and a year later I found out he got back together with his high school girlfriend. We were 32. They are married now. So....

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t worry about who my spouse dated as a teen.

You should.

Of my married male friends that cheated, roughly 80% did it with their HS gfs during a rough patch in the marriage in their 30s.

That number sounds made-up. At best, you’re just generalizing from a handful of personal stories.

PP sounds like someone who lives in a small town. I mean, who is still hanging out with their high school girlfriends?

That's me. I grew up in Georgetown and attended a local private school. A huge number of my HS friends have ended up back in DC because we are highly educated and in VIP roles mostly.

Oh dear lord.