My girlfriend quietly collected her things and left without a word during an argument

[Anonymous]

You are 100% wrong. Good for her that she left. I hope she never speaks to you again.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

If a friend or partner said this to me in these words, I would walk out the door and never speak to them again. Very very disturbing language.

[Anonymous]

OP, send her this link and tell her you are working on yourself, then make it true.

But please give up on the toiletries and actually work on yourself.

You are terrible at arguing, involving yourself in something that doesn't affect you, yelling, calling her a liar and saying you hate her. In other words, if you are above the age of 12, you are not worth her time.

[Anonymous]

The title should be “I got broken up with”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

If a friend or partner said this to me in these words, I would walk out the door and never speak to them again. Very very disturbing language.

OP you’re awful. I’m glad your gf walked out. You are imature and can’t see the forest for they’re.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, bye.

I hope she stays away.

[Anonymous]

What did you do?

[Anonymous]

Based on your behavior, OP, she sounds smart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember this initial post about the drunk friend and thought OP was nuts. Good for the GF for getting away from this nonsense.

Same. I was too lazy to look for it though.

Your girlfriend did not lie in my book. She took good care of her friend in a situation that called for privacy. Both women are adults and she was essentially off duty. The mother was out of line calling her daughter’s friend, she should have trusted her daughter and had some patience.

You are an ass and do not deserve a single word in response.

It would have to be shampoo made from nuns tears and blessed by a honeybee shaman to be worth contacting you ever again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

A lot of domestic violence perps are women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

A lot of domestic violence perps are women

You bumped this thread to “not all men”? Gross dude.

[Anonymous]

Well, good for her! I wish I’d been there to applaud her strength.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

A lot of domestic violence perps are women

This statement is factually incorrect. While women can and do engage in domestic violence, they are far more likely to be the victims than the perps.

Deal with it, bro. Your side sucks, and this 'whatabout' is your L.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, good for her! I wish I’d been there to applaud her strength.

+1. In my brain, I imagine an entire village of women lining the sidewalk, clapping her out of her exit from her relationship with you.

What an extraordinarily smart, brave and self-possessed woman she must be to recognize your flavor of fu@#$ed up and move to get away from it instead of allowing herself to be drawn into analyzing and fixing it.

Bravo to her.

Please get yourself into therapy and fix yourself before you inflict yourself on other women again.

[Anonymous]

You lost someone who understands and respects discretion.
I don't understand why you would call someone a liar. If I thought someone was a liar and it went against my ethics, I would cool down on the relationship and let it wither to an end. There is nothing to be gained by calling someone unpleasant names because -
1) it won't change them
2) creates enmity
3) I don't want to be with someone who is willing to be abused like that