1 to 10, how furious would you be if your husband drove home drunk after golfing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How drunk was he? About .08? .15?

This would
Matter to me too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Yeah that’s bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some anti-alcohol propaganda going on in this thread it's obvious.
Puritanical religious-fueled prohibitionists are still around in this day and age.

Dcum thinks anyone who drinks is an alcoholic.

[Anonymous]

No problem with alcohol but a huge problem with driving drunk. There’s the actual danger to himself and others and also the incredible red flag of poor judgment. For god sake just take an Uber.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Not my business. Their body, their choice. Is it smart? No.

But I wouldn't ruin a marriage over something as trivial as this. Most people trying to say it should ruin a marriage have an obvious agenda.

You are impaired right now, aren’t you?

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Anonymous wrote:11. Especially in the age of Uber there is NEVER a reason to drive drunk. I would not require ceasing alcohol, just driving after having ANY. Even one sip. Get a breathalyzer installed on the car

LMAO, you'd hate living anywhere south of the border, or even in the USA pre-2010s. Everyone had liquid lunches at work or the local pub or restaurant.

Yes that's my point. This is sooooo easy to avoid now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Not my business. Their body, their choice. Is it smart? No.

But I wouldn't ruin a marriage over something as trivial as this. Most people trying to say it should ruin a marriage have an obvious agenda.

Except.that they could kill someone for which you'd be joint and severally liable and lose your life savings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Why are children in the street? Why aren’t you supervising them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

But he didn’t.

Not my business. Their body, their choice. Is it smart? No.

But I wouldn't ruin a marriage over something as trivial as this. Most people trying to say it should ruin a marriage have an obvious agenda.

Except.that they could kill someone for which you'd be joint and severally liable and lose your life savings

[Anonymous]

Effing 10.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Why are children in the street? Why aren’t you supervising them?

Why do you think they are in the street? How drunk are you?

[Anonymous]

I would think that he was having a stroke. My DH is pretty sane and cautious.

Do we drive after having a drink or two - sure. Do we drive when we are drunk, sleepy or tired? No. Do we let our friends drive drunk? No. Do we let our kids drive drunk, tired, late at night, sleepy? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Why are children in the street? Why aren’t you supervising them?

Why do you think they are in the street? How drunk are you?

I have no idea why children would be in the street; mine never are unless they are crossing securely holding my hand. If you let your kids play in the street, well…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Why are children in the street? Why aren’t you supervising them?

Why do you think they are in the street? How drunk are you?

I have no idea why children would be in the street; mine never are unless they are crossing securely holding my hand. If you let your kids play in the street, well…

Please explain how holding your hand will protect your child from a drunk who runs the light and hits both of you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.