1 to 10, how furious would you be if your husband drove home drunk after golfing?

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Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

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Yup. And they are criminals.

So let’s assume you are not an alcoholic. You get drunk. You ask yourself “Should I drive? Since I’m not an alcoholic, it must be ok for me to drive since only alcoholics drive drunk.”

Drunks make very bad decisions. Look at your own past to confirm.

You are hilarious. Now a guy who drinks three cans of beer after walking 6 miles and playing 18 holes of golf is a 'drunk'?

I bet 50 bucks that you are a single cat lady that has a moustache.

Wrong on all counts, you lose the bet.

However, you don't just drink three beers after a.round if golf. Three is just the number you tell people because no one would believe you if you said it was only one or two. You reek of alcohol, slur words, stagger unsteadily You're an alcoholic. You don't even care about golf. You walk the course and get sweaty to justify the 3,4,5,6 ? beers at the end of the round.

And who knows how much you drink when not on the golf course. Lots I'm sure.

It hasn't been just three for many years,has it?

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40 what the....
He's an alcoholic and needs treatment. This is a deal breaker if he doesn't get help and quit.

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Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

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Yup. And they are criminals.

So let’s assume you are not an alcoholic. You get drunk. You ask yourself “Should I drive? Since I’m not an alcoholic, it must be ok for me to drive since only alcoholics drive drunk.”

Drunks make very bad decisions. Look at your own past to confirm.

You are hilarious. Now a guy who drinks three cans of beer after walking 6 miles and playing 18 holes of golf is a 'drunk'?

I bet 50 bucks that you are a single cat lady that has a moustache.

Wrong on all counts, you lose the bet.

However, you don't just drink three beers after a.round if golf. Three is just the number you tell people because no one would believe you if you said it was only one or two. You reek of alcohol, slur words, stagger unsteadily You're an alcoholic. You don't even care about golf. You walk the course and get sweaty to justify the 3,4,5,6 ? beers at the end of the round.

And who knows how much you drink when not on the golf course. Lots I'm sure.

It hasn't been just three for many years,has it?

There you go again, making things up. And saying to hell with spelling and grammar as you go. Uneducated and unstable. LOL. You're a loser. Sad, single and fat.

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Anonymous wrote:In addition, would you demand he cease all alcohol moving forward, for a specific period of time, or not at all? Would your reaction change if he's genuinely not a big drinker and you're 100% certain this was an isolated lapse?

"Did you remember to buy milk? No? Well go back! Cmon!"

It's not a big deal OP unless he was speeding along on a freeway. You said yourself it's a rare incident.

So you’re good with someone driving drunk as long as it’s on neighborhood streets? During the day. When kids are put and about?

Not my business. Their body, their choice. Is it smart? No.

But I wouldn't ruin a marriage over something as trivial as this. Most people trying to say it should ruin a marriage have an obvious agenda.

Except.that they could kill someone for which you'd be joint and severally liable and lose your life savings

Or they could become a quadriplegic, and you will be feeding, bathing, brushing their teeth, changing their urine bags, managing bowel clearing treatments, turning them in the middle of the night to prevent bed sores for the rest of their life, while trying to managing the rest of your life and household on your own.

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I didn't read all the replies but 10/10. Getting drunk is one thing, fine - then take an Uber or even call me and I can pick up DH, etc. A drink or a few over a couple hours is one thing but if you mean actually drunk / over the legal limit that's awful - could kill yourself or others.

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I don’t see anyone “pounding beers” after playing golf at our country club. People do get toasted at big events and outings but it would be very weird to see a group of middle aged dads acting like frat boys after playing a random round of golf. After a round I see some dads having literally one beer and then quickly taking off.

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There is a huge difference between drinking and being drunk. If you are a 200 pound male and you have two drinks over two hours your alcohol level will be about .02-.04. Being drunk is a whole separate class of drinking but let’s not equate the two.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Pounding 3 beers after every round of golf? Tell us you're divorced and single without telling us you're divorced and single.

Faithfully married for 23 years, made 550k last year, and probably coached your son in baseball. Guess what? He sucked and we all laughed at how fat you are.

Habibi, you have PROBLEMS. Get help.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Pounding 3 beers after every round of golf? Tell us you're divorced and single without telling us you're divorced and single.

Faithfully married for 23 years, made 550k last year, and probably coached your son in baseball. Guess what? He sucked and we all laughed at how fat you are.

Habibi, you have PROBLEMS. Get help.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Pounding 3 beers after every round of golf? Tell us you're divorced and single without telling us you're divorced and single.

Faithfully married for 23 years, made 550k last year, and probably coached your son in baseball. Guess what? He sucked and we all laughed at how fat you are.

