My girlfriend quietly collected her things and left without a word during an argument

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is so dramatic.

It's entirely possible she is mature enough not to want to say something she'll regret, and so removed herself from the temptation. Text once to own your part of the argument and let her know how you feel, then leave the ball in her court.

See, I think her leaving is immature. I get if someone needs time to cool off but say that.

I think most people would say that yelling at her and calling her a liar is way more immature.

Yeah, it is like a first grader. So stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op must be a very black and white thinker.

Or too young to have a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:And she’s never coming back. She’s had enough.

This. It got pretty heated = she saw a side of you she never wants to see again, and won’t.

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If she's smart she won't be back.

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Cool story bro although your writing is terrible and hard to follow.

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OP, you sound like my xH who was obsessed over lying, and pointing out each and every thing that someone said that could be a lie.

It’s why we divorced and why our DD will no longer speak to him once she turns 18.

Adults understand that the black and white, “all lies are bad” mentality isn’t grounded in reality. The truth is people lie for good reason. Your need to show everyone how smart you are at detecting lies shows a deep insecurity.

Get to therapy and figure out why you act like this. It’s not normal and you’ll end up single/dovorced/alone.

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OP, you sound like you’ve learned some bad emotional patterns. Many, many posters are saying that they would have left. I would have left.

I agree with the pp who said you are headed for a life of short volatile relationships. To catch the eye of an emotionally mature woman, you need to be entirely mature yourself. Yelling is not that. Name calling is not that.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

Not a chance. I did get kind of heated and she told me to that I needed to bring it down and not yell. She didn’t leave until I told her she was a liar.

DP.

Keep living in denial. Women get scared when men raise their voices.

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You seem weird.

She gone!!

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You just lost some weight! She’s gone

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

Most educated and professional women in this day and age don't expect or receive any physical violence unless they are knowingly dating an addict or an abuser.

Wow. No, that’s not how it works.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

So, friend was in a safe place and fine? Where's the lie?

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Do you understand the concept of a white lie?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Omg, I hope this woman doesn’t look back!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

I mean I guess arguing with online commenter instead of your girlfriend is less harmful but, dude. Even if you managed to convince people on this forum you were in the right (which you won't), that wouldn't make her come back.

"Well people on the internet said I was right" is never going to be a winning argument in a relationship.

Seriously, what's the motivation here? Are you bored and trolling?

Or, are you under 23? These interactions are young and immature, at least there’s time to change! Good luck OP!