Favoritism

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our coach chose a team captain.

The captain never scores and walks when forced to play defense.

The captain texts with the our coach.

Our coach won't respond to other players or other parents texts.

Everyone is pissed and looking for ways to get out.

Does captain have to score?

Be the team manager, that's how you win playing time for your child. If your coach has private lessons, sign your child up. This is very true with SYC.

this is the way…..

I must be doing something wrong as a team manager. Been manager for my son's team several times at different age group. Never got him any extra favors, seems like the opposite in that doesn't get picked for captain, selected for events or anything. Coaches would go out of the way to make sure it doesn't look like my son receives any favors.

Wow, you are a unicorn then. Our team manger got their son team captain and a position switch this year.

Maybe they deserved it. Our team managers son is captain but he's the best leader and a great kid. I don't see any special treatment that is undeserved.

Our coach does the favoritism game left and right. For whatever reason our team managers kid just isn't on his list. But, when you see her play she's solid. It's hard to watch when other players are walking.

One thing I've noticed is that it doesn't matter the level. When there's a lot of politics and favoritism happening on a team they're generally not playing very well as a team.

Correct, a lot of losing and awful team dynamics between players, coaches, parents. Etc. Keep report it them to the higher ups. Rarely someone at the same club will do something, they are just minions.

[Anonymous]

If the excluded kid is good, they'll find a spot elsewhere. Hopefully another parent doesn't mind stepping up and being the manager.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lost in this thread is that OP wants to report a coach with no knowledge of whether or not the coach is violating the rules and no suspicion that there’s any wrongdoing simply because she thinks Larlo isn’t getting as much playing time as she would like.

What a lunatic.

More likely than not, Larlo really isn’t that good and the coach is being reasonable and the parents are not being realistic about their kid’s ability - and treating him like he’s a 5 year old when everyone gets the exact same goody bag and not a young adult that’s going to need to learn how to overcome adversity anyway.

I feel for coaches in this era. Sheesh.

Teachers don't text students

Coaches shouldn't be texting players

I looked on the Safesport site and coaches texting 1on1 with players is a major red flag and something they look for when investigating coaches and clubs..

The coach that is trying to defend other coaches actions needs to get with the times.

Also the OP you're trying to acuse of not getting minutes clearly said that was was not an issue.

OP doesn’t know if it’s 1-1 or not. OP doesn’t suspect anything untoward.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP, are you bitter that your child is not getting playtime and now you want to ruin a coach's career?

Our coach runs 2 lines and changes players around between them all the time. The lines split each half 50/50. So it has nothing to do with minutes. The only thing to complain about is starts which my kid does most of the time.

I'm fine with a coaches career being ruined if they're texting children directly without parents involved in the exchanges.

If teachers in school were texting students at home without parents involvement they'd be fired. Why is coaching any different?

and its your fault for giving your child a phone. but you never will see it that way cause its never the parents fault. you know your child is texting the coach and yet your dumb @$$ comes onto this board to vent?

Wow, looks like we've outed the pedophile.

Hey coach my kid doesn't play for your team you have no power over me or my kid. Also I'm 6'4" and have no issues adjusting your teeth.

Hey idiot. How about teaching your child not to be a teacher's pet. HOw did the coach get their cell phone number in teh first place.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:To the OP, are you bitter that your child is not getting playtime and now you want to ruin a coach's career?

Our coach runs 2 lines and changes players around between them all the time. The lines split each half 50/50. So it has nothing to do with minutes. The only thing to complain about is starts which my kid does most of the time.

I'm fine with a coaches career being ruined if they're texting children directly without parents involved in the exchanges.

If teachers in school were texting students at home without parents involvement they'd be fired. Why is coaching any different?

and its your fault for giving your child a phone. but you never will see it that way cause its never the parents fault. you know your child is texting the coach and yet your dumb @$$ comes onto this board to vent?

Wow, looks like we've outed the pedophile.

Hey coach my kid doesn't play for your team you have no power over me or my kid. Also I'm 6'4" and have no issues adjusting your teeth.

Hey idiot. How about teaching your child not to be a teacher's pet. HOw did the coach get their cell phone number in teh first place.

Hey pedophile, the coach likely asked then kid for their number so they could text them. You seem to be implying that a child might give an adult their phone number and when this happens that it's the child's fault when an adult texts them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the OP, are you bitter that your child is not getting playtime and now you want to ruin a coach's career?

Our coach runs 2 lines and changes players around between them all the time. The lines split each half 50/50. So it has nothing to do with minutes. The only thing to complain about is starts which my kid does most of the time.

I'm fine with a coaches career being ruined if they're texting children directly without parents involved in the exchanges.