Habibi, you have PROBLEMS. Get help.

At least I'm not some fat middle aged lady with a loser son.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s not ok. In my house, if there is an alcohol event we pick each other up. We
Also do this for our young adult kids. It is almost never necessary but our practice is zero alcohol if you are driving so it happens on occasion.

I actually don't mind him having a weak light beer maybe two max while socializing for an hour after a golf round. He NEVER drinks while actually golfing. One of his friends just sold his company and ordered a couple of shots of whiskey while they were socializing after playing. They hit him while en route home. Thing is at country clubs, they will often make shots heavy, so those two shots of bourbon were possibly closer to four. He was thoroughly sloshed when he walked in the door.

Four shots of whiskey are not going to make a kid sloppy drunk, much less a full grown male.

Good luck telling that to a cop. A beer or two plus 2 to 4 shots of 80 to 110 proof whiskey in under an hour is drunk.

You just moved the goalposts. Stop making this something it isn't.

Do you know men who golf and then "have a quick beer" at the clubhouse bar while they chat about the round? They're not doing that for several hours, they're drinking for maybe one hour. If a man drinks one or two beers and a couple of strong shots in an hour they are going to be over-the-limit drunk in their car. End of story.

You are saying that. Not OP. Again, stop making things up. And yes, I'm a man who golfs and loves beer. It's very common for my to finish a round and have 3, 12 ounce lite beers in an hour or so and drive home. It's literally a nothing burger compared to the distracted, over medicated, texting loons out there.

Pounding 3 beers after every round of golf? Tell us you're divorced and single without telling us you're divorced and single.

Faithfully married for 23 years, made 550k last year, and probably coached your son in baseball. Guess what? He sucked and we all laughed at how fat you are.

What is wrong with you? The men that have been my son’s rec soccer coaches have been so wonderful and such an influence on my son. He is being recruited as a D3 player because of them - they built his confidence in those early years. So painful to think you were laughing at the kids on your team.

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Um, on a scale of 1-10 I’d be 100. My dear friend was killed by a drunk driver.

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Anonymous wrote:What is this "demand" language. Are you his probation officer or something? What a b|tch.

Just talk to him like a normal human that you love, not like a controlling shrew who spends all his money. No wonder he drinks.

Whoa, alcoholic divorced man showing up to call everyone “shrews”, right on cue. Go pound another beer Derek.

Nope, happily married for 20 years because my wife is not like this. As it happens, I don't drink a drop, personally.

Nags gonna nag, but then they're surprised at how it turns out.

Using terms like “nag” is just gaslighting women. If men stuck to their word and were honourable nagging wouldn’t exist. You sound awful.

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Anonymous wrote:It was super dumb of him and he could have killed someone or really ducked up your life. But... people make mistakes. If he doesn't drink a ton, had 3 beers instead of 2 and didn't realize how much the sun would affect him, that's very different than he took shots and then drove home.

This was not a mistake. This was a grown man whose longstanding issue of problem drinking has grown to the point where his spouse is forced to cry out for help on the Internet

Why do people this sour read their own stuff into other people’s posts? You literally have no idea if this is true.

Not pp but its sad how alcoholics in denial feel so defensive.

Are you saying every person who drives drunk is an alcoholic?

Dangerous.

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Yup. And they are criminals.

So let’s assume you are not an alcoholic. You get drunk. You ask yourself “Should I drive? Since I’m not an alcoholic, it must be ok for me to drive since only alcoholics drive drunk.”

Drunks make very bad decisions. Look at your own past to confirm.

You are hilarious. Now a guy who drinks three cans of beer after walking 6 miles and playing 18 holes of golf is a 'drunk'?

I bet 50 bucks that you are a single cat lady that has a moustache.

Wrong on all counts, you lose the bet.

However, you don't just drink three beers after a.round if golf. Three is just the number you tell people because no one would believe you if you said it was only one or two. You reek of alcohol, slur words, stagger unsteadily You're an alcoholic. You don't even care about golf. You walk the course and get sweaty to justify the 3,4,5,6 ? beers at the end of the round.

And who knows how much you drink when not on the golf course. Lots I'm sure.

It hasn't been just three for many years,has it?

There you go again, making things up. And saying to hell with spelling and grammar as you go. Uneducated and unstable. LOL. You're a loser. Sad, single and fat.

So instead of deriding the drunk driver, you choose to call anon people fat? How sad is your life dude

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Anonymous wrote:There is a huge difference between drinking and being drunk. If you are a 200 pound male and you have two drinks over two hours your alcohol level will be about .02-.04. Being drunk is a whole separate class of drinking but let’s not equate the two.

Op said he was drunk.