Husband asked me to change my behavior

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you going to do when your kid isn't perfect? When your kid doesn't behave exactly how you want? When they aren't how you want them to be?

I’m fine with that. My child doesn’t go be perfect. I don’t expect people to be perfect. I just like things like cooking, a party I throw, my home, etc., to be perfect. I want to have the most perfect welcome home for our baby.

The way you throw around the word "perfect" is nauseating. A perfect "welcome home for our baby?" What the hell does that mean?! You understand that a newborn will have zero memory of whatever it is you do to create the so-called welcome home, right? Also start repeating to yourself now: "I did not invent motherhood, I did not invent motherhood." if by chance you are one of those women addicted to documenting and posting everything "perfect" about your life in SM, stop now. No one likes it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you going to do when your kid isn't perfect? When your kid doesn't behave exactly how you want? When they aren't how you want them to be?

I’m fine with that. My child doesn’t go be perfect. I don’t expect people to be perfect. I just like things like cooking, a party I throw, my home, etc., to be perfect. I want to have the most perfect welcome home for our baby.

The baby is already in the house with you.

When you come back from the hospital, you will have incisional pain, be bleeding from your privates at a rate you may never have experienced before, will either be engorged or be trying to manage early breastfeeding, and will be at the front end of sleep disruption that will last for more than a year.

Nothing will be “perfect” in the way you are suggesting. But if you and the baby are both healthy, it will be perfect. No planning required.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lexapro. I was like this and the reality is even things that can be 100 percent in your control can end up imperfect. And I was miserable most of the time. Even at my wedding, birth of my kid, etc. I could always find something to nit pick about. You are probably mean to your husband and try to control him too. It's no way to live.

I’ve also benefitted tremendously from lexapro for my mild anxiety! No side effects either, unless I miss a dose.