Favoritism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

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Parents who talked to the coach a lot, delusional parents whose kids scored the goal because of being a ball hog, Kids who were uncoachable because of every mistake they made their parents on the sideline will say a good job! So that kid will never learn or try to improve anything.

[Anonymous]

My kid is the favorite for the first time in 8 years of club. Shows up for everything. Team player. Doesn't talk back, Works very hard. Is very consistent. Is a nice teammate--not a jerk. I have never met the coach, nor has my husband. My kid does not privately call or text with the coach--other than if he were to important something like --illness, going to be late due to a school event, etc.

He 'fits' the style of play. After being a literal scapegoat on one team with a Coach that only said negative and blamed him for everything---even when he wasn't on the field---not fkg joking--it's really nice to see him grow in this role.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is the favorite for the first time in 8 years of club. Shows up for everything. Team player. Doesn't talk back, Works very hard. Is very consistent. Is a nice teammate--not a jerk. I have never met the coach, nor has my husband. My kid does not privately call or text with the coach--other than if he were to important something like --illness, going to be late due to a school event, etc.

He 'fits' the style of play. After being a literal scapegoat on one team with a Coach that only said negative and blamed him for everything---even when he wasn't on the field---not fkg joking--it's really nice to see him grow in this role.

Total troll....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid is the favorite for the first time in 8 years of club. Shows up for everything. Team player. Doesn't talk back, Works very hard. Is very consistent. Is a nice teammate--not a jerk. I have never met the coach, nor has my husband. My kid does not privately call or text with the coach--other than if he were to important something like --illness, going to be late due to a school event, etc.

He 'fits' the style of play. After being a literal scapegoat on one team with a Coach that only said negative and blamed him for everything---even when he wasn't on the field---not fkg joking--it's really nice to see him grow in this role.

I've never seen a situation where favoritism to the best players that also happen to be the best people causes issues.

What I have seen is situations where favoritism becomes more and more obvious to the point where it's hard not to see or justify. When this happens people start wondering what is going on. It might be that the coach is just lazy and doesn't want to learn all the players names. It might be a mom giving the coach lube jobs in the back seat of her car. You never know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is the favorite for the first time in 8 years of club. Shows up for everything. Team player. Doesn't talk back, Works very hard. Is very consistent. Is a nice teammate--not a jerk. I have never met the coach, nor has my husband. My kid does not privately call or text with the coach--other than if he were to important something like --illness, going to be late due to a school event, etc.

He 'fits' the style of play. After being a literal scapegoat on one team with a Coach that only said negative and blamed him for everything---even when he wasn't on the field---not fkg joking--it's really nice to see him grow in this role.

I've never seen a situation where favoritism to the best players that also happen to be the best people causes issues.

What I have seen is situations where favoritism becomes more and more obvious to the point where it's hard not to see or justify. When this happens people start wondering what is going on. It might be that the coach is just lazy and doesn't want to learn all the players names. It might be a mom giving the coach lube jobs in the back seat of her car. You never know.

Ha! That is extreme, but who knows? In many cases, systemic issues such as hefty donations to certain clubs will make the monkey dance. I know it is upsetting coaches/directors here since they are replying nonstop. But it does happen and needs to be addressed 100%. Almost never is this favoritism performance-based. ALL can see it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid is the favorite for the first time in 8 years of club. Shows up for everything. Team player. Doesn't talk back, Works very hard. Is very consistent. Is a nice teammate--not a jerk. I have never met the coach, nor has my husband. My kid does not privately call or text with the coach--other than if he were to important something like --illness, going to be late due to a school event, etc.

He 'fits' the style of play. After being a literal scapegoat on one team with a Coach that only said negative and blamed him for everything---even when he wasn't on the field---not fkg joking--it's really nice to see him grow in this role.

I've never seen a situation where favoritism to the best players that also happen to be the best people causes issues.

What I have seen is situations where favoritism becomes more and more obvious to the point where it's hard not to see or justify. When this happens people start wondering what is going on. It might be that the coach is just lazy and doesn't want to learn all the players names. It might be a mom giving the coach lube jobs in the back seat of her car. You never know.