If teachers in school were texting students at home without parents involvement they'd be fired. Why is coaching any different?

and its your fault for giving your child a phone. but you never will see it that way cause its never the parents fault. you know your child is texting the coach and yet your dumb @$$ comes onto this board to vent?

Wow, looks like we've outed the pedophile.

Hey coach my kid doesn't play for your team you have no power over me or my kid. Also I'm 6'4" and have no issues adjusting your teeth.

Hey idiot. How about teaching your child not to be a teacher's pet. HOw did the coach get their cell phone number in teh first place.

Well, this guy is an idiot....

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

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Parents who talked to the coach a lot, delusional parents whose kids scored the goal because of being a ball hog, Kids who were uncoachable because of every mistake they made their parents on the sideline will say a good job! So that kid will never learn or try to improve anything.

Agree on all except the ball hog. Depends on the age, and depends on the team.

A good player on a crap team always looks like a ball hog. And at certain age groups, that team can look really good because of that 1 ball hog.

Said the ball hog’s parents!

Said the equipment manager’s parents

said the social media manager parent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

+1
Parents who talked to the coach a lot, delusional parents whose kids scored the goal because of being a ball hog, Kids who were uncoachable because of every mistake they made their parents on the sideline will say a good job! So that kid will never learn or try to improve anything.

Agree on all except the ball hog. Depends on the age, and depends on the team.

A good player on a crap team always looks like a ball hog. And at certain age groups, that team can look really good because of that 1 ball hog.

Said the ball hog’s parents!

Said the equipment manager’s parents

said the social media manager parent

Can the coaches/directors please stop posting? Disturbing....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our coach chose a team captain.

The captain never scores and walks when forced to play defense.

The captain texts with the our coach.

Our coach won't respond to other players or other parents texts.

Everyone is pissed and looking for ways to get out.

Does captain have to score?

Be the team manager, that's how you win playing time for your child. If your coach has private lessons, sign your child up. This is very true with SYC.

this is the way…..

I must be doing something wrong as a team manager. Been manager for my son's team several times at different age group. Never got him any extra favors, seems like the opposite in that doesn't get picked for captain, selected for events or anything. Coaches would go out of the way to make sure it doesn't look like my son receives any favors.

Wow, you are a unicorn then. Our team manger got their son team captain and a position switch this year.

as did our team manager on my DDs team.

This is the way

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our coach chose a team captain.

The captain never scores and walks when forced to play defense.

The captain texts with the our coach.

Our coach won't respond to other players or other parents texts.

Everyone is pissed and looking for ways to get out.

Does captain have to score?

Be the team manager, that's how you win playing time for your child. If your coach has private lessons, sign your child up. This is very true with SYC.

this is the way…..

I must be doing something wrong as a team manager. Been manager for my son's team several times at different age group. Never got him any extra favors, seems like the opposite in that doesn't get picked for captain, selected for events or anything. Coaches would go out of the way to make sure it doesn't look like my son receives any favors.

Wow, you are a unicorn then. Our team manger got their son team captain and a position switch this year.

Maybe they deserved it. Our team managers son is captain but he's the best leader and a great kid. I don't see any special treatment that is undeserved.

Our coach does the favoritism game left and right. For whatever reason our team managers kid just isn't on his list. But, when you see her play she's solid. It's hard to watch when other players are walking.

One thing I've noticed is that it doesn't matter the level. When there's a lot of politics and favoritism happening on a team they're generally not playing very well as a team.

agreed Our TMs kid was shown favoritism w one coach. And not so much with new coach as nee coach has nee coach focuses…. And when the politics hit max levels on this team they usually shyt the bed…

Sad to see…

[Anonymous]

Did you try filing a complaint with HR?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

+1
Parents who talked to the coach a lot, delusional parents whose kids scored the goal because of being a ball hog, Kids who were uncoachable because of every mistake they made their parents on the sideline will say a good job! So that kid will never learn or try to improve anything.

Agree on all except the ball hog. Depends on the age, and depends on the team.

A good player on a crap team always looks like a ball hog. And at certain age groups, that team can look really good because of that 1 ball hog.

Said the ball hog’s parents!

Said the equipment manager’s parents

said the social media manager parent

Can the coaches/directors please stop posting? Disturbing....

Said the club director’s parent…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you try filing a complaint with HR?

4 times. No one seems to care. What should I do next?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you try filing a complaint with HR?

4 times. No one seems to care. What should I do next?

In email? Is it discoverable?

[Anonymous]

Agree with this completely. Hasn’t done me any favors either. Actually coach is harder on my kid.

I must be doing something wrong as a team manager. Been manager for my son's team several times at different age group. Never got him any extra favors, seems like the opposite in that doesn't get picked for captain, selected for events or anything. Coaches would go out of the way to make sure it doesn't look like my son receives any favors.