Favoritism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The context of any apparent favoritism is key. Many, many times the "favoritism" is just delusional parents who don't see that their kid is average to below average. They don't see that the kid playing over their kid works harder, is more coachable, and has a better attitude (but they don't score so they suck hahaha).

If there are inappropriate relationships and dynamics with the coach, then report it. If you just think your kid should play more than the other, then you better be damn sure that your kid brings more to the team before you open your mouth. If not, you will be on the club list as one of those parents.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How to deal with coach favoritism?

We don’t want to leave the team because this is a top team in a big club.

If your kid is playing top team, they can probably make the top team at another club. Tryout for different clubs. If you don't get a top team offer, you just have to deal with it. Coachedms will always have their favorite player on a team.

Being top team on one club doesn't equate to being on top team for another club. Look at Alexandria. They pick up all of SYC's second team players and play them on their top team. The result, you have a top team with second team results.

The problem with Alexandria is not the players. The issues are the coaches and the broken system behind closed doors. Though agreed, SYC has stronger teams across all ages.

Yes, toxic environment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Yes, report it.

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[Anonymous]

Favoritism exists everywhere. Teachers have favorites, bosses have favorites, parents, and yes coaches. Sometimes it’s just their subjective opinion and they see everything through their biased lens. Life is not fair sometimes. Once you realize you are in a bad situation the only remedy is to find a new coach and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How to deal with coach favoritism?

We don’t want to leave the team because this is a top team in a big club.

If your kid is playing top team, they can probably make the top team at another club. Tryout for different clubs. If you don't get a top team offer, you just have to deal with it. Coachedms will always have their favorite player on a team.

Being top team on one club doesn't equate to being on top team for another club. Look at Alexandria. They pick up all of SYC's second team players and play them on their top team. The result, you have a top team with second team results.

The problem with Alexandria is not the players. The issues are the coaches and the broken system behind closed doors. Though agreed, SYC has stronger teams across all ages.

It also happens with players, too. They are players who do not belong on the first team, but since they have been there forever (for obvious reasons), the teams suffer lousy performance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How to deal with coach favoritism?

We don’t want to leave the team because this is a top team in a big club.

You leave unless you know they aren't coaching next year. No club is going to force a coach to change how they are acting. Welcome to real life. Life isn't fair and you can't make a coach invest MORE in your kid. Their is normally a reason they have favorites and it isn't always money/nefarious reasons either

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Does the poster know that the parent isn't also on the text thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Does the poster know that the parent isn't also on the text thread?

OP did not state the age group. For U14 and above, it is common for players to text with the coach. This is part of growing up, sharing information, and advocating for themselves. If parents want to be included in the comms it is up to the family. OP did not say the texts between coach and captain were inappropriate, just that other players didn’t get returned msgs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Does the poster know that the parent isn't also on the text thread?

OP did not state the age group. For U14 and above, it is common for players to text with the coach. This is part of growing up, sharing information, and advocating for themselves. If parents want to be included in the comms it is up to the family. OP did not say the texts between coach and captain were inappropriate, just that other players didn’t get returned msgs.

I don’t know if it’s common or not, but it is 100% against SafeSport guidelines and a reportable offense. It doesn’t matter the age of the player, a coach cannot text 1-1 with a minor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Does the poster know that the parent isn't also on the text thread?

OP did not state the age group. For U14 and above, it is common for players to text with the coach. This is part of growing up, sharing information, and advocating for themselves. If parents want to be included in the comms it is up to the family. OP did not say the texts between coach and captain were inappropriate, just that other players didn’t get returned msgs.

I don’t know if it’s common or not, but it is 100% against SafeSport guidelines and a reportable offense. It doesn’t matter the age of the player, a coach cannot text 1-1 with a minor.

I'm the OP with the coach texting a player situation.

Reporting to safesport is an interesting option. The texting is happening with 2-3 players but not all. I'm not really concerned about anything inappropriate because that doesn't seem like what's going on. It's just pure favoritism and the coach being an arrogant ahole with everyone else. Texting between u14 girls and their coach is inappropriate he knows it they guys a HS teacher as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our coach chose a team captain.

The captain never scores and walks when forced to play defense.

The captain texts with the our coach.

Our coach won't respond to other players or other parents texts.

Everyone is pissed and looking for ways to get out.

This is a safe sport violation and cause for investigation. Report that here: https://safesport.i-sight.com/portal

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:An adult texting a child are red flags. Report to the authorities. That should solve your problem.

Does the poster know that the parent isn't also on the text thread?

OP did not state the age group. For U14 and above, it is common for players to text with the coach. This is part of growing up, sharing information, and advocating for themselves. If parents want to be included in the comms it is up to the family. OP did not say the texts between coach and captain were inappropriate, just that other players didn’t get returned msgs.

I don’t know if it’s common or not, but it is 100% against SafeSport guidelines and a reportable offense. It doesn’t matter the age of the player, a coach cannot text 1-1 with a minor.

I'm the OP with the coach texting a player situation.

Reporting to safesport is an interesting option. The texting is happening with 2-3 players but not all. I'm not really concerned about anything inappropriate because that doesn't seem like what's going on. It's just pure favoritism and the coach being an arrogant ahole with everyone else. Texting between u14 girls and their coach is inappropriate he knows it they guys a HS teacher as well.

This is big issue! Just Report the details!!! Coaches are not to text individual players!!! https://safesport.i-sight.com/portal

[Anonymous]

Don't ignore the flags; report, report, report. Bad coaches and clubs need to be taught a lesson.

[Anonymous]

Asked my kid more about the coach texting with players. Apparently there's two that he texts with. The parents of the kids texting with our coach are both ethically challenged so who knows what's really going on.

The only issue with reporting to safesport is that he might be texting with players with their parents included on the text thread.

Reguarding the captain that doesn't score and walks + doesn't play defense. Yes it's hard to watch and yes the players are starting to hate their captain because of it.

I'm sure everyone reading this thread has been in situations like this before. Seems like it's just a part of soccer.

[Anonymous]

yeah let's just blow up the coach's life without any facts (if the parents and/or multiple coaches are on the text then it's not a violation) and because he's showing favoritism to a handful of players and your kid isn't playing as much as you think they should be...justify away