Ha! That is extreme, but who knows? In many cases, systemic issues such as hefty donations to certain clubs will make the monkey dance. I know it is upsetting coaches/directors here since they are replying nonstop. But it does happen and needs to be addressed 100%. Almost never is this favoritism performance-based. ALL can see it.

I would report to Safesport if I was able to 100% confirm that the coach is texting players individually without their parents included on the thread. But I can't so it's not going to happen. Hopefully the parents are aware of what's going on and they know that coaches or any teacher texting directly with a player or student is wrong and should be reported.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

Already looking around as are others.

Unfortunately my kid is either all out amazing or bla. There's no in-between. This makes tryouts difficult because top coaches identify the disparity quickly.

The club also keeps bringing in new grass is greener parents every week to tryout with our team. So far they've all clearly been second tier but eventually they're going to strike gold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

Many of the clubs will not care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

Already looking around as are others.

Unfortunately my kid is either all out amazing or bla. There's no in-between. This makes tryouts difficult because top coaches identify the disparity quickly.

The club also keeps bringing in new grass is greener parents every week to tryout with our team. So far they've all clearly been second tier but eventually they're going to strike gold.

I hear you, there’s no protection for the current families. If a player leaves before season ends, the leaving family has to pay its dues. On the other hand the abusing and ethic lacking club can bring new players, guest players or players from their b teams at any time. The guest player(s) takes the spot if a current one, is invited to showcases and even plays more that the actual player who signed an agreement at the beginning of the season.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

Already looking around as are others.

Unfortunately my kid is either all out amazing or bla. There's no in-between. This makes tryouts difficult because top coaches identify the disparity quickly.

The club also keeps bringing in new grass is greener parents every week to tryout with our team. So far they've all clearly been second tier but eventually they're going to strike gold.

I hear you, there’s no protection for the current families. If a player leaves before season ends, the leaving family has to pay its dues. On the other hand the abusing and ethic lacking club can bring new players, guest players or players from their b teams at any time. The guest player(s) takes the spot if a current one, is invited to showcases and even plays more that the actual player who signed an agreement at the beginning of the season.

Take the club to small claims court.

You'll win every time if you're only asking for the amount paid for services (coaching) that were not provided.

The club will say that you signed a contract and left early. This is when you bring out the laundry list of issues.

Most of the time the clubs won't even show up and you'll win by default.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

Already looking around as are others.

Unfortunately my kid is either all out amazing or bla. There's no in-between. This makes tryouts difficult because top coaches identify the disparity quickly.

The club also keeps bringing in new grass is greener parents every week to tryout with our team. So far they've all clearly been second tier but eventually they're going to strike gold.

i have a kid like just like this so let's be honest - it just means your DC (and mine) is not that good. Or at least not good enough to go somewhere better. Might be worth just sticking it out and making it a life lesson in how the world works.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away

It needs to be reported to the club. SafeSport is a total joke and will do nothing.

The coach doing this and the DOC are a unified front against parents. Reporting it won't do anything and likely will get my kid booted from their team. (Coach is vindictive)

A version of this happened to us, you have to leave the team. Youth soccer doesn't have whistleblower protections.

Already looking around as are others.

Unfortunately my kid is either all out amazing or bla. There's no in-between. This makes tryouts difficult because top coaches identify the disparity quickly.

The club also keeps bringing in new grass is greener parents every week to tryout with our team. So far they've all clearly been second tier but eventually they're going to strike gold.

I hear you, there’s no protection for the current families. If a player leaves before season ends, the leaving family has to pay its dues. On the other hand the abusing and ethic lacking club can bring new players, guest players or players from their b teams at any time. The guest player(s) takes the spot if a current one, is invited to showcases and even plays more that the actual player who signed an agreement at the beginning of the season.

Take the club to small claims court.

You'll win every time if you're only asking for the amount paid for services (coaching) that were not provided.

The club will say that you signed a contract and left early. This is when you bring out the laundry list of issues.

Most of the time the clubs won't even show up and you'll win by default.

The services were/are being provided, you chose not to attend the practices because you left. You may have a case if coach wasn't showing up to practice while you were there.