1 to 10, how furious would you be if your husband drove home drunk after golfing?

[Anonymous]

10

[Anonymous]

If it was his first-time, probably between an 8 or a 9.

I would just tell him that if he is going to do any driving in the future, then he needs to abstain from the liquor 🥃 completely….

[Anonymous]

10. He could have killed someone out there. Just completely unacceptable -- we all knew this even in college.

[Anonymous]

Shame on your husband for being so irresponsible. Sure it will continue until he's caught and ultimately someone is hurt.

Good Luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Given these circumstances I would give it a 5. Assuming he acknowledges his mistake.

I had actual alcoholism in my family growing up. People on here are not making much sense. Many people drive after a drink or two hanging out with friends. It’s generally not a problem. Obviously it was for him due to some extenuating circumstances. I would ask him how he would handle it differently next time.

[Anonymous]

I would be a 10/10 because this is just so colossally stupid. You don’t drive after a couple of shots. That said, texting and driving is terribly dangerous too and many posters that are so outraged probably do this all the time.

[Anonymous]

20

[Anonymous]

He’s very lucky he didn’t kill someone. I would tell him if he drinks alcohol again, I will divorce him. And I would mean it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your spouse is an alcoholic. Don't minimize or enable it. If he's that far gone to noticeably drive home drunk after golfing, he's probably been engaged in excessive drinking coupled with dangerous behavior for many years.

There's nothing you can do other than prepare to end the marriage for your own safety and peace of mind. You can't make him stop drinking. In fact up to now you've probably enabled it If you don't want to leave the marriage then call the police and report him for drunk driving and let him deal with the consequences.

He could have killed someone. You have an obligation to stop him.

Get a grip lady. You are unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:11. Especially in the age of Uber there is NEVER a reason to drive drunk. I would not require ceasing alcohol, just driving after having ANY. Even one sip. Get a breathalyzer installed on the car

LMAO, you'd hate living anywhere south of the border, or even in the USA pre-2010s. Everyone had liquid lunches at work or the local pub or restaurant.

DP

I did hate it. Everyone was so irresponsible. And those liquid work lunches were coupled by evenings where the male bosses went to the strip club and some of the ladies went to, so they wouldn't be excluded. I'm so glad we don't live in that world. I was also happy to see many of those guys retire over the years. I've watch so many of my bosses cheat on their wives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

No grown man is 'thoroughly sloshed' off of 4 drinks. Get a grip.

[Anonymous]

10/10

That would be one of the biggest transgressions in my book. That shows an incredible lack of judgment and carelessness. It would be a long time until I could get over that.

We drink, not a lot at home but socially. Sometimes we get drunk. We do NOT drive then. (We are lucky that we have a ton of restaurants that are walkable and most of our friends live in our neighborhood so we can walk to each other's houses).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

This is why we have a driver *chuckles*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

No grown man is 'thoroughly sloshed' off of 4 drinks. Get a grip.

Thanks for chiming in, alcoholic.