My girlfriend quietly collected her things and left without a word during an argument

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you sound like my xH who was obsessed over lying, and pointing out each and every thing that someone said that could be a lie.

It’s why we divorced and why our DD will no longer speak to him once she turns 18.

Adults understand that the black and white, “all lies are bad” mentality isn’t grounded in reality. The truth is people lie for good reason. Your need to show everyone how smart you are at detecting lies shows a deep insecurity.

Get to therapy and figure out why you act like this. It’s not normal and you’ll end up single/dovorced/alone.

Sounds like we need your xH to work with the current Administration!!

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OP, are you mad because she’s the one who left, thus denying you the “moral high ground” of getting to leave her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“But but she can’t have really left me—she still has a half bottle of Herbal Essences in my shower!”

But what if he left behind a half bottle of Drakkar - could he really have left me?

[Anonymous]

Change the locks while she's out and put her stuff on the lawn.

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I'm so happy for her that she got away.

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Anonymous wrote:Change the locks while she's out and put her stuff on the lawn.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

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What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

This is the stupidest thing to get upset over. How old are you? I would have absolutely done something similar if it was my friend throwing up from being drunk. And ignoring wouldn’t be ok because i’m guessing the mom was helping with the friend’s kids and ignoring her would just make her worry/angry. Grow up. And when you do you are going to realize how you lost someone over this stupidity. I would have left too.

This is 100% on you. Everytime you try to give more insight it just makes you look worse.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say that's all she wrote, bro.

Her toiletries are still here and we’re still friends on social media. She only collected the things she came with last night.

Still friends on social media? Isn’t this something for teenagers to do?

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Dude the trash took itself out.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Omg, I hope this woman doesn’t look back!

NP. Agreed! The OP is completely nuts.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd say that's all she wrote, bro.

Her toiletries are still here and we’re still friends on social media. She only collected the things she came with last night.

She can buy new toiletries. Bye.

Signed, better childless fool.

This is NOT the burn you think it is, clownshoes. She didn't even want him, you think she wanted to be saddled with his kids? FOH with that nonsense...

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Anonymous wrote:This has never happened before with us. We were arguing, and admittedly it got kind of heated. She had left to back home and get some things before we went out for the night and she came back. We got into an argument not too long after she got back/before we were going to go out. She went into the bedroom got her backpack, walked past me, put on her shoes and then left without a word.

We haven’t spoken today and she’s never walked out before….

You were arguing, there was time to cool off, you fired it back up again and she left...

Yeah, sounds smart to me! You played yourself, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change the locks while she's out and put her stuff on the lawn.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

If someone already asked you to dial it back, and you want to claim you're the mature one, you need to take that advice, cool off, and reconsider your strategy. You were probably butthurt over some stupid ish, acting a clown, got in your feelings and started acting agitated, and she, wisely, recognized the threat potential (especially when she asked you to back off and you didn't), and left your overheated ass where it belonged: along.

Your L, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

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Upset men can and do murder their female partners. It’s extremely likely OP intentionally intimidated her and thought she’d curl up into a pliable submissive ball.

Good for her for not. Nice to see women with standards.

This is Queen behavior. Love to see it. Accept no disrespect.