My girlfriend quietly collected her things and left without a word during an argument

[Anonymous]

I remember this initial post about the drunk friend and thought OP was nuts. Good for the GF for getting away from this nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

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What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

So, friend was in a safe place and fine? Where's the lie?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

So, friend was in a safe place and fine? Where's the lie?

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

I mean I guess arguing with online commenter instead of your girlfriend is less harmful but, dude. Even if you managed to convince people on this forum you were in the right (which you won't), that wouldn't make her come back.

"Well people on the internet said I was right" is never going to be a winning argument in a relationship.

Seriously, what's the motivation here? Are you bored and trolling?

[Anonymous]

Does anyone have a link to the earlier thread?

OP, the situation with the friend was (a) not your problem; (b) not your business, and (c) the stupidest thing to argue about in history. WHY would it matter to you that your GF, who is clearly a loyal friend, assured her friend’s mother that the friend was okay when she was taking care of her? You are very controlling and judgmental. Seek therapy or you will never be happy.

[Anonymous]

She thought you were being abusive , and she had to protect her peace

[Anonymous]

Good for her!

[Anonymous]

Op must be a very black and white thinker.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem with men getting angry at women is that women get scared violence may be coming. Men never worry that they'll get beat up or killed by a woman when they are in an argument with them.

OP, is it possible you made her feel unsafe?

Not a chance. I did get kind of heated and she told me to that I needed to bring it down and not yell. She didn’t leave until I told her she was a liar.

She's not coming back (at least she shouldn't). Also, you should consider talking to a professional about your anger issues. No one should be treated that way. Maybe it's how disagreement was modeled to you by adults in your life, but if so, you need to break that cycle. You simply do not ever "yell" at people.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

So, friend was in a safe place and fine? Where's the lie?

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

How old are you? You sound 15. You shouldn’t be dating a 34 year old woman at your age.

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Anonymous wrote:Op must be a very black and white thinker.

and a loser psycho.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

Did you read this at all?
The friend is 34 years old. What's her mom doing checking up on her?

She couldn’t get a hold of her that evening and she hadn’t made it back home yet (her own home)

So, friend was in a safe place and fine? Where's the lie?

Telling her mom that they were out on U street when they were home and the friend was drunk and throwing up, in addition saying she was fine when in fact, she was not.

It actually does sound fine to me. Home and throwing up isn't great but it’s fine in that she's not out lost wandering the streets in a blackout, she's in a safe place with her friend. That's fine for a 34 year old, nothing bad is going to happen besides her getting in bed and waking up with a bad hangover. "Fine" is more than appropriate for a nosy and overbearing mom.