1 to 10, how furious would you be if your husband drove home drunk after golfing?

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

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I wouldn't insist on no alcohol, I would insist that he stay and sober up or call an Uber. Having one beer, fine. Having multiple beers? He needs to sober up before driving.

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question: What do the experts recommend if you leave somewhere feeling sober but fifteen minutes later in the car the alcohol starts really hitting you and you feel progressively more drunk?

Duh, pull over and order an uber.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

OP said they did shots and he was drunk.

Over-medicated texting drivers are dangerous. So are drunk drivers.

Both of these are true. At the same time!

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Anonymous wrote:What is this "demand" language. Are you his probation officer or something? What a b|tch.

Just talk to him like a normal human that you love, not like a controlling shrew who spends all his money. No wonder he drinks.

Whoa, alcoholic divorced man showing up to call everyone “shrews”, right on cue. Go pound another beer Derek.

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Anonymous wrote:Trying to be the alcohol nanny is a bad move and counterproductive. If he doesn't drink much it's insulting and controlling and says you don't trust him to learn from this error and correct in the future. If he is a drinker he will just hide it more. Either way you end up a nagging unhappy shrew.
I am a woman and non-drinker but overeat. DH learned not being my food police makes us both happier and me thinner.

Does your overeating endanger others or put your DH’s assets and home at risk if you do injure someone? Can your overeating kill a small child?

Thank you. What an absurd comparison. Being fat or possibly killing someone, yeah totes the same 🙄

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Pounding 3 beers after every round of golf? Tell us you're divorced and single without telling us you're divorced and single.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Quite true.

Distracted driving due to phones, radio, etc. are the #1 cause of accidents on the highways.

Sleepy driving is #2 cause of accidents.

Lack of driving skills and cautiousness is #3 cause of accidents. This includes road rage, tailgating, improper merging, etc.

Weed is #4 cause of accidents and rapidly rising cause.

Drunk driving is way down the list for causing accidents and deaths. Most of those are due to being drunk and on other drugs combination. Weed and alcohol or prescriptions and alcohol are potent combos.

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Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

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Yup. And they are criminals.

Technically everyone is a criminal or potential criminal.

"The only power any government has is the power to crack down on criminals. Well, when there aren't enough criminals, one makes them. One declares so many things to be a crime that it becomes impossible for men to live without breaking laws." - Ayn Rand

This proliferation of laws can lead to a system where individuals are constantly at risk of unintentionally violating legal statutes, shifting the default from liberty to suspicion of guilt, making everyone a criminal. Most everyone breaks at least 1-2 laws a day, most are minor, but defines them as criminals none the less.

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It's probably more effective to let him get a DUI and have to deal with it on his record.

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Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

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Yup. And they are criminals.

So let’s assume you are not an alcoholic. You get drunk. You ask yourself “Should I drive? Since I’m not an alcoholic, it must be ok for me to drive since only alcoholics drive drunk.”

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

No grown man is 'thoroughly sloshed' off of 4 drinks. Get a grip.

Thanks for chiming in, alcoholic.

Seriously. I'm a woman but I had an incredibly strong margarita last night and was definitely drunk. Four of those and I would have been under the table or dead.

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Anonymous wrote:Trying to be the alcohol nanny is a bad move and counterproductive. If he doesn't drink much it's insulting and controlling and says you don't trust him to learn from this error and correct in the future. If he is a drinker he will just hide it more. Either way you end up a nagging unhappy shrew.
I am a woman and non-drinker but overeat. DH learned not being my food police makes us both happier and me thinner.

Overeating and driving drunk are two completely different things.

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Anonymous wrote:Trying to be the alcohol nanny is a bad move and counterproductive. If he doesn't drink much it's insulting and controlling and says you don't trust him to learn from this error and correct in the future. If he is a drinker he will just hide it more. Either way you end up a nagging unhappy shrew.
I am a woman and non-drinker but overeat. DH learned not being my food police makes us both happier and me thinner.

Does your overeating endanger others or put your DH’s assets and home at risk if you do injure someone? Can your overeating kill a small child?

Thank you. What an absurd comparison. Being fat or possibly killing someone, yeah totes the same 🙄

+1

Overeating may kill YOU. Driving drunk could kill SOMEONE ELSE.

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10 million. I’m furious with your husband because he may have put my or my family’s lives at risk. Not acceptable ever ever ever